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Before marriage, there is a lot of wind; I found that many people still don’t understand, what exactly is marriage?
Marriage is a different way of life. Romantic passion is not its normal state. It is boring and trivial. If you cannot understand this, then failure in marriage is inevitable.
In other words, what is waiting for you after you get married is the most realistic life in the world. There are various household expenses. buys pots and basins to buy oil and salt, children’s clothes and milk powder tuition, relatives and friends are sick and hospitalized If you want to visit, get married and have children, you have to follow the men and so on. Z5z has no money, which means that real life cannot continue.
So life needs money to guarantee. As for feelings, it just means that when life is stable and able to live, it plays a role of icing on the cake and injects temperature and soul.
The bottom building determines the superstructure. If even a stable life is not guaranteed, no matter how deep the relationship is, it can withstand the consumption of a few days.
The essence of life pays attention to a balance. It is impossible to think about it and think about it, and you can't ask for a perfect life. All the good things, it is very difficult to occupy one.
The stability of life, the romance of love, you can only choose the same.
People should have a clear need for marriage . If you don’t have a clear need for marriage and your willingness is fluctuating, it’s best not to get married in a hurry, because there are too many speeches and chicken soup at the moment, and you don’t have enough beliefs. In the case of firmness, it is particularly easy to be biased.
There must be a clear need for marriage, as well as a clear need for a partner. Think about what you covet for a partner, and you can only have the same.
If you want him to be honest, caring, and supportive, and give you a stable life, you can no longer ask him to be romantic, funny, and handsome.
If you covet the latter, then you have to endure his carelessness and carelessness, and you have to accept the turbulent life, spiritual satisfaction, and hard life.
This is a very typical situation, there is no perfect lover in this world, everything is fine, everything is good.
What kind of strengths a person has, what kind of shortcomings, what kind of advantages a person has, what kind of shortcomings must be corresponding.
If this is true even for ourselves, why do we have to demand a partner with harsh standards!
Think clearly about what you want, and when you get it, close your heart. Don’t have those unrealistic fantasies. For example, you clearly want to find an honest man, hoping to live a stable and secure life, but After living a life of hope, he was restless in the room, and felt that the other party was too dull, and began to miss the good of those bad men.
is my own choice, it is very important to be able to walk the path of my choice, and stability is the most precious thing in this long life.
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received a message in the background, from a married woman complaining, she said:
"Before marrying her husband, he can center on me everywhere, love me, love me, and even I have any bad emotions. He can catch it sensitively, and no matter what holiday, he will carefully prepare gifts for me.
But after getting married, I feel like he is a different person, he doesn’t love me so much, and he doesn’t treat me anymore. So patient and attentive, even on my birthday, he would send a red envelope to pass it over. I feel that my mind is not on me anymore, but there is only a small part of it. Is it like this for men? Don’t cherish it if you get it. "Z2z
can only be said to be confused. I don't know if I cherish the stable life in front of me. While enjoying the stable life brought to me by my husband, I also doubted his husband's feelings towards me.
In fact, many good men turn their love for women into responsibility for their families after they get married.
means that his focus of life has shifted. Before, he was the only one of you. Now he has a family. Naturally, his focus must be on family life. What women often don't know about
is that they only see that he is no longer centered on himself everywhere, but they don't see through his bravery.
is a good man who is really responsible for his family. What he thinks every day is how to lead the family through the better.How to make the family live a better life, in addition to dealing with tedious work, maintaining the relationship with colleagues, and enduring the boss’s inexplicable temper, but also thinking about how to repay the mortgage next month and preparing for the child’s tuition. Those relatives who are hospitalized and want to visit again are all money.
After all the family life problems have been solved, I am really tired. I just want to get home and be comfortable for a while. As a result,
has to endure all kinds of accusations and faults from you. Nothing is more cruel and hurtful than this. clearly enjoys the stability he brings to himself and denies everything he has given.
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One truth about marriage: after a man gets married, he will "change his heart"! The change in
here is not not love, but the shift of ’s life’s focus. This is something that can’t be helped, and it’s almost a certain thing, which makes you feel that he has changed, that he doesn’t love you, and he is not careful. Up.
You have to know that when you are in love, you don’t live together at that time. You don’t need to face firewood, rice, oil and salt. Some are just you and me, and you can put all your energy on you, because you just need to be in love. It is enough to negotiate well, and it can also be said that it was his main task to negotiate a good relationship.
But after getting married, what follows is the most realistic life in the world. At this time, he is thinking about how to live the life, rather than making you happy everywhere. Even if
still has that strong feeling for you, but the energy is no longer allowed, just because after solving the life, family and survival problems, you are exhausted.
It’s not only women who like to be coaxed, men also long for the comfort of saying “husband, you’ve worked hard”. You can’t just ask for it from him and think about what you can get. You should also think about his difficulty, he What is needed again.
Also, in this world, there is no eternal passion. Any feelings will go from strong to plain, and then to stability. This is the law and the law. The ordinary and crowded home of is the last place for feelings. There is no one. exception.
If you can’t settle down and live such ordinary but lucky days, you can only change your partner constantly. Similarly, you won’t be able to share the beauty and destiny of one person in the end. firm.
After getting married, the purity of love cannot be measured by the standard of "love", but should be measured by the concentration of "love". It is precisely the existence of this kind of love that not only allows two people to accompany each other, but also Live and die together.
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