I am a psychologist, disseminating practical mental health knowledge every day, paying attention to various mental diseases, and caring for patients with depression!
Depression has become a common disease, and it has become the second largest disease that threatens human health. It can be said that patients suffering from depression are very painful, and they have to suffer twice as much mentally and physically as I have been exposed to. Many depression patients have many reasons for depression, not a single factor. The most important point of
is that the current pressure is getting bigger and bigger, including economic pressure, life pressure, study pressure, work pressure, when a person's ability to bear is very limited and can't relieve the pressure in time, it will lead to physical stress over time. There are certain changes that slowly lead to depression!
The question we are going to discuss today is should I quit my job due to depression? Yesterday, a patient contacted me saying that she was depressed and felt incompetent for her current job, because the pressure of the new company and job position was very high, and it caused the recurrence of depression. She felt that she was extremely incompetent, and felt that even if she entered a normal period , is also not competent for the post, there is a big problem with her personality, and she does not like to be a management woman and is not a strong woman in the workplace.
is now staying in the company, feeling like a fool, should I resign now? And he himself is worried that if he resigns and spends more time with his husband, will he become stupid due to his depression, lack of opinion, ability and charm, which will lead to his husband not loving him, whether he should stick to work or resign.This patient is hesitant!
After graduating from depression, I have continued to work, but the first two jobs were low and I didn't have that much pressure, but now a so-called department manager has overwhelmed himself and feels that he is sorry for his colleagues and leaders, and he is very depressed every day, Crazy about , should I resign?
As a psychological worker, I gave her the following reply, hoping that it might help similar depression patients:
First, depression is a mental disease, and it will not be relieved by resignation!
The first thing I want to say is that depression is a real disease, and it is a mental disease. It is a disease of neurotransmitter disorders in the brain, so it is not imaginary, nor is it a patient pretending to be. from.
Some patients feel that they have social barriers and social phobia after suffering from depression. As the depression progresses, their work ability is greatly reduced, and they are even unable to perform their original work. I just want to quit my job. This is a very wrong idea. Depression will not be relieved by quitting. Depression will lead to a decline in people's ability to think and judge, and even there is a choice barrier. Whether you work or not, These abilities will continue to decline. Once a person suffers from depression, even if there is no work pressure, it will not improve without active treatment!
Second, depression itself is not normal, and the current thinking is not normal. It does not mean that changing the environment can make a difference.
Depression itself is a kind of mental illness, and it is also a kind of neurosis . It is not normal for people to think about problems when they are in a state of depression, so some thoughts are also incorrect. The patient thinks that he will stay at home after quitting his job. It may be better to be less stressful, which is actually a very wrong idea.
work pressure varies greatly, whether it is freelancer or fixed professional, there is a certain amount of pressure, and it is not said that they all suffer from depression, so the key to the problem is not the pressure, but the problem of self-consideration manner, attitude towards difficulties and stress. Looking at any problem in the state of depression is gray, and it is all lost, not to mention that as the disease progresses, it is unable to adapt to the existing work, so I want to avoid it extremely, and choosing not to work and avoid life is not conducive to the disease. It is also a loss to yourself, because you are looking for other jobs, and it is not easy to be competent!
Third, if you do not work and stay at home, it will be even more detrimental to the treatment of the disease.
People are social animals who live in groups. If they are separated from society and stay at home every day, they will derail themselves from society on the one hand, and they will become less active on the other, and fall into a vicious circle.
And if a person works for a long time, he will become more and more lazy, and he will become more and more decadent and lazy. If he does not work and stays at home, there will be no interpersonal relationships, no work and entertainment, and life will become more irregular. It is also getting more and more sluggish, and the state of the whole person will become worse and worse. If it is not severe depression, and you can live and work normally while taking medicine, you still have to actively insist on work and live a normal life!
Fourth, stress is only one aspect of depression, and the main reason is its own internal problems.
As I said above, depression is not the result of a single disease. Stress is only one aspect of depression, especially work stress. The most important thing is that your ability to deal with stress is too low, your personality has problems, your own Personality has certain shortcomings.
From this point of view, if you quit your job, no matter if you change jobs, you can't find your own shortcomings or correct your own problems, and similar situations will still occur. If you quit your job repeatedly, others will think you are If you are not persistent or careful in your work, any unit will not want to use you!
Five, if it is not severe, it is still necessary to keep working!
If the disease progresses very quickly and is really incompetent for the original job, it has reached severe depression. In this case, quitting the job and treating the disease with peace of mind is also a top priority, but as long as it is not severe depression, as long as you can live a normal life, just stick to it If you can continue to work, you should still be active.
Depression itself will lead to a continuous decline in people's thinking ability and judgment ability, and even affect a person's willpower and social skills. Therefore, at this time, people will become very lazy, avoid life, do not want to work, and are unwilling to work hard. So at this time, if you listen to your inner voice, it is often very wrong. The best way is to work and live step by step.
Of course, it is another situation. If the disease continues to progress, there is really no way for you to work, and even you have certain problems with self-care. In this situation, if you insist on working, it is very dangerous. You need to measure your work yourself. It's not too late to think about work until the depression is gradually relieved, and then you can come out slowly.
Sixth, always insist on taking medicine and firmly believe in defeating depression.
Depression is a very vicious disease. He destroys a person's willpower, breaks a person's body, makes you withdraw, avoid work, and don't want to live.Even he will make you have a strong desire to commit suicide, so you should take your medicine on time and in a regular amount at any time, and no matter how painful your body is or how negative your thoughts are, don't choose suicide, you must be firm in your heart, That is the illusion that depression gives you. His purpose is to break himself down, so he must establish a belief in defeating depression. Only in this way can he get rid of depression little by little!
Shunde Hall Mental Health Question Postscript:
Nowadays, the pressure of work and life is increasing, and it is not easy for everyone to live in this world, because no matter when, if you are too poor or poor, any People look down on you. So even if you are depressed, don't be beaten down by life, get up where you fall, grit your teeth and persevere!
When a person has a calm state of mind at all times in his heart, he can bear all the sorrows and setbacks, and can discover the beauty in life and the value of work.
When you become more and more beautiful in the depths of your heart, you will find that the people and scenery around you are beautiful. When your heart is more and more quiet, even if you are low and make trouble, your pressure is great, you You can live peacefully. When you treat others as good people, there will be more and more good people around you. When your giving is an accident, what you get will be an unexpected surprise.
Life is inherently hard, so we can only do it by ourselves. As the saying goes, it is better to seek God than to seek ourselves. The most important thing is to listen to the inner voice. No matter how hard you work, you must look down on life, and you will gain more. More, be a person who is easy to be contented, meet the most beautiful self, insist on a unique self,
has joy in his heart, so that you can often encounter surprises! Only by recognizing yourself can you be content, learn to live, and enjoy life!
I wish every depression patient to actively overcome depression, get rid of depression as soon as possible, keep working and live hard!
