Adults always think that school days are the best time in a child's life. Perhaps they place this idea on their children because they are nostalgic for their school days. But do you know the reasons behind children's dislike of studying?

Why do children get tired of learning? This is a question that parents are puzzled by.

Adults always think that school days are the best time in a child’s life. Perhaps they pin this idea on their children because they are nostalgic for their school days, but do you know the reasons behind children’s dislike of studying? ?

Children’s weariness of learning is not a psychological problem in itself, but behind the phenomenon of learning weariness, there are likely to be psychological problems, such as early separation, parent-child relationship, family problems, Internet addiction and various psychological disorders.

Because when doctors evaluate psychological problems, social function is one of the many reference standards.

An adult with impaired social functioning usually exhibits an inability to participate in daily work and interpersonal interactions.

For a child, being unable to go to school normally means that social function is impaired to some extent.

In order to pay attention to the psychological problems behind teenagers' weariness in studying, we invited Professor Yang Fude of Beijing Huilongguan Hospital, Professor Liu Huaqing and Dr. Luo Zhengjie of the Department of Psychology to film a popular medical science documentary "The Psychology Behind Wearyness in Studying"

Being tired of studying is not the problem itself, it is just a Performance.

Most of the time, parents only directly deal with the problem of study weariness and ignore the possible psychological problems behind it. We lose the opportunity to understand the real difficulties and pain of the child, and also miss the opportunity to help the child grow.

Parents use what they think is the correct method to deal with the problem of children being tired of learning, but haste often makes waste.

Teenagers’ psychological problems are formed over time, and they cannot be solved overnight.

When parents interact with their children, they need to listen more to their children and give them more tolerance, understanding and companionship.

Parents should provide their children with support within their own capabilities and not impose their own desires on their children. At the same time, they should not be upset or angry with their children because their efforts are not getting the expected returns.

01.

He should always be excellent.

After that, cried loudly for five minutes.

This is a mother of a boy who is in the second grade of junior high school. She feels desperate because she has tried all kinds of tricks to get her child to study hard.

What accompanies her every day now are constant cold wars and quarrels with her children.

In fact, this boy was very well-behaved before:

We tend to have a kind of inertial thinking : Excellent children must always be among the best. I don’t know that the higher the child’s grade, the greater the competition. Improper expectations for children will often push children In the opposite direction.

For children who are tired of learning, what they hate may not be learning, but being forced to learn by others!

02.

Educating children can never avoid "relationships"

As a parent, what is the first element in educating children?

This question may make many people confused and may also cause controversy.

In my opinion, the first element in educating children is definitely relationships.

Take the matter of children who are tired of studying as an example. Every child who is tired of studying has his own pain behind it, but will he tell you? Most kids don’t! Because he thinks that if you don't understand him, what you say will be in vain, and may even lead to a lot of scolding.

But to solve the problem of children being tired of studying, understanding the real reasons why children are tired of studying is the most important part. If you can’t understand it, it will never be possible to solve this problem.

We all know that we need to respect each other to maintain relationships, but when it comes to children, we seem to have completely forgotten this truth. It's great that your child is a child, but at the same time he is an independent person.

So, respect your child like an adult and gain his approval. Only then will he listen to the truth you tell him.

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How to help children who are tired of learning

First, face your own education.

In fact, many children enter college and then drop out every year.

If you like, you can ask your friends around you, how much does studying a major have to do with your child’s future career?

As a parent, if education only focuses on grades and does not take into account the spiritual needs of the child, then you will not be able to deal with the problem of the child being tired of studying.

Second, find out the reasons why children are tired of studying. This is the key to solving the problem.

Third, solve the problem according to the specific reasons found.

Once you know the specific cause, the problem is often simpler. If you feel that you can't handle it, you can check the information, watch relevant courses, and consult relevant experts, which can help you solve the problem quickly.

The fourth and most core point is to keep learning and broaden your horizons.

Being a parent is one of the most difficult jobs to do. Most of us educate our children for the first time, and often it is the only time.

As a novice, he will unknowingly engage in many improper educational behaviors, and these improper educational behaviors often lead to bitter consequences that we do not want to see, and it is quite difficult to repair them.

Therefore, ensures that one can educate children reasonably, which is the best way to avoid various problems.

Parents must unite and activate family functions to completely solve the problem of children being tired of studying.

hopes that every child can find his or her own fun in learning and achieve "learning while having fun, being happy and eager to learn"!