The content of the article is a self-report of an aunt when I accidentally chatted. She dictated it and I ghost-written it. I hope everyone can resonate with it! Thank you for meeting me!
As early as three years ago, my child was addicted to the game of King of Glory and became unwilling to make progress. His academic performance plummeted, and he kept making small and big mistakes. Whenever I receive a call from my teacher every day, I will be extremely frightened and almost to the edge of collapse. I will never be able to eat well or sleep well, and in the long run I will become depressed.
In today's society, there are many one-child families. They have their own unique sense of superiority. My parents doted on me, and my grandparents doted on me. Some children are so pampered that they forget themselves and lose themselves. embarked on a rebellious path.
The community where I live was built with collective funds raised by our company. Because I didn't have a chance to have a child in the early years, and I only got this child at an advanced age, you can imagine that I doted on this child.
As long as the children's requests are within the scope of their abilities, they usually respond to their requests and are almost unconditionally satisfied. So when the children reach the rebellious stage between the ages of 14 and 17, they play games all night and do not like to study. Their academic performance drops sharply and they repeatedly violate school rules. Being the subject of reflection by teachers and schools. Poor me, I shed tears all day long, but I can't win back this child's heart, which makes me depressed and miserable...
The reason for children's rebellion is not only the doting and improper education methods of our parents, but also the reason for children's rebellion. It has something to do with the child's psychological quality. Nowadays, the trend of comparison among only children is serious, and the conditions in the families of only children are generally better.
eats and uses it better, and wants to own what others have. Once his parents cannot meet his requirements, he will have other inappropriate thoughts and violate disciplines and laws.
Children's rebellion is a headache for many parents. In addition to reasonable psychological quality counseling, more importantly, they need to gain respect and care from parents, schools and society.
Don’t make a mistake as a child. Parents use beatings and scoldings to educate their children. If this method is used, the situation will be just the opposite. The children will become more rebellious and ignore their parents' punishment by confronting them, so that they get deeper and deeper into trouble and cannot extricate themselves.
For schools, when students make mistakes, most of them will always be bad children in the minds of teachers and will not be recognized by the teacher. Children are children after all. They are immature in thinking and do not know enough about society. Once they are led astray, the consequences will be serious.
Therefore, when children are rebellious, parents should not beat or scold their children. Schools and teachers should also give them due respect. They should not be considered hopeless and treat them with neglect and indifference whenever they make a mistake.
In fact, the hearts of children are also relatively fragile. They also want to change their ways, but no one can give them the opportunity to redeem themselves and change their ways.
If the whole society can come together to care about the growth and redemption of rebellious children, and allow them to receive psychological counseling and counseling early, they will definitely be able to get out of the shadow of the rebellious period.
Those educational concepts that use isolation and coercion are not advisable. It will make children more likely to distort their mentality due to strong control, and have the idea of breaking the pot and making mistakes again.
can only be rational and emotional until they have thoroughly figured out the root cause of their mistakes: "I'm addicted to games now and don't study well. What should I do in the future? What are the stakes in this." Anything. Only when you figure it out is your true salvation.
Parents and schools can only give them more warmth and care. If all rebellious children could be better cared for and redeemed by society, they would be given a chance to turn over a new leaf. Perhaps children who have reversed their rebellious period will definitely reposition their lives, start over, and achieve a different life after their imaginations are opened.
This is a real case. A rebellious child became less rebellious after receiving formal psychological counseling, and things are slowly developing in a good direction.
No matter how old a child is, they will always be a treasure in the palm of their parents' hands. Parents will never abandon their children. Because they (she) believe that children will grow up one day and become mature and sensible.
Only the life that has experienced the ravages of wind and rain is the most perfect life. I believe that all rebellious children can slowly change under regular psychological counseling until they are no longer rebellious and become better, and become the great version of themselves in the hearts of their parents.
time it is the best inspector, the future is promising!
