There is a short video on the Internet called "Are you satisfied with yourself? 》 mainly discusses one of the issues in: If you can change any point in yourself, what is your choice? The 50 people interviewed all expressed their wishes without exception, but they were actually what they thought were defective in their bodies.
Although it is just a seemingly simple topic, it is seen by people. Many people don’t like themselves and lack self-confidence. It is precisely because of my lack of confidence that I have made my life a mess.
How to reshape yourself and live a beautiful life, you must read this book - "From Living to Better Live". This is written by Richard Taple, the best-selling British author. The book provides guidance from all aspects of life and gives 100 rules. Among them, there are three rules on the topic of self-confidence that are particularly practical, which can help us improve our self-confidence and gain a sense of happiness.
First trick: What is important is what I think, not what others think.
We often fall into inferiority or anxiety because we care about others' judgments on ourselves.
For example, in the workplace, occasionally you start to doubt your abilities because you have not completed the work assigned by the department leader on time and in quality. When your colleagues point fingers at you, you feel troubled, painful and uneasy. Over time, I become inferior.
Instead of paying attention to others’ evaluations and opinions about yourself, it is better to take action to change yourself. Because what is important is not what others think, but what you think. Don’t let others judge and control your feelings. I will make the decision on my own emotions.
No one will pay for your life, and no one will be responsible for your feelings. Ignore those judgments, even if we do not meet expectations, we can improve ourselves in other ways.
Don’t let others judge, as it will affect your true evaluation of yourself.
Second trick: The important thing is to know yourself, not to underestimate yourself.
There are three stone tablets in the courtyard of the ancient Greek temple. The first stone tablet is engraved with "gnothe seaauton". In Chinese, it is to know yourself.
It is easy to know yourself, but it is difficult to do. Some people even superficially think: Who doesn’t know themselves?
But in fact, we often cannot truly know ourselves. What do you need? What kind of person are you? Understand your true self and be responsible for your actions. This requires faith. Once a person has faith, he will persist and have firm beliefs. Even if the result is not as good as he wishes, he will insist on being the true self.
Understand yourself, firm your beliefs, and stick to your own opinions. This is more important than anything else.
The third trick: The important thing is to accept yourself, not please others.
Everyone has advantages and disadvantages. We cannot be perfect, so don't be because we have shortcomings: we are not very good-looking, have a bit of a bad temper, and are easily addicted to a certain emotion... We must learn to get along with this imperfect self, accompany, cherish and appreciate him.
You will be surprised to find that you cannot get rid of this person, and this person is yourself.
Look at yourself calmly, accept yourself, list your strengths and turn them into a list. Start accepting and appreciating yourself from your own strengths. Rejoice in every change of oneself, there is no perfection, only better.
Try to like yourself who has been working hard. From now on, you will become more and more confident. Then you will find that you are not just alive, but can feel the beauty of life.
A confident person will not deny himself because of other people's eyes;
A confident person will not stop working hard because of others' judgment;
A confident person will not give up his belief because of others' cold words.
Because of confidence, we not only feel the existence of life, but also will be happy that we live such a beautiful life!
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