Q Why are some people addicted to plastic surgery? How to deal with abnormal aesthetics?
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In the era of comprehensive within , even the appearance cannot escape the disaster, and the deformed aesthetic of white, thin and thin has become a trend that everyone is eager to pursue. In the
variety show " Super Speaker is Youthful ", a female guest revealed that she was addicted to plastic surgery and had been having surgery on herself since she was 15 years old.
You can never imagine what a woman can do to become beautiful.
liposuction, bone cutting, injection of hyaluronic acid ... Some people even sacrifice their health by inducing vomiting and stomach incision just to become more beautiful and eye-catching.
This kind of anxiety has gradually spread to men. The aesthetics of "muscular body" has made many men miserable.
The trend of "beauty" among the people makes people ponder: Is the pathological pursuit of aesthetics really reasonable?
Excessive love for beauty, beware it is a disease
There was once a saying on the Internet: If a person has outstanding appearance, then his life is half successful.
Although this sentence is a little one-sided, it is not entirely unreasonable. After all, appearance affects other people's first impression of us.
So everyone wants to look better, which is actually a positive pursuit.
But if you are often anxious about appearance, or even disregard your health and pursue "beauty" excessively, then you are likely to have a mental illness called "body dysmorphic disorder".
It refers to a deviation in the individual's perception of appearance. Although the appearance is normal, the individual has the subjective feeling that his appearance is ugly or defective, and thinks that he attracts attention.
For example, if you have a few small pimples on your face, ordinary people may think that they are caused by heat and heat. Just apply some ointment or put on an invisible pimple patch.
After a simple treatment, this matter will be forgotten and it will not affect your mood for a long time.
But in the eyes of someone with body dysmorphic disorder, having a few pimples on my face = my face is disfigured. Cognitive distortions cause them to panic that is inconsistent with the actual situation.
They will repeatedly look in the mirror to confirm, and even keep asking others to get assurance that "this part is normal."
But even if they are recognized by others, they will still try their best to cover up their acne.
For example, wearing makeup, wearing sunglasses, hats, turbans, etc. Even in order not to be seen by others, they will choose not to go out or see anyone.
Normal social life has been disrupted, and it is impossible to go to work, go to school, or socialize with others.
This kind of panic and anxiety will not only be reflected in acquired acne and scars, but also in certain inborn appearances, such as the bridge of the nose, eyelids, thighs, etc.
related data pointed out that the nose, hair and skin are the areas most often concerned by patients, accounting for 56.2%.
Therefore, some people will use medical plastic surgery to "correct" their appearance in an attempt to shape their appearance into their ideal look.
Once, twice, three times... They continue to undergo extremely risky surgeries. But the final result may not be as expected.
The scars hidden behind the "love of beauty"
Why do some people have misperceptions about their appearance?
According to research, the causes of body dysmorphic disorder are very complex and have a certain relationship with heredity and personality traits.
However, most patients develop a negative psychology about their appearance after suffering external trauma, and then develop into a disease.
External trauma may come from criticism from family members, ridicule from classmates or comments from the outside world.
A mainland actress once revealed in a variety show that she had been bullied at school for 3 years because her classmates thought she was too fat.
As a result, she began to be anxious about her appearance. She repeatedly lost weight just to gain recognition from others, and eventually even developed an anxiety disorder.
This actress is the epitome of countless patients with body dysmorphic disorder. When they were growing up, they were more or less ridiculed, insulted and even bullied by the outside world because of their appearance.
was shrouded in a sense of insecurity for a long time, so he began to deny himself and agreed with others to "abuse" him.
This kind of "abuse" extends to all aspects, and the denial of appearance bears the brunt. Because I feel like I’m not that good, I try my best to fix the flaws in other people’s eyes.
Despite these flaws, in the eyes of ordinary people, they are not actually a big problem.
On the other hand, the overwhelming public opinion information in the Internet era has intensified the external environment faced by patients with body dysmorphic disorder.
Just think about it, when external information is conveying the concept of "appearance is justice"; when everyone around you is pursuing A4 waist, chopstick legs, and vest line.
Can you really stick to your own opinions and not be affected by abnormal beauty standards?
And the convenience of information transmission makes our appearance easier to be scrutinized by others. Posting a picture in the circle of friends may receive a comment of "You look so good-looking"/"You look so ugly".
Because we hope that our appearance conforms to the aesthetics of the times, we are more likely to have appearance anxiety.
Some studies have pointed out that there is a positive correlation between social media and body dysmorphic disorder. The longer an individual is exposed to social media, the greater the risk of developing body dysmorphic disorder.
Learn to deal with appearance anxiety
Since excessive love for beauty is not advisable, how to deal with aesthetic anxiety? You can refer to the following four methods:
Stop observing
Distribute the attention to appearance to other things. When you start to pay attention to appearance, take a deep breath to interrupt yourself, and then pay attention to the feelings brought to you by hearing, smelling, and tasting.
Listen to opinions
Take the initiative to interact with others. When you are not confident about your appearance, ask others: "How do you evaluate a certain part of my body? Do I feel right about myself?"
Get objective evaluations from others, and your self-confidence will increase gradually strengthen.
Reasonable cosmetic surgery
Before undergoing medical cosmetic surgery, find your own inner motivation: Am I doing it to make myself better, or to be better than others?
Think more about your own goals, set a clear limit, and tell yourself at what point you should stop.
Psychological consultation
If the concern about appearance has reached an extraordinary level, seek help from a doctor in time and use medication + psychological counseling to get out of the predicament.
Beauty is never uniform. Catering to others cannot bring us true happiness.
So there is no need to change yourself for the eyes of others. As long as you are healthy physically and mentally and live comfortably, that is the best thing.
