"A sunny and happy child is a self-directed child. He has the ability to face various difficulties in life and find his place in society."
1. Train children to be alone Ability
Psychologists say that security is not a sense of dependence. If a child needs enthusiastic and stable emotional connections, he also needs to learn to be alone, such as allowing him to stay in a safe room.
A child's sense of security does not necessarily require his parents to be present at all times. Even if he cannot see you, he will know that you are there in his heart.
Experts say that adults need to "respond" to children's various needs instead of "satisfying" everything.
2. There must be a degree to satisfy the child
It is necessary to set some limits artificially, and cannot unconditionally meet the requirements of the child.
"Another prerequisite for being happy is that the child can bear the inevitable setbacks and disappointments in life."
"Only when the child understands a truth, that is, it does not depend on his desire to obtain something , But depends on his ability, he can get the inner fullness and happiness."
The earlier the child understands this truth, the less pain he will have.
Do not always satisfy your child's wishes in the first place. The correct approach is to delay. For example, if the child is hungry, let him wait a few minutes.
Don't succumb to all the demands of your child.
Rejecting some requests from the child will help him gain peace of mind.
Accepting this "unsatisfactory reality" training in the family will make the child have enough psychological endurance to face the setbacks in future life.
3. Cold treatment when the child is angry
If the child is angry, the first way is to divert his attention, which is to find a way to get him to get angry in his room.Without the audience, he himself would slowly calm down.
Appropriate punishment, and follow through to the end.
In addition, when you say "no", don't say no dryly, but explain to your child why it doesn't work.
Even if the child does not understand, he can understand your patience and respect for him; parents must agree, not one to say yes, the other to say no; while prohibiting one thing, you can do another thing for him freedom of.
4. Face his shortcomings
If the child is different from other children, such as the child is too fat, the ear shape is problematic, or the personality and behavior are extreme, parents must not deny these facts.
is actively discussing with him, looking for a solution, or accepting reality.
In this regard, finding an expert is the best way, because children usually take the words of experts (such as doctors) seriously.
5. Criticize, not to the person who is wrong
Criticize the child to justify the matter.
For example, if a child breaks his mother’s jewelry: it’s right to say: “Look, if you play something you don’t have the right to play, something like this will happen.” It’s wrong to say: “You too It’s broken, how can you break my jewelry? You deliberately didn’t let my mother wear it!" Deny the character of the child.
The second sentence defines the child's character, makes him very frustrated, and dampens his self-confidence to be a good child.
6. Let him do it
Let the child do what he can do early, and he will do things more proactively in the future.
Don't overdo things for your child, speak for your child, make decisions for your child, think about it, maybe your child can do it by yourself before you go over.
Don’t say: "You can’t do it, you can’t do this!"
Sometimes adults forbid children from doing certain things,Just because "he didn't do it."
If things are not dangerous, let them go and let them try.
7. Let children open their hearts
Communicating with others is the ability, and speaking out the thoughts in the heart is even more an ability.
Happiness is an ability that allows him to see the good and positive aspects of life.
You can face the bad things positively.
say more positive words: "We are so happy together, aren't we?" "We are so lucky!" "Don't be sad, we will do better next time."
So, at this time, we must not think Children are just children and they are fickle. Don't think that they will be good when they grow up. In fact, the gloom has already appeared in this family seriously. Without restraint and guidance, growing up will only become more serious and terrifying.
8. Emphasize what you get and know how to love
Family friendship, sensory enjoyment, strengthen these "acquisitions", let him know that he is enjoying when he enjoys.
strengthened his understanding: I have a lot, and the things I have are precious.
must let him know that these relatives treat him well, it is not necessary, not necessary, no one in this world owes anyone, the love to him is the responsibility of adults, he must know how to be grateful.
There is no sit-down in this world. He must understand that what his parents gave him is not necessary, not habit, but love.
9. Must know how to respect others
No matter what the identity of the parent, no matter what the identity of the people around, it is necessary for the child to know how to respect others, there is no difference in identity.
may be a friend of dad, maybe a colleague of mom, maybe dad’s driver, maybe a guard at the school gate, etc. Those who have no blood relationship with him, he must be grateful for his giving.
Source: Beijiang Parent School
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