My daughter is in the sixth grade this year, and I found that her words, behavior, hobbies and psychology have changed significantly compared with the previous one. In fact, the change began in the fifth grade, but the change in the sixth grade was even greater.
Before fifth grade, her daughter chattered and jumped all day long. When she encountered happy and unhappy things at school, she would take the initiative to share with her parents, grandparents, and accompany the adults to climb mountains and walk on Saturdays and Sundays, which was simply the "pistachio" of the family. During the summer and winter vacations, I will follow me on business trips across the country, and I am full of curiosity about the outside world.
When he was in the fifth grade, his daughter became much more quiet. She liked to stay in the room and read books alone, listen to music on the bed, and chat with classmates with her phone and watch. She often used adults' mobile phones to watch short videos and play games, which caused her vision to decrease, which made adults feel brain-wracking.
I am fully prepared for my daughter’s changes. Because children around 10 years old began to go from concrete figurative thinking to abstract logical thinking, their "self" consciousness gradually increased, they began to pursue independence, and were unwilling to obey the arrangements of adults in everything, hoping to have their own private space and time. Sometimes, in order to show their "personality", they deliberately "bitch" with adults. In fact, they understand the truth in their hearts and admit their mistakes afterwards.
As the saying goes: It is easy to know and difficult to do. Although I know the psychological characteristics of children, I absolutely do not allow children to play with their mobile phones. There were several times when my daughter was severely criticized by me when she played with her mobile phone. She was not convinced and argued fiercely with me. The two sides parted ways unhappily.
After summarizing and thinking, I realized that "head-on-head" is destined to be both sides, and we must "super hardness with softness", "success with reason", and "combining unblocking". So, I talked to my daughter alone many times to illustrate the severity of the harm of the mobile phone and also listed many examples. My daughter gradually understood and accepted my opinion, and the frequency and duration of looking at the phone were greatly reduced.
Two weeks before the National Day holiday, I took a long-distance train to Northeast China for a business trip. On the train, I recalled every bit of communication with my daughter in recent times, and had a little insight. I felt that my communication with my daughter was still not enough, focusing on "blocking" but rather on "sparing". Sometimes my attitude is too tough and needs to be improved and improved. So I wrote a letter to my daughter, which was roughly as follows:
Time flies so fast, and in a blink of an eye you are already in the sixth grade. I have noticed your changes since the fifth grade. I have communicated with you several times about your changes and I have also seen you improve. I will write to you now and express my opinions to you again, hoping that you can pay attention to it.
I agree with you reading, but it is recommended that you read in a correct posture in an environment with sufficient light. The room has a darker light and is not good at vision. Sitting on the bed and reading a book incorrectly, it is easy to cause lumbar and cervical vertebrae to bend.
I strongly recommend that you stick to outdoor exercise, because outdoor exercise makes people feel comfortable, active in thinking, and have higher learning efficiency. Appropriate exercise can also promote your body to grow taller. You can get more results in one go, so why not do it?
I hope you often walk and chat with your parents, and talk about the happy and unpleasant things you encounter, or things you don’t understand and confused at the moment. Mom and Dad can share your joys, sorrows, sorrows, and happiness, as well as share and analyze for you, and witness your growth.
I don't agree with you using your mobile phone to watch videos and play games. Because mobile phones have too much impact on the eyes, lumbar and cervical vertebrae, it is also easy to cause addiction and addiction. I have also printed relevant information for you before, and I believe you understand the reason. In the future, you can only use your mobile phone when looking for learning materials. This is the strictest requirement I have put forward to you, and I hope you can abide by it.
In order to give you a suitable way to relax while studying, I will give you a small speaker to help you download the songs you like to listen to. Saturday and Sunday will show you an hour or two of TV and watch an animated movie with you and your brother.
When I got home on a business trip, I handed the letter to my daughter. After reading it alone in the room, my daughter didn't say anything, but her consciousness and self-discipline made significant progress in the following direction.
National Day seven-day holiday, I lead my daughter to run every morning and evening, and after the run, I walk slowly together and chat for 30 minutes. In the first two or three days, my daughter felt a little tired and a little afraid of difficulties. On the sixth day, my daughter said she felt very happy after exercise and said she would insist on running for a long time. I was very pleased to hear her say this. Because I know that a teenager who loves sports has a positive and motivated mentality and will never indulge in mobile phones.
or above is my real experience as a parent of a sixth grade primary school student. I believe many parents who have experienced it have a deep understanding. Parents all hope that their children will make a little progress every day. On the other hand, as the first teacher of their children, parents should also often ask themselves: Have we made a little progress every day? We have always asked our children to learn this, which one to learn, have we learned children's psychology and other related knowledge according to their children's growth?
I think that the period when children become teenagers is a process of rapid growth and a process of constant change. If parents' thinking and knowledge cannot keep up with the psychological changes of their children, cannot adapt to changes in the objective environment, and quarrels, contradictions, cold wars, confrontations, and even mutual harm with their children are destined to be inevitable.
I also believe that correct educational concepts, scientific parenting knowledge, warm family atmosphere and parent-child companionship are crucial to the physical and mental health of young people and children. Therefore, parents must persist in learning and “integrate knowledge and action”. Never “delusion” to compensate for the lack of parent-child companionship with material rewards.
If your children are in the fifth or sixth grades, I hope you can study humbly, summarize and reflect, communicate with your children equally, give your children more care and companionship, and grow up with your children!
