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Regarding the issue of lazy bed, I usually first guide students or suggest parents to guide their children to think: Is this habit good or bad? What's good or what's bad? Or why is it good, why is it not?
Then, what kind of habit do you want to develop?
At this time, children usually want to develop the habit of working and working on time.
and then we will discuss together: Why is the work and rest better on time? Especially when waking up early, what is the meaning of waking up early? What exactly should be done after waking up early is really important, valuable, or wonderful things?
These questions have been sorted out thoroughly, and then we will discuss the action-level questions: How can we get rid of the bad habit of snoring and develop the good habit of getting up early on time? Do you need any help from your parents? …
If these problems are handled clearly, there is no doubt, but it is because of indulging in bad habits and laziness, and clearly do not want to be responsible to themselves, it is then emphasized that parents should temporarily take back their children's autonomy on this issue, and require children to listen to their parents' strict discipline and get up on time.
Previously, children could set their own schedule and get up at what time, and how to punish themselves if they violate it. If they fail to do more than three times a week, it means that the punishment method has not played much role. Parents should remind their children to improve the punishment method or increase the punishment intensity.
If you fail to solve this problem by yourself for a month, then parents will strictly discipline this issue. At what time to get up and how to punish them for violations, all of them will be determined by the parents. Children must listen. If the child violates or does not listen to parents' discipline, they must strictly punish them to correct them. It is best to be able to admit mistakes.
At the same time, from the very beginning, it is best for parents to play some appropriate, elegant, beautiful or inspiring music on a small speaker when their children get up, develop habits, form mechanisms, and naturally give their children more positive energy and high energy influence and motivation.
Of course, parents should also try to set a good example in this regard, which is ranked first among all methods.
This is gradually figured out through continuous practice, and it needs further improvement in continuous improvement.
Finally, if all these methods are tried hard and still have no effect, then let it go and don’t pay much attention to this matter.
In fact, parents should be better off looking at everything about educating their children in this way - try to be leniency and strict; try to provide the help that their children really need and that their parents can provide. In this way, it is enough to fulfill the responsibility of being a parent. Then you can let it go and leave it to fate.
At this time, you can solemnly tell your children: parents have fulfilled their responsibilities, and now it is time for you to be responsible for every thought, behavior, habit, and choice.
Of course, if you have any new ideas you think are suitable, you can try it again.
In other words, getting up early is not a big deal, and there should be no unified standards, regulations and practices. However, the autonomous management of , self-responsibility, and the ability to think and act in these details of life are closely related to the "heart" and deserve attention.
The three children in our elite class had the habit of being lazy in bed before. According to this method, after a period of practical attempts, most of the time now they can get up on time.
2022.10.25
