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As the pressure and cost of life in today's society increase, it becomes increasingly difficult to have an ideal life.
The high-intensity daily life and many unbearable pressures have troubled many adults. This is the so-called "there is no such thing as easy in the adult world".
Relevant research shows that in my country today, there are not a few adults suffering from mental illnesses, and among these complex mental illnesses, the most important one is depression.
Depression, is characterized by long-term and continuous low mood and difficulty in living a normal life. Individuals suffering from depression will appear to be in poor condition and unhappy at first. As the condition worsens, they will gradually become disinterested in everything around them. Losing interest, and often having thoughts of suicide in the later stages, is very troubling.
Global statistics show that in today’s world, almost 300 million people are suffering from depression.
You may think that this phenomenon is due to adults being too stressed and thinking too much about things, which only adds to their worries, causing them to be "crushed" by the heavy burdens in life.
Some people may think that children’s world is full of happiness and minors should not be depressed, but this is not the case.
Surprisingly, according to relevant statistics, among minors, the number of individuals suffering from depression reached 24.6%. This means that almost one in every four children in their prime of life is suffering from depression.
So as a parent, you must be very worried and curious: Why do your children feel depressed? Isn't their world colorful?
How can I detect children's tendency to depression in advance and help them treat it in advance? This is naturally based on some basis. One
important basis is the child's mantra. Mantra is a way of expression that individuals rely on. Whether they are adults or minors, they usually express their emotions with the help of some common phrases and sentences.
Over time, the "mantra" was formed. So from this perspective, mantra reflects an individual's personality and status to a large extent and relatively stably.
Psychologists have found through relevant research that children who often say these five mantras are very likely to suffer from depression. If you are its parent, you must be vigilant.
1. "I'm so bored/I'm so tired/I'm so sad"
As mentioned in the previous article, children's world should be full of wonderful colors, even weird and unconstrained, we should not let go of recalling our own In childhood, the thoughts that fill my mind are often thoughts related to happiness.
However, with the development of the times, today's children's material living standards have greatly improved. They no longer just play by themselves as they did a few decades ago. They are exposed to many new things, especially the Internet.
But there is much less happiness, and it is difficult to seek happiness with the help of natural things such as mountains, water, trees, etc., so even if they are entertainment, it is not so "pure".
Coupled with the increasingly heavy academic pressure, children's feelings are bound to become more like adults, and they feel even more about the negative energy in life. So when you find that your child has these mantras, pay more attention.
2. “It’s so boring/so boring”
Because children are young and have almost a blank slate of social experience, all kinds of people and things in the world should theoretically be full of temptation for them. Worth being curious about.
So many people think that if you want to explore your interests, you should do work while your children are young. This is also why.
But when your child often shows no interest in various things, or even lives a very "Buddhist" life, then this is undoubtedly not a good sign.
As a parent, if you find that your child has such a mantra, it is best to find a way to understand his curiosity about strange things and his ability to learn new things.
If the ability is insufficient, it is best to strengthen some relevant guidance. If you do not plan early, your lack of learning ability will also affect your future performance in compulsory education.
3. "What are you doing?/Why don't you XX"
No matter what, the education children receive before adulthood will receive values similar to "respecting the old and loving the young" and "treating others politely", at least to outsiders and elders. Should be polite.
However, if your child often reacts in a questioning and unreasonable tone, it proves that his inner emotions are not particularly stable, and he may even be a little angry.
So as a parent, when you find that your child has such a tendency, you must intervene immediately. Because this kind of negative energy and hostility will not only affect the child's mental state, but also affect his or her social interaction ability when he or she becomes an adult.
4. "Having a nightmare"
This situation is not only a manifestation of a mantra, but also a reflection of the poor quality of children's rest from physiological phenomena.
Sigmund Freud (Sigmund Freud) stated in his research on dreams in psychoanalysis that individual dreams are a reflection of real life, and the quality of sleep reflects the individual to a certain extent. body condition.
If a child often has nightmares when he is relatively young, it means that he may have seen some not-so-good scenes, which may lead to frequent memories and difficulty in falling asleep; secondly, his physical condition may not be very good, so we should pay attention to it. one time.
Occasional nightmares are understandable, as long as they are not too frequent, they are normal.
5. "It's all my fault"
It is true that correcting mistakes when you know them is a moral virtue. However, for underage children, it is also abnormal if they often talk about admitting their mistakes as a mantra.
People should not be arrogant, nor should they be too "humble". What's more, what big mistake can a child make? Don’t admit your mistakes too often.
Therefore, in the process of education, such a concept should be instilled: it is okay to admit mistakes, but the situation should be clearly distinguished. Only when you really make a mistake should you admit it. Otherwise, you must not take the initiative to take responsibility. This is not a good thing.
In short, when you, as a parent of a child, are educating your child and establishing correct views on them, you must not relax your vigilance and pay attention to their physical and mental state, especially their psychological state.
Don’t think that children will not have mental illness. Some mental illnesses are regardless of age. You, who have been with your children day and night, are most familiar with their mantras. When your children have the five mantras in this article, you must pay attention.
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author | Tommy
editor | No Rain
first psychological writing team | A group of young people who like to look up at the stars
Reference: Bruk, A., Scholl, S. G., & Bless, H. (2018) . Beautiful mess effect: Self–other differences in evaluation of showing vulnerability. Journal of personality and social psychology, 115(2), 192-205
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