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A friend sent this question. He saw the concept of "psychological comfort zone" in many psychology books. The so-called psychological comfort zone refers to some psychological patterns that people have formed habits and the psychological state when people feel familiar and familiar. If people's behavior exceeds these patterns, they will feel insecure, anxiety, and even fear.
In these psychology books, the authors will encourage people to be brave enough to break out of their psychological comfort zone, because many problematic behaviors, including psychological problems, are caused by staying in the psychological comfort zone for a long time. This friend was a little puzzled after reading it. He wanted to figure out what kind of psychological concept "psychological comfort zone" is. He wanted to know if a person wants to grow himself and achieve success, he really should try to break out of his psychological comfort zone?
This is a very necessary problem, because in work and life, we are often limited by some of our habitual behaviors, which is caused by our efforts to maintain our psychological comfort zone. However, the purpose of a person trying to break out of his psychological comfort zone is not to achieve greater achievements, but to make an attempt to achieve his psychological growth.
What exactly is a psychological comfort zone? It seems comfortable, but it is not. It is even likely to limit a person's growth in all aspects. What's scary is that this state is not easily noticed by the parties involved.
For example, when a person stays in an air-conditioned room for a long time, he can always enjoy a constant temperature. No matter what the weather changes outside, the environment he is in is always a lukewarm and constant temperature, which will make people feel extremely comfortable. Everyone naturally likes such an environment. But if a person is allowed to stay in an air-conditioned room all the time, as long as the temperature outside is different from that in an air-conditioned room, he cannot get out. Let's imagine what will happen over time? This person's ability to withstand severe cold and heat will decrease unknowingly. He will get sick when he goes out once a while. Invisibly, his body will lose the ability to regulate temperature, and his adaptability will decrease, or even be completely lost.
It can be seen from this that if a person stays in a seemingly comfortable environment, don’t talk about whether he is likely to achieve success, even some normal functions will be affected. Therefore, we need to constantly adapt to the new environment, don’t talk about achievements first, the most important thing is to protect the abilities we originally had.
tries to break out of the comfort zone because we realize that it is wrong for us to be in a state for a long time, and we have to put in a lot of energy to stay in a seemingly comfortable state. We cannot just consume ourselves at the same point.
It’s like a person who finds that he’s in an air-conditioned room after staying in an air-conditioned room for a long time is not right, and he feels uncomfortable being blown by the air-conditioning. He doesn’t know that he’s having some “ air-conditioning disease ”. He suddenly realizes that there is something wrong with doing this, and he needs to try to make changes.
Therefore, he has to try to go out. It’s not that he won’t enjoy happiness and has a good life. However, his previous practice violated the laws of nature. People should feel the change of seasons and the changes in temperature. Only in this way can we constantly debug our state. So the purpose of trying to get out of our comfort zone is to restore our adaptability and understand our relationship with the world more comprehensively.
I don’t know what concepts you see in psychology books. If you see these concepts from relatively professional psychology works, I think the book must not only talk about this concept, but there will be many discussions. Books of different schools will also be discussed from different perspectives, and cannot be unfolded here one by one, but no matter what kind of discussion is, it focuses on two points.
First, encourage us to go beyond our self-limiting and make more attempts in important relationships.
If a person is willing to let go of his self-limiting and try to get along with an environment where he is uncertain, it means that the person has begun to try to grow himself. From the perspective of psychological dynamics, the scope of his self-consciousness is being expanded. He will no longer be the frog that looks at the sky in a well, he will see a wider world.Only by being willing to let go of our own limitations and make more attempts can we better adapt to the new environment.
Second, try to create and change based on adaptation.
Today, we live in an era of intelligence, and the environment we live in is full of changes. A person improves his ability to adapt to the environment is not simply to make himself live happier on the surface. This understanding is too narrow. The purpose of our adaptation to the environment is to try to change and create on the basis of survival. A life will be more energetic because it shows creativity.
Everyone has heard of " frog effect ". If a person's environment is too comfortable, it is not a good thing for his growth. Mencius also said: "Born in distress, die in happiness." Only when a person has a certain sense of crisis and is brave enough to try can he not be trapped by the familiar patterns.
When you try to break out of your comfort zone, it is not just to achieve worldly achievements, but to have a vast world deep in your heart, and you are becoming more and more energetic. You must maintain your vitality and vitality and realize true freedom at the psychological level. I believe that in this way you will be able to better adapt to the environment and create your own value.
Author Shuhui: Practical psychological counselor, founder of Shuhui Psychology
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