A friend told me about a distant relative of his colleague’s family. There was an 18-year-old girl in school at home. She was a very good girl. It was said that she suddenly became depressed. When she was diagnosed, she felt like a bolt from the blue. She also said It was already a bit serious, and her parents were thinking of sending her to a mental hospital. I thought my friend had some connections, so I wanted to ask her what to do about this matter and where to send it. When my friend heard this, he thought it was okay and quickly said, "Don't ask about the mental hospital first. Go to the hospital first to see how to solve it. If there is any problem, just send him there. First, see if it's serious." , if possible, take medicine to stabilize it, and don’t go to school yet. You can’t go out for a trip to relax. You are already 18 or 19 years old. You have been sent to a mental hospital. Do you want to talk about your husband’s family in the future? "
The family's conditions are not very good, and both husband and wife are somewhat disabled, so it is conceivable that the family's income is not very good, and the cause of the child's illness is also because he feels that his family is disadvantaged and he is discriminated against at school, which is generally caused by low self-esteem all year round. I was unhappy at school, and I didn’t know who to talk to, so I kept it in my heart for many years.
Maybe it’s because of cognitive issues. I’m not discriminating, but how can someone who has lived in rural areas all year round, doesn’t know a few Chinese characters, and doesn’t even come to the county town very often, say a lot of truth to comfort children? Many times, their thoughts really cannot communicate with those of children who are studying abroad. This is not an isolated case. In the early years, many families were like this. There was no such thing as chatting in the parent-child relationship! That’s why my friend asked them to go to a hospital first and communicate with the doctor to find out what the problem is, so as to avoid irritating the child again. After all, if they were sent directly to a mental hospital and we got married in the future, why would these loud-mouthed women in the village not know how to pass it on to others? This is really possible. The old lady here is really willing to ask someone about her child's marriage partner.
There was an aunt downstairs at my previous workplace who knew where my hometown was. One day she came to me in a hurry and asked me what was going on. She said that her son had a girlfriend and her family was from our city. She asked me if I knew anything. Know? She wanted to know if the girl's character and family were what she said she was, and if there was anything else she said about her family. Oh Maiga, where are you playing? Our city's railway, city, factories and districts all have residential areas divided into sections, as well as corresponding primary and secondary schools. Some districts have a large population and only have several primary schools and junior high schools. For example, there are several schools for railway children. It was not until the end of the family planning period when there were fewer children that these schools began to merge, and then there were fewer schools. So even if we are both railway children, we may have never met each other, not to mention that we are several years apart, and she doesn’t know which district her future daughter-in-law is from.
This incident reminds me of an older brother at my previous workplace. This older brother was a company salesman and had a particularly strong working ability. Basically, he negotiates every big deal for the company, and he also has other part-time jobs and income. Moreover, the eldest brother is funny and humorous, the couple is loving, the wife is very beautiful, and the daughter is good at studying and growing up, integrating the advantages of the couple, making her an absolute beauty. And there is also a sister and brother-in-law who work in the government and have official positions. They usually help wherever they can. According to him, they are just like his mother.
Such a person with a nearly perfect life, would you believe it if he told you that he has depression ? I didn't believe it before. If my eldest brother just makes fun of me, I just think he's teasing me. But I didn't know it was true until I saw him taking medicine. He said to me, "Girl, how much does this bottle cost and how many tablets are there in the box? You can see these in the provincial capital, but we don't have a good place to see them here! If you don't eat this, you won't be able to sleep all night, and you won't be able to sleep at all." It’s so uncomfortable to think about it.” Seeing him like this, and remembering what he said to me before, I had an intuitive impression of depression for the first time, and suddenly felt a little sad.
I remember seeing that his salary was very high before. In our small city back then, most salaries at my age were less than 2,000. My cousin and sister-in-law had worked for several years, and their monthly salary was 1,800, and each salary was 1,500.When my uncle found out that my salary was more than 2,000 yuan, he was very envious of me. He thought it was very good for a girl of my age to earn such a salary. People like me were considered relatively good at the time, and he could earn eight or nine thousand, which is not considered low now. I said, Brother X, you are working too hard to make so much money every month. My eldest brother told me, girl, you don’t know that I can still do it now. I need to earn more money and save more money. At that time, I thought he was being modest with me and felt that business could not be so good every month. Later, I suddenly understood that my eldest brother did not know how the disease would develop in the end. He was leaving a way out for himself and his wife and daughter. , he just prepared for the worst!
If someone tells you that he/she is depressed, she can't sleep, she is sad and unhappy. She may not be being pretentious, she may just be asking for help from you. Please chat with her and enlighten her, or contact her to go to a professional hospital for examination. Early detection and early treatment can lead to heaven and hell. I hope everyone can live a worry-free life and be happy every day!
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