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_p11span. For example, when a person asks "what have you learned from this incident", it can be either a reproach mentality or a sympathetic mentality, which corresponds to an atmosphere of alienation and hostility, or an atmosphere of closeness and trust.
The tone of our speech is often the best way to express the feeling behind the words. For example, the child spills water on the table. The solution and the ultimate goal should be to let the TA wipe the water clean and be careful in the future .
If this time, the adults said: You got the table wet, should you deal with this matter? This kind of statement that attracts the children's attention can attract the children's attention more than direct requests. At the same time, it also involves the children with a respectful attitude. The children can also feel that they have the ability to handle this matter well.
If adults do not say that, but complain about "Why are you so stupid, clean up immediately", it is likely to cause resistance and rebellion from children.
In view of the importance of consciousness, it is necessary for us to understand the nature of things, so that we can have the correct consciousness and appropriate words and deeds.
first ,We should understand that children are emotional people, not robots. They are just like us in other respects except for their lack of mind and experience.
People's behavior depends on the social environment in which they live. Children are also making various decisions all the time and forming beliefs about themselves and the world. Sometimes children are just for recognition, but in our opinion it is bad behavior.
Second , all behaviors have a purpose, but children lack the ability to achieve their goals, which leads to our view that many of their behaviors are clumsy or even It runs counter to the goal. They will not reflect if they fail to achieve the goal, but will only intensify, thus forming a vicious circle.
Third The children’s desire to seek value and belonging is stronger than we are. Sometimes they are annoying, but they have wrong ideas under the control of this willingness.
fourth , the child’s misbehavior is probably because the TA has lost confidence and the child cannot fully realize this disorderly behavior, but the adult is responsible for cracking this behavior code. In order to find the right way to help the child, rather than stressful scolding.
Once the child feels that he is understood,It will communicate with adults in a cooperative manner, and then form a virtuous circle.
fifth , responsibility is an indispensable item of a healthy personality, if adults play the role of "super parents", it actually deprives children of their own experience to develop their own abilities and Opportunities for faith, and once there is no sense of responsibility, children will think that the world should serve them, and if they can’t get their wish, they will complain about the injustice of the world.
sixth , equality does not mean the same, but respect and understanding. We should abandon the unequal treatment of children because of insufficient experience and knowledge of children.
seventh , making mistakes is an opportunity to learn. Mistakes are not the most terrible. We should admit, accept, and resolve mistakes instead of resisting and avoiding them.
eighth , let the children know that you love TA, not as simple as we think, we are used to using restraint, blame and other methods to care for the children in our hearts, but in reality children need It is the accurate communication of your communication and inner thoughts.
above 8 points,It is a concept and a principle, which helps us understand human behavior and form the correct attitudes and methods required for discipline.
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