Many women are only children and have no experience of living with the elderly after marriage. They do not want to have strangers at home... For many realistic reasons, many expectant mothers want to know if they don’t want the elderly or the confinement nanny , can they be alone after giving birth to a child?
Hello everyone, I am lazy mother Qingchen. After I gave birth to my second child, I took two children to confinement alone for some reasons. I know very well how difficult and difficult it is to take care of my child to confinement! In real life, there are also people who have three children in confinement.
This young woman born in the 1995 already has three children, and she only takes three children to confinement, and the age difference between these three children is not big. He carried one on his back, one on his chest, and picked up the third brother in his hand. My husband is not here yet.
often the smallest one has not been coaxed yet, and the other one cried again. There is still a jealous situation between the eldest and the second. She is always busy every day, regardless of day or night. The child has not been prepared yet, and the other child is in need and has no time to rest. Therefore, during the confinement period, she also did all the housework such as cold water, going out, washing and cooking.
Although his husband has no car or house, he has to go to work every day. The so-called confinement is no different from that on weekdays. So this sister contracted all the big and small matters at home. Even if it was so hard, she felt very happy.
So whether one can take care of the child alone? Obviously, the answer for this post-95 mother is feasible. But many netizens couldn't stand it: they thought she was doing herself like this! Too hard and too tiring.
What are the conditions required for confinement alone
Many people do not want to be bound by the rules and regulations of confinement. Some people do not like to take care of their parents-in-law and do not take care of themselves or their own mothers, or do not want to ask for help, etc., so they want to take confinement alone, but they don’t know if it is feasible. In fact, although it is very hard to go through confinement alone, it is not impossible, it is just conditions.
1. You are in good health
If you want to go to confinement, you don’t need help from others. First of all, you must recover your body, be able to move, get out of bed, and be able to work.
is best for without tearing or lateral incision, so that you can get out of bed after giving birth, postpartum care is relatively easy and simple, and postpartum recovery is faster. Therefore, you must have good physical fitness on weekdays, pay attention to your weight and health during pregnancy to ensure a smooth and successful delivery.
I want to rely on myself during confinement, so first of all, you must be healthy, without any wounds, no inflammation or fatigue, be able to act independently, and be full of energy.
2. Know how to take care of newborns in daily life
In addition to taking care of yourself, you are more concerned about newborns during the confinement period. Therefore, it is particularly important to give birth to a healthy baby. Only mothers who have brought a sick baby know how difficult it will be when the baby is sick! If the child is born very healthy, then he will be half successful in his confinement.
A person needs to know how to take care of newborns during confinement. A healthy newborn is likely to eat and sleep. However, although only breastfeeding and sleeping are only allowed, it is not an easy task to change to a new mother who has never taken care of her newborn.
For example, breastfeeding: how to start milk, feeding posture, what to do if you vomit, how to feed the powder without milk, how to rinse the powder, etc., sleeping: when to sleep, what kind of sleeping posture to use, how much clothes to sleep, what to do if you cry during sleep, etc.... There are also many specific small things such as how to change diapers, how to take a bath, how to wash your butt, how to burp , etc. These things need to be understood as soon as possible and put into practice what they have learned.
During pregnancy, you should learn how to care for newborns. After the child is born, you should master the rules of the child as soon as possible, and adjust the care of the child according to your understanding of the child. The more you understand your child’s needs, the better you will be to raise your child.
In fact, even if someone helps you take care of your confinement period, mothers should take the initiative to learn how to take care of their newborns. After all, those who help will always leave one day. My own children still have to rely on his mother.
If you learn basic parenting knowledge in advance and add practical exercises, I believe that mothers will soon master the methods of taking care of their children.
Ways to learn parenting knowledge:
Classic parenting books: " American Pediatrics Association Parenting Encyclopedia ", " Cui Yutao Parenting Encyclopedia ", " Sears Intimate Parenting Encyclopedia ", etc.
Parenting Videos: Hospital science popularization, introduction of parenting bloggers, hospital parent school
combined books and word-of-mouth parenting principles passed down by relatives and friends, and summarized their own parenting theory.
