Psychologist: Ten underlying thoughts of family education (recommended collection)
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Children are born with the ability to learn and love. What parents need to do is to respect their children's nature and inner thoughts, provide them with a warm and comfortable environment for their growth, and not frequently intrude on their children's lives.
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In many cases, it is the parents' education that goes against the child's nature, excessive pampering, over-protection or over-control, which leads to children's psychological problems.
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Why are children not confident? Most of them are caused by obstacles in their early development and parents doing too much, depriving children of the opportunity to do things independently.
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In the process of family education, the blind pursuit of academic performance is very superficial. The goal of a child's growth should not be a fully filled brain, but a well-developed brain with multiple powerful behavioral abilities (working memory, cognitive flexibility, inhibition ability).
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When children have psychological problems, parents must first ensure that they will not cause harm to their children before "correcting them" - they will not cause "secondary harm" to the child's psychology because of parents' overly simple, crude, quick-turnaround, and wrong "correction" methods.
Psychologist: Ten underlying thoughts of family education (recommended collection)
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Parents must change first, and then children can change. "We must first accept something before we can change it. Condemnation cannot free us from the trouble, it will only make it worse." ( Jung )
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Always pay positive attention to children. "As parents, we should give our children unconditional positive attention. We should not use our own standards as the conditions for paying attention to our children." (Rogers) "Love is an active concern for the life and growth of the loved object. If there is a lack of such active concern, there is no love." ( Fromm )
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Seeing the advantages of children will help to change their shortcomings. "The sign of qualified teachers and parents: discover the child's strengths and tell him where he can do well. The sign of unqualified teachers and parents: discover the child's shortcomings and tell him where he can't." ( Zheng Yuanjie )
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The role model of parents is more effective than any preaching. "Children will never become what you want them to be, they will only become what you want them to be." (Li Xigui)
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Love is the most important and final method. "There is no doubt that the love of parents determines the quality of family education. Education full of love brings luck, while education lacking love can only lead to misfortune." (" The Road Less Traveled ") "A child who is especially loved by his mother is full of the courage to be a conqueror throughout his life. This kind of successful self-confidence can often lead to real success." ( Freud)
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