In the test, if you have the following two points, it means that you always like to live in the past;
1⃣️Always recall what others said and repeatedly speculate on the meaning of other people's words;
2⃣️Always recall scenes where you were injured and blame yourself Why don’t you fight back forcefully?
3⃣️You always recall people and things that have hurt you, and the more you think about it, the more you hate it;
4⃣️When others reject or deny you, either the arrow points inward - feeling inferior and self-blame, or the arrow points outward - blaming others, Causes anger;
These thinking patterns are all "rumination thinking" professionally
✅Rumination thinking has the following hazards:
1⃣️Intensifies pain and leads to a vicious cycle:
The more you ruminate, the sadder and sadder you are, and the more you want to ruminate. ;
2⃣️ Fanning the flames and fueling anger;
The more you think about other people's faults, the easier it is to arouse anger
3⃣️ Damage cognition and affect judgment;
Lead to misjudgments and become vicious. Spiritual teachers often warn people like this
Why do you always live in the past? :
Because the past problems are never solved, it is hidden deep in your subconscious mind.
As long as there is a little stimulation, "past experiences" can be easily evoked. The reason why you are depressed is because the subconscious knot has not been opened.
The root of the subconscious "knot" is:
1. The reason why we are angry and the root of our anger is our inner fear;
Your emotions and behaviors are only superficial. Phenomenon, and the "subconscious" behind supporting emotions and behaviors is the root.
The greatest psychologist of the 20th century, Carl Gustav Jung once said: "When you cannot identify your subconscious, you Your subconscious mind is your destiny.”
What is the subconscious mind? Your subconscious mind is your habit . Its advantage is that you can accomplish something without your thinking. In psychology, it’s called “automatic thinking.”
When the thoughts and practices of people around us are completely different from what we expected, we feel that we cannot control the situation. In fact, it is hidden deep in our subconscious minds.
These subconscious minds may come from our childhood experiences.
If parents often Blaming, leaving, and parental quarrels are interpreted as not loving us, not wanting us, or threatening us, which for a young life means death.
As we grow older, we slowly learn to be independent and take control of the situation, so these fears are hidden subconsciously, but once there is external stimulation, this fear is stimulated from the subconscious.
2. The reason why we have knots is because our subconscious needs have not been met;
The reason why we have knots in our dealings with others is because we don’t pay much attention to ourselves when communicating with others. People who have very low needs or attention and always put the needs of others first are called "good guys".
If you wrong yourself and please others for a long time, and your inner needs are not met, you will develop more and more knots.
Next article, continue to share "How to stop having knots in your subconscious mind"
