Text/Xiao Xue’s mother
The new generation of young parents with children is indeed very different from the older generation. From methods to habits, it can be said that there are completely two different styles.
Elderly people like to take care of their children by themselves. If they can't let their children do it, they won't let their children do it, but the young parents born in the 90s are different. Children who are able to do it will be lazy if they can.
The lazier the mother, the more independent the child
In our eyes, our parents seem to have almost never slept in, and they always get up just after dawn, but the generation of parents born in the 90s , Sleeping in is no longer a privilege for children.
I saw a video of a mom on the Internet, and recorded the daily life with her baby through the lens. It can be seen from the video that after nine o'clock in the evening, 's mother did not urge or persecute, she was lying on the bed and playing with her mobile phone , And three or four-year-old children are so behaved that they fell asleep.
After the child fell asleep, the mother's free time came. First, the order of takeaway arrived, and got up to get the takeaway. The result was a little more dynamic and the child woke up, so he stayed with the child for another five minutes, and the child again Fell asleep peacefully.
As soon as I sleep at 8 o'clock in the morning, the child wakes up from sleep, but the mother is already asleep, and the child is quiet and does not make annoyance with the mother, as if already used to this situation, he picked up the book on the table obediently Looked at it.
It turned out that I didn’t wait for my mother to wake up, but when my father was about to go to work, he came over and found that the child was awake, so he took the child to wash and eat breakfast, and the mother was still sleeping soundly, I have to say this mother His life with a baby is too "Buddha".
"Lazy" does not mean irresponsible, but will choose
Many people think that "lazy" is not a good word, it means irresponsibility, in the original mother is too lazy,It can be said that it is irresponsible for a family, , but the lazy mother of the post-90s belongs to the management of the management, let it go when it is time to let it go.
From the time the child is older, grandma may feel distressed for the child, and continue to feed the child one spoon after another. As a result, when the child is in kindergarten, the child still does not use spoons and chopsticks well, and the food is always the same. Big problem.
But when I get to my mother, the little hands have the power to try to eat with a spoon by themselves. My mother never has much hands. Even if the clothes are everywhere, she washes clothes a few times at best, but the child has mastered a life skill. This belongs to the mother being lazy, but the child has taken the first step of independence.
From laziness in life skills to laziness in life attitude, mother's laziness is not to ignore it, but to exercise children's self-care ability and teach them to do their own things.
Mothers do not necessarily have to be "nanny" and "superman", mothers should also have their own feelings, unhappy bitterness, happy smile, children can feel the truest state of mother, parent-child relationship will be stronger .
The “lazier” the mother is in the following things, the more independent the child is
First, I am too lazy to help the child organize toys
The children play with their own toys, making it all over the place. If parents always pick it up behind their children, it will be difficult for the children to learn to pack things by themselves, and they will always wait for their parents to finish them off.
But if the mother is too lazy to pack the toys for the child and let the child do it by himself, has the first experience, and the mother praises and encourages in time, the child will have the satisfaction of the second hands-on, so "lazy" is also Be skilled.
encourage children to do it themselves,Not only can they develop a good habit of organizing things, but also enhance their self-confidence, which is of great help to the child's growth.
Second, I’m too lazy to help my child organize schoolbags
When the child goes to school, parents will teach their children to pack their schoolbags. This stage is mainly to cultivate the children’s sense of responsibility, do their own things, and make mistakes. Take responsibility for yourself.
Although packing school bags is a trivial matter, , but behind it is the child’s responsibility and sense of responsibility. If parents care about everything for their children, the children themselves will not feel it, and don’t care. On the contrary, with a sense of honor and frustration, he will initially build up his self-esteem.
Third, I don’t bother to take care of everything about the child
When the child is older, the parents are too lazy to help the child manage everything, similar to many things in life, if you can leave it to the child, don’t do it yourself, like washing dishes and clothes. , And let the child do it appropriately, not only to teach the child how to live, but more importantly, to give the child the opportunity to exercise.
As parents, we can’t control our children for life, let go at the right time and exercise their own abilities. Parents can not only breathe a sigh of relief, but children can also get full development and become An independent person.
I am Xiaoxue’s mother, a post-90s mother, follow me and share scientific knowledge of parenting every day!
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