Speaking of the most advanced compliments to a person, "slackening" may be one of them. The word
comes from a scene shared by a netizen on a social platform: a woman takes her whole family out for a trip and encounters emergencies such as expired children's ID and need to be checked again. Onlookers guessed that they would be irritable, but they did not expect that the family did not have conflicts or quarrels, but calmly re-arranged and easily solved a problem that outsiders seemed very troublesome. After the post of
0 was posted, the netizens sighed: "It turns out that there is such a loose family in the world!"
How to develop a "slack feeling"? " Life Times " (Search "LT0385" in WeChat to follow) invites psychological experts to interpret and teaches you to be an adult with an emotional stability.
interviewed experts
6 Professor of Applied Psychology, Department of Psychology, Southwest University, Tang Yonglong
Associate Professor of Psychology, Southern Medical University, Yang Xueling
6 Doctor of Psychology, Beijing Normal University, Guo Runfeng
Why is the feeling of relaxation sought after?
The so-called "slackening" does not mean being big-hearted or lazy, but more about finding one's own order in a cumbersome and busy life.
"Many people have lost this state for a long time." Tang Yonglong, professor of the Department of Applied Psychology, the Department of Psychology of Southwest University, said that the feeling of relaxation is in sharp contrast to the state of anxiety, anxiety and tension in society. The relaxed, quiet and peaceful state seems to be getting further and further away from people.
From the perspective of neural theory, "sagging" is a psychological state of active ventral vagus nerve. In this state, individuals feel safe and connect with others, and experience positive feelings such as hope and flexibility.
In the fast-paced real life, adults are busy every day. The busy overtime and trivial life make it difficult to relax. The nerves are tense every day, and even "jump" at a touch.
3 steps to "relax" yourself
Many people believe that the feeling of relaxation is not a state that ordinary people can achieve. Only with money and leisure can you reach such a state.
In fact, "relaxation" is more of an inherent quality. An optimistic and stable emotional state may be an essential element of relaxation.
From a psychological point of view, this type of people have a high tolerance and can still deal with it calmly even if the outside world does not develop as expected.
These qualities and abilities do not come entirely from material confidence, and most people can try to be such a person.
remind yourself to slow down
When facing external language attacks, emergencies , and do not respond in a hurry or even resist, and remind yourself to slow down , especially not act impulsively.
Actively view the challenge
The ability to "not be surprised when changes" is trained. If you deal with difficulties more often, summarize your experience from a positive perspective, and you will be able to deal with it easily in the future.
Reasonable planning of life
Indifference and supreme ambition are not truly "calm". Prepare and plan in advance, and people with a sense of control in life will be more likely to relax.
Try not to be chased by life and work, reduce the "must have to" and be more "prepared for trouble".
Be an emotionally stable adult
What is the sign of a person's maturity? The answer given by psychologists is: learn to manage your emotions.
Many times we cannot avoid being angry and nervous... True emotional management is not about venting casually, nor about enduring it again and again, but about finding the right outlet.
Anxiety
Make yourself feel more controlled
Anxiety comes from the loss of a "sense of control". If life is always disordered, emotions are prone to recurring.
People with anxiety tend to develop regular work and life routines, effectively manage time, and make themselves more organized and calm.
Sad
Cry in time
When you feel sad and painful, don't hold it in your heart, cry out.
A big cry helps release sadness. Tears will take away stress hormones in the body, reduce stress-related neurotransmitters, and are also a good medicine for mental health.
anger
Learn to express
Once you feel your anger emerging, it is best to take the opportunity to leave and let yourself relax and calm down first. After being angry, you should clearly express your inner thoughts and needs to the other party, and try to avoid using a critical and accusing tone.
Some anger is difficult to express and vent on the spot. The anger and pressure accumulated in normal times should be cleared regularly.
Lonely
Responsibly get out of the closed
For those who are afraid of dealing with others, the key is to bravely get out of the closed state.
More talk to relatives and friends on the phone or meet to exchange life or emotions; actively participate in industry exchanges or conduct charity activities can also enhance social interaction and gain a sense of fulfillment.
Finding the rhythm that makes you feel comfortable is the real "sagging feeling". Whether it is life or work, I hope everyone can have a free mind and live a relaxed life. ▲
Source: Life Times
