Grandpa’s family has six children, five boys and one girl. My father is the fourth eldest, and he is also the middle child, the kind who has fallen out of favor. It seems that he has never been favored, so there is no talk of losing favor. Anyway, in the family and in the mother's heart, this child is neither the eldest nor the youngest, and the degree of love is always limited. Whether you admit it or not, the mother's preference for a certain child is innate. . The youngest person generally has a higher probability of being favored, and his father's family is no exception. Maybe his parents think that he will always be the youngest and should receive more care.
My father told me that when they were little, their stomachs were not full, but their youngest son could eat white steamed buns dipped in chili oil. Although the other brothers knew that he ate it secretly, they kept it secret for fear of exposing them to others. He cried and had to be scolded by his parents. Several children, including his younger sister, knew that their parents preferred the fifth child, and no one was jealous or upset. People of that era knew how to share and were very honest.
With the love of his family and the blessing of God, the fifth child is also the best in the family, because after the eldest brother and the third child died of cancer earlier, there were only four children left in the family. Due to the early death of their son, the personalities of the grandparents gradually changed. They used to love talking and laughing, but suddenly they became silent. Grandpa became even more depressed, drinking and narcotic all day long. When he was just 70 years old, he suffered from cerebral hemorrhage. After that, his body began to lose control. At that time, my grandmother was already too old to take care of him independently, so her sons took turns taking care of him. However, due to the seriousness of his condition, he died soon after.
After grandpa passed away, grandma was the only one left in her hometown. Her children were no longer around, and her wife also left in a hurry. You can imagine her emotions, and her forgetfulness became worse and worse. Soon she didn’t even recognize her only daughter, but But she always remembers her fifth child and often talks about him. I don’t know if this happens to everyone. My mother misses her forever and doesn’t care about those around her. This is the case with grandma's family, and the same is true with grandma's family. The children they miss so much are not around when they close their eyes for the last time, and they are all the youngest sons.
Grandma was confused for five or six years. During this period, the third, fourth and sixth children took turns taking care of her. The third and sixth children were around, making it easier to take care of her. My dad was also the fourth child. We lived in Heilongjiang. , since then my father has to go back to Shandong for a few months every year. I wonder if grandma has been depressed for too long in her life. She lost her memory and became very irritable. One time, she suspected that her father had stolen her money, so her grandma kicked him out in the middle of the night and locked the door, so her father stayed outside all night. He was afraid that if she left, something would happen to her, which would be terrible. .
When grandma passed away, she forgot everything, but she still missed Lao Wu. Lao Wu could not come back to take care of her due to various reasons such as health, and the people who cared for her had no memory. She would go to the gate to visit her every day. Let’s see if Lao Wu’s car comes back, see if Lao Wu will give herself a surprise, and see if what happened in the memory left in her heart will happen again...
[Rose] Highlights from the past issues:
- Go home The road spans spring and winter
- My father is an ordinary and ordinary Hegang coal miner
- Shandong is a province rich in folk customs, especially filial piety
- My home is in Hegang, but I have been in Xi'an for 17 years , it seems that he is not from Xi'an.
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