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1. Mistakes are the way to self-improvement
Just record your mistakes truthfully, and it is likely to improve your performance immediately.
What people fear most is ignorance.
Write down the mistakes that I often make one by one, without any evaluation, just as calm as a bystander.
See when you say something wrong, when you do something wrong, when you lose peace, and under what circumstances repeat mistakes.
As long as you record it objectively, the self-improvement methods that you have contemplated will be clearly in front of you.
I will never make this mistake again, and I will try another solution next time I repeat it.
Just change so calmly and calmly. It is not guilty to involve emotions.
Participating in change with consciousness is the most labor-saving way to climb.
2. Games help children express attacks and reduce the damage caused by attacks
We often say,The child "vents hatred and aggressiveness" in the game, as if aggressiveness is a bad thing that can be removed.
This is partly true, because the product of the accumulated resentment and anger experience, it does feel like a bad thing in the body of the child.
But more importantly, we should express the same thing like this:
What children value is that they can express this hatred or aggressive impulse in a familiar environment, but the environment (mother and dad) will not Revenge the child with hatred and violence.
From the child’s feelings, a good environment should be able to tolerate his aggressive feelings expressed in acceptable forms.
We must admit the existence of aggression, it is in the child's nature, If the existence of aggression is hidden and denied, the child feels dishonesty.
But aggression inevitably carries real or imagined harm to someone, so that children must also face and deal with this complex problem.
To some extent, this problem has been fundamentally solved, because children can express their aggressive feelings in the form of games in accordance with certain rules.
—— "Mother’s Mind Lesson"
To sum up, it is: aggression exists in the child’s nature,The game provides a suitable environment and soil, allowing children to express aggression and solve the damage caused by the attack.
3. Many parents have never learned to add cold water in their entire lives
Children shout hot in the bath.
Parent A touches the temperature of the water, "It's not hot."
Parent B touches the temperature of the water, "Okay, I'll add some cold water to you."
Deny the child's feelings.
It's easy to say, many parents never learn it for a lifetime.
4. Adults do not persuade others, and do not give suggestions
The suggestions delivered to the door are not worth money and are not thankful.
Even if someone picks you up, you will have to find a ladder to roll down.
The person you can change, he will try to follow up when you say something.
On the other hand, the person who will not change, if you have a knife on your neck, it will not change anything.
Adults who do not persuade people, give advice, do not do ideological work, and delete the words "worse-mouthed" from life will not be greasy.
①Do you really have any tricks?
②People may not understand,It's just not possible.
③If I didn't do it, I was still embarrassed and affected the relationship. I owed favors in a vague way, and I was so tired.
④You don't always speak, but you can still listen to a few sentences (not more than 200 words) occasionally, like this one.
Be yourself.
are all adults, don't be a mentor, don't carry other people's burdens.
5, patience
The word "patient" should be used throughout everything: 5 strong2 span0
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patiently resists everything that deviates from his goal,
patiently endures everything that frustrates an ordinary person.
-" natural history " cloth seal
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