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Lu Xun once summed up a sentence that is particularly exquisite. If a Chinese person looks up at the sky, the people behind him will also stretch their necks to follow. The same goes for buying a car. 90% of domestic people Consumers blindly follow the trend.
If certain car models are biased, the public will avoid them. It is a common problem for Chinese people to buy cars to save money. It is obvious that there is no immediate need, so they have to bite the bullet and buy it back in installments if they owe money.
Renting famous brand cars even though they are not doing well outside. In this deformed and fast-growing automobile market, as well as the rapid growth of national living standards, Chinese consumers have gradually formed some pathological car concepts.
I don’t know if you have encountered this situation. Before buying a car, you were very satisfied with the car you liked, but you regretted it within a few days of driving it. In fact, this situation is very common, and it is largely caused by blindness. Caused by following the trend.
Chinese people’s following in car buying is a pursuit of “identity”
The phenomenon of car buying in my country is called “Chinese-style car buying”. Because my country’s automobile industry started late, many people don’t actually know much about cars. In addition, the knowledge of buying a car is complicated, and many people believe in the "car buying contempt chain" when buying a car.
For example, domestic cars have made great progress, with lower prices, higher configurations, and excellent performance in the market. However, most people still look down on domestic cars and prefer joint venture brands that are popular with the public. finally bought it with a loan. A joint venture car with ordinary configurations, but after buying it and seeing all the cool features of other people’s domestically produced cars, I immediately regretted it.
Most Chinese people buy cars because they follow the trend. They only use sales volume as the first basis for buying a car. Whichever car has the highest sales volume, they follow the trend and buy that one.
Or just look at the cars that your relatives and friends bought and buy them yourself. Every car owner has different requirements for cars, so each car has its own advantages and disadvantages. Blindly following the trend may not be suitable for our cars. Demand, after finding that this car is not suitable for you, you will blame the other party. This is simply too abominable.
In a group, because individuals do not want to be original and different, they feel isolated. When an individual's behavior is inconsistent with the group, he will feel anxious. When his attitude and behavior are consistent with others, he will feel "nothing wrong". sense of security.
For example, for people who don’t know much about cars, following the herd is a relatively safe choice. In addition to lacking the ability and opinion to choose, most people have this mentality: there are old car owners in the front, and new buyers in the back. There won't be any big problem.
Even if you want to buy a car based on your own ideas, there will always be a large group of so-called "consultants" to give you seemingly professional advice, especially when prices are converging, it is especially easy for people to follow the herd and be swayed by others at this time. It stems from the invisible pressure of the group on individuals, forcing some individuals to conduct behaviors contrary to their own wishes in pursuit of a sense of security.
Buying a car for the sake of face is also due to the obsessive-compulsive disorder of middle-aged people. Almost 90% of middle-aged men have such a plot, which is specifically reflected in buying a house and a car. Having a car and a house is almost the standard for people of this age group. Matching, not having it seems to mean failure.
Obsessive compulsive disorder of excellence is a kind of obsessive psychology, it is similar to perfectionism, that is, the person concerned 100% hopes that he can achieve the goal, for example, what achievements must be made before the age of 45, otherwise he will Define your life as a failure.
"Perfectionism" is also related to Chinese-style family education. These Chinese-style parents have educated their children since childhood and forced their children to pursue excellence. The concept they pass on to their children is that if they are not excellent, they do not deserve to live. If they are so painfully excellent, they would rather buy it. I cry while sitting in a car, but I don’t want to laugh while living a comfortable and well-off life. This morbid concept has harmed many Chinese people.
Learning to say goodbye, insist on oneself, and maintain independence is a required course for an adult throughout his life. Where does self-acceptance and persistence come from?
Happiness is related to the degree of self-acceptance. Your degree of self-acceptance determines the degree of happiness in your life. The process of inner strength is actually to stop living in the eyes of others, slowly accept yourself, and evolve yourself.
"Self-acceptance" is the basis for solving all problems. A middle-aged person should focus on solving problems rather than adding to them. While accepting himself, he should learn to tolerate others and be kind to himself. Aristotle said: "The ultimate value of life lies in the ability to awaken and think, and It's not just about survival. "
Whether you want to buy a car or not, you have to decide whether you need it for face or for actual needs.
If you need to travel frequently, using other means of transportation is naturally not as cost-effective as buying a car. At this time, buying a car is necessary, not only It can save costs and bring convenience.
This situation is the actual need. Your life has become better because of buying a car, and the relationship between your family has also become better. In this way, the car you bought with a lot of money will be valuable.
If you don’t travel often and don’t use a car, there is no need to buy a car. There are many follow-up projects after buying a car. You need to pay insurance at the beginning, and then you need to pay for various daily maintenance. The total cost is also very high, and you are traveling outside. If you encounter an accident, you can't just leave your car on the side of the road, which is actually quite troublesome.
The most important thing is that if you don't use the car for a long time, it will cause damage to the vehicle and reduce the service life of the vehicle. In addition, the money you owe when buying a car will be enough for you to pay for half a lifetime.
In fact, there is no shame in taking a taxi. If you use the car less, the money you spend on buying a car may not be used up in your lifetime.
In order to buy a car, it will only increase the burden on the family, make your wife and even children suffer with you, and have to argue with your wife all day long about the car. That is just a need for face, and it is completely unnecessary.
You need to be careful when buying a car. Not to mention that there is a high probability that you will regret it if you don’t buy a car. If you don’t buy a car, you can live a free, relaxed, happy and contented life. Sometimes, we have to congratulate those who insist on not buying a small car, not because they are poor and cannot afford it, but because they are poor and cannot afford it. It is they who dare to accept themselves and maximize their life benefits.
Even if you insist on buying a car, you must not follow the trend. You still have to accept yourself and buy the car that suits you best based on your own strength and habits.
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author | Tommy Da
editor | Wan'an
first psychological writing team | A group of young people who like to look up at the stars
Reference: Jean Piaget Biographie. (2020, January 29).
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