3. Don’t care too much about housework
The last straw that crushes a woman is often tedious and specific housework. After having children, housework will increase a lot, and it takes time to wash clothes, cook, etc. But a person's energy and physical strength are limited. If you still need to take care of housework when raising children, it will really make you very tired. Therefore, when you are in confinement, you should revitalize housework into completeness and simplify the complex.
For example, you can prepare more clothes for children, so that even if they are dirty, you don’t need to rush to clean them. Using diapers for children can save the work of changing bed sheets and washing diapers frequently.
Don’t take care of housework when a person is in confinement. The bowls can be piled up and washed uniformly, the clothes can be washed uniformly by the washing machine, and the floor does not need to be dragged daily... The most important thing during confinement is to take care of yourself and your baby, and you can go back on all other things. Regardless of whether you are a person who is obsessed with cleanliness or not, you should do your housework during confinement within your ability and do not have to force yourself.
Except for not caring about housework, other family members should not care too much about housework. Otherwise, when you work hard to take care of your child, the saying "How is the mess at home? I don't know how to clean up" will make you so angry that you will get back to breastfeeding.
How to outsource housework:
Cleaning appliances: sweeping robot, dishwasher, washing machine, dryer, etc.
Other family members do it, please work at the hour.
4. Don’t worry about confinement meal , prepare simple and nutritious food
The diet during confinement is actually very important. Even if you are a person, the meal can be simple but nutritious.
You must never skip eating. Don’t starve yourself during confinement. If you starve, your milk will decrease. If your milk is reduced, your child will cry. Once your child cries, you will not be able to rest well. In this way, the child will not be so easy to take care of and it is easy to fall into a "death" cycle, which will make inexperienced mothers easily collapse.
For example, in the morning, the husband helps make a pot of stew, which is both meat and vegetable, so that even if the wife doesn’t cook, she can eat it for a day if she just needs to heat it. If you have time, you can make some side dishes by yourself. At home, you should prepare semi-finished ingredients such as dumplings, noodles, buns, steamed buns, and dry food such as bread and snacks in advance. When you are too busy, you can simply set the bottom line.
Diet
mainly consists of various stews and side dishes as supplements.
Semi-finished products: quick-frozen dumplings, buns, steamed buns, noodles, etc., frozen shrimps, meat, etc. Cut semi-finished dish in the supermarket.
can ask for hourly workers and takeout.
5. There is a reliable husband
Maternity leave is generally 7 days. In the past few days, the husband can do more housework and parenting work, so that his wife can take a good rest, then store grain, and do a good job in logistics.
After the husband comes back from get off work, he can help him take a bath and take care of the child, let the new mother relax, and do all the housework. This way my mother has time to rest.
Two people work together to divide the labor, so it will be much easier to raise children.
In fact, many people who have taken care of their children will find that it seems that they have nothing to do when hiring a confinement nanny during the confinement period, and everyone is relatively idle. In addition, today's parenting supplies are very complete, the work of parenting will be much easier. It is not particularly difficult to confine yourself, it is just a bit hard.
But as a person who has experienced it, I still hope that someone can help you. At least you can ask an hourly worker to help with hygiene and cooking, which can relieve the emotional stress and parenting workload of new mothers.Sometimes when we are women, we should not be too arrogant. When we should show weakness, we should show weakness. When men need to rely on it, we must rely on . There is no need to show off during confinement and be unable to get along with our own health.
written in the end
Life is like wearing shoes, only you know whether the shoes fit or not. Having money does not necessarily mean happiness, and hard work does not mean sadness. Children under the age of 6 need their mothers more, and the age interval between children is relatively small, so mothers will have to pay more.
There is a saying on the Internet that the greatest self-discipline of a woman is to have children. When we have children, we must do family planning work in advance, so that we are not only good to ourselves, but also responsible to our children.
I am a full-time mother, Qing Chen, and I have a pair of children who write articles while taking care of the children. Follow me to study scientific parenting, minimalist parenting, and be a happy mother.
