Xiaopan丨Emotional essay series Xiaopan talks about love. Signing author original
Some people say that if two people have been together for more than five years without getting married, the possibility of getting married will become smaller and smaller. Because five years are enough to understand a person, if he understands enough, he still doesn't want to marry you, then he must not love you enough. When
said these words, her friend Zhenzhen took a sip of coffee, and the setting sun shone in from the floor-to-ceiling windows of the cafe, which happened to reflect on her disappointed face.
Zhenzhen said that she knows very well that her boyfriend still loves her, but she knows better that there is one thing in a man's heart that is always more important than love, that is fame and fortune.
Zhenzhen and her boyfriend met in the first year of her senior year. They walked together and did not say that they were not suitable. At that time, Zhenzhen believed that her boyfriend was her future husband, and she remained committed to him. In the four years after
graduated, Zhenzhen traveled to several cities with her boyfriend. They first went to Beijing. When they first settled in Beijing, her boyfriend held Zhenzhen’s hand and said that one day he would let Zhenzhen live. With a bright and clean one-hundred-square-meter house, Zhenzhen said that she already had love, so she believed that they would have everything in the future.
But work in Beijing didn't go well, her boyfriend went to Shanghai again, Zhenzhen had to quit her job and went to Shanghai with him. In the past few years in Shanghai, his boyfriend has begun to change. He is able to endure hardships. From a small employee of a foreign company to a department head, he feels that he has exerted all his energy.
Even so, they still can't stand there. In a place where every inch of land is rich, he, a foreigner who wants to buy a house, is as difficult as climbing to the sky.
Sometimes, Zhenzhen looks at her boyfriend’s face that is sleeping because of excessive exhaustion. She can’t bear to mention the house anymore, but her parents have been putting pressure on her and him. It’s already Zhenzhen going on her own way and running away from home. The biggest concession made by Zhen's parents is that the house is their bottom line. Zhenzhen's boyfriend also knows this very well. He was also his parents who promised Zhenzhen at first. If he can't buy a house within five years, he won't delay Zhenzhen Up.
However, in Zhenzhen's view, this is a slow-down strategy. As long as the parents give them a chance to get along, will they be able to afford a house after five years? In the countless nights where her boyfriend worked overtime, Zhenzhen was sleepless. She thought to herself that at this moment her boyfriend was adding to their new home, and the day they were waiting for was finally coming.
Marriage was proposed by Zhenzhen. She herself has not waited for the fifth year. For a woman who has been living with her boyfriend for three or four years, her good times are not much. In fact, in the past few years , She and him just missed a piece of proof, she stayed with him as a girlfriend, but did everything a wife should do.
Zhenzhen has learned to wash and cook, and to save money. In the days when she is not at work, she is no different from other housewives. The only thing they lack is the proof.
, but her boyfriend disagreed. He said that the future father-in-law and mother-in-law should not look down on him. If he admits it, he will never look up in front of their family members. Zhenzhen knows that her boyfriend’s stubborn temper is something anyone can persuade. It's impossible.
Zhenzhen thinks that the worst result is a naked marriage between two people. There are no people who rent a house to get married. As long as there is love, everything will be there. Zhenzhen wrote in her diary: There will be bread, milk, everything.
The power of love is indeed great. It can make a woman desperate to pursue the person she loves, setting aside everything, but love is sometimes so small, because it is probably not worth mentioning in the face of fame and wealth.
boyfriend finally had a showdown with Zhenzhen. He said he was very tired. These years, his mind was full of houses, cars and tickets, but the harder he worked, the worse his luck. In order to get those things, he was exhausted. , He looked at Zhenzhen and said that in the past, he was really eager to marry Zhenzhen home, and then waited for the happiness of this life, but now he began to wonder if they were the right thing to do together. The bitterness of
over the years told him that love can't be eaten, what price does he have to pay to give their love a home? He could not imagine, because he knew in his heart that this would be a very difficult thing.
Actually, it’s not what Zhenzhen wants to hear. Of course, she knows that everything he says is foreshadowingBut the focus is on the back, but he hasn't said it for a long time. In the end, Zhenzhen spoke up and asked him if he had a more suitable person to marry. At first, her boyfriend was silent, and then she shed tears.
He finally admitted that he was still defeated by reality. The girl with Shanghai household registration, her parents have a stable retirement salary, they have two houses, one can be given to their daughter as a dowry, and they are optimistic about him, The bride price is also eliminated.
Zhenzhen didn't listen to the details. In the end, she only saw her boyfriend's mouth shut in front of her, leaving only a few words in her mind, he could not marry her. The boyfriend of
told Zhenzhen in tears. He said that the ancients sang love, but the ancients finally accepted the reality. They once said, "It is better to forget each other in the rivers and lakes", for them to survive in such a remote place and have no background. For people, it may be right to leave each other, and maybe if you leave each other, everyone can find a more suitable person.
Zhenzhen knew that her boyfriend was touched by the superior conditions of the local family, so he would rather give up the five-year relationship and seize this opportunity. Maybe his life will be less than the endless pressure of nine to five from now on. Irrelevant.
If you love someone to your heart, it’s hard to hate him again, just like Zhenzhen’s feelings for her boyfriend. She knows that he is a person with hardship, so you can’t have too much resentment against him, after all, love In comparison, it is most important to live and live well.
Zhenzhen wrote in her days: "has been in love for five years, but he married someone else" , and since then, she has never opened that diary.
Some people will choose to go all out in the face of pressure, but the pressure of life may be different from what we think. You don't know which pressure is the last straw that overwhelms you. As someone said: in an avalanche, no snowflake is innocent.
Zhenzhen still loves her boyfriend more than she hates, and sometimes she can’t even hate it at all, because she knows that a man shoulders a lot more heavy responsibilities than a woman, and a woman can spend a lot of time fantasizing about life, but it’s like her boyfriend In the heart of the man, love is never that important. Zhenzhen has been blessing her boyfriend in her heart. She knows that he will not be so tired for the time being. As for the future, she does not want to guess at present.
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