As the author Devorah Zucker said in "The Communication Skills of Introverts", most people, including me, "I don't like social interaction, and I have no interest anyway!" Social interaction is not suitable for introverts. Yayu took off his coat in public. And how to recognize the definition of introversion defined by social rules, and be able to make full use of the advantages of introversion to highlight the value of one's existence, and then help achieve many preset goals in one's life!
The author speaks of introversion because he has an introverted personality. He has corrected the pathological discrimination against introversion that has always been criticized by social habits. When growing up, family education also compared himself to extroverts. Introverted children, but they donāt know that the three major characteristics of introversion, āthinking, concentration, and self-relianceā, are a very advantageous personality, which are different from extroverts and introverts. Following the authorās ideas, let us see step by step This is related to all aspects of "introversion"!
Of course, first of all, we must have a fair attitude towards "introverts" in terms of self-awareness, that is, each has its own advantages and disadvantages, and "everyone should be themselves and explore their nature instead of suppressing it, and then the sea and the sky will be brighter" "I learned here that the accepted standard number of friends is Dunbar's number is 150 people, so judging the quality of character solely by the number of friends will deviate from social norms! !
Take a deep breath, change your way of thinking, and reconstruct the definition of social. The definition of social in professional terms is: "The art of building and maintaining interpersonal relationships in order to achieve shared positive results." Mind, take the initiative to build meaningful connections on your own. Change the negative mode to positive self-talk, take action, and donāt think about negative thoughts all the time. Look for opportunities for cooperation. At the same time, you must change your own social rudeness and treat communication and communication with others carefully and seriously. In communication, if you don't pay attention to some details, you will fall into the trap you inadvertently set. Only in this way can you and others succeed. The author of
corrects a "golden rule" that is widely used in social interaction, that is, "treat others how you want to be treated." The author uses examples to suggest that the "platinum rule" should be adopted, that is, "use others' expectations of being treated." Treat others the way you treat them." Of course, to adopt this method, as the author analyzes it, the premise must be to know or understand the other person's hobbies and deepen the relationship!
At the same time, you must adopt "being the real you" and "adopting a flexible social style". The benefit of this is that you can establish your own behavioral habits in multiple loops, improve your "psychological flexibility", and be able to target different groups of people and Individuals, make adjustments to your own style! The author
's experience in daily speaking work is full of useful information. In terms of social interaction, she also proposed the "3P method", that is, "be prepared, proceed step by step, and grasp the rhythm." The author combined the original common practice in social situations For comparison, this "3P method" is indeed a very effective social method that needs to be adopted at the moment. If you want to become a social expert, you need to work hard on this!
For introverts with "social phobia", the author also provides psychological guidance on how to socialize. In necessary social activities, you must be prepared and take the initiative to participate, and make good personal clothing. and mental preparation, as well as various precautions for communicating with people on site, are organized very carefully. At the same time, you must adjust your mentality to become proactive. The author clearly points out that you must develop the five elements of "result-oriented goals" Practice, paying careful attention to changing the "target from a negative sentence to an affirmative sentence." Only by approaching your social behavior with a proactive attitude can you develop a good psychological behavior for joining the world.
Finally, the author uses the above "3P method" from finding a job, traveling for work, and possibly participating in hosting social activities, etc., so that we can make full use of her method and effectively improve our own life value!
Therefore, we will always forgive ourselves and let ourselves get by, and if things go on like this, the introverted you will become more introverted and more ordinary, just like a gust of wind, and disappear without a trace!
In the current competitive society, "crises" are everywhere, and crises also breed opportunities for us to work hard to create realizations. Let us carefully read and appreciate "Communication Skills for Introverts" and let the "3P Method" lead us and explore Amplify your own advantages and let us introverted personalities bloom our own youth in social activities!
