welcome to follow @伊说说, women grow up in a gathering place, I hope you can resist the difficult life without wearing armor. After the breakup of
, the things we "did" in
"Predecessor 3", the male and female protagonists were nothing but self-entertainment, and the dramatic effect of laughter enriched the content of the movie.
One smiled and said, "I want to dress up as Monkey King, and say I love you a hundred times in the most crowded place, and the other smiled and agreed, "I want to eat mangoes and eat allergies. I swear by this, as if forever Will not separate in general. I was in love at that time, and I felt that I would never come to an end, so I can swear unscrupulously, as if when that day comes, these vows that seem to have sufficient "deterrence" can hinder the breakup.
And the moment when the real breakup comes, it is often silent and indifferent, it is not even true to the point that we think it will pass naturally. Just as Meng Yun always thought that Lin Jia would come back, Lin Jia thought that Meng Yun would stay.
So they used all kinds of "work" to sting each other until they were both bruised and bruised, and they were willing to walk away. The reason why they used all kinds of "unreasonable" behaviors to embellish the end is because they really loved each other hard, and the good memories they shared have really happened. They kept telling both parties that it might not end this way, or maybe it was. If you can do some more work, it might have a better ending, rather than a hasty end.
Love is silent when it happens, it is as natural as growth, and it is the same when it leaves, we no longer love, it is so far away.
Yan Geling once said: "People in this world are probably inseparable and inseparable."
So, why can't two people in love and marriage break up?
is because one or both parties are unwilling to be reconciled, unreconciled that those good memories have really disappeared, and those good things that belong only to each other have really stayed in the past.
We do see character when we break up.
Evaluation of a person is not when we are in a good relationship, but after we are separated: after a friend close to me has broken up, he is recovered by his boyfriend for the loss of funds during the relationship, and spread in the circle of friends All kinds of "evidence" of the other party's indiscretion, using all vicious words to guess the "real reason" of the woman's breakup, caused friends to have fear of love for a long time.
In every intimate relationship, although bystanders are sober, they may not be able to distinguish the authenticity of the so-called evidence, who has fewer faults and who has more faults.
is more to see, why are they so embarrassed?
The relationship between two people is always a matter of two people. When one chooses to involve the other person, trying to accuse the other party, standing on the so-called moral high ground and criticizing the other's faults, you should ask yourself: this Is it love? Maybe just not reconciled.
Correspondingly, many girls like to ask the subject’s evaluation of their ex. They seem to like to hear their boyfriends say: "She is not as good-looking as you, and she has a better character than you." And so on, good friends have never been exempt. Asked her boyfriend: "Eh, how is your ex-girlfriend? Why did you break up?" The
boyfriend said solemnly: "She has nothing wrong with her, but now she has nothing to do with me. Now, the reason for the breakup is mainly my problem, but I have changed it almost, so I met you." After listening to this, my friend suddenly realized his own narrowness, why do you believe that one is in front of you? Can someone who degrades his ex-girlfriend be nice to you after breaking up? How would he evaluate you to others?
We can often see in our lives those couples who can’t be separated after breaking up. When they become parties, they will always complicate simple things. The movie "She" is about the love of man and machine, but it makes people feel right. The actor is deeply impressed by the feelings of his ex
Although the male protagonist is separated from his wife, the reason for the separation has not been described in detail. On the contrary, the male protagonist’s mind often flashes back to those beautiful pictures of spending time with his wife, those who want to say...but love no longer exists It's definitely not because of a certain shortcoming, nor because of some external environment, but we chose to say, separate. Look at
, how easy it is!You can pluck that flower for me and send it to my palm, and I can also collect that flower in my palm for a long distance, and when we say "break up", it is not that the road is too far, nor the flower It’s wrong; it was the two of us who chose to come together, and you were the one who held my hand. So when you let go, can you be more dignified and decent?
can’t say goodbye because there is a child-like obsession
Many people after the breakup, hope that the other party will live worse than themselves; I meet each other on the road and hope to use the best posture to deal with each other The crushing; may even directly use actual actions to make the other party uncomfortable and have a bad life.
In "Thirty-three Days of Broken Relationship", we couldn't imagine that Huang Xiaoxian was so good, how did she break up with her ex-boyfriend, and we couldn't figure it out just like her, why did he fall in love with other people?
From beginning to end, we can find that Huang Xiaoxian has a child living in his heart, or that many people have a child living in their hearts, so they will stubbornly think that the other party does not love it, it must be because there is another lover. . And oneself is no longer loved, just like a child who has lost his beloved toy and wants to get his own things back. Have you found it? When this kind of psychology arises, you already regard the other person as your own possession, but love is not possession.
said in "Second Sex": "She is the other to him, through her, men find themselves." For women,
is the object on which love is concreteized, and love is the greatest weapon of women. This weapon can soothe him and nourish himself, and it can also become a sharp blade, hurting others and self. If you don’t love anymore, it may be easy for one party to get away, and it may be difficult for the other party. We have been struggling not to be troubled by love. At the same time, we involuntarily produce a feeling of nostalgia, and nostalgia will make us Even more unable to face the present, so we need to grasp the present in time. After
, I learned how to grow up. There has never been a template for love in this world. From ancient times to the present, from now on, we interrogate in novels, ask in movies, and repeatedly in TV dramas, what exactly is the pursuit of love? Is it never parting? Is it a feeling that will not deteriorate?
Then why the most part of all love is breaking up. It is telling us over and over again and tirelessly how to get out of those past loves and get away with dignity.
Our love is not like the food with expiration date in the fast food store. It is ready to eat when you open the bag and throw it away after you eat it; what we pursue is not the eternal passion soaked in formalin; it is every morning Seeing the other party and Chaoyang with peace of mind.
As Milan Kundera said: "The so-called love is the peace of sleeping with her." After breaking up with
, learn to grow and learn to love better. Nine Knives made the best annotation in "The Girl We Chased Together in Those Years", and the movie also made the best interpretation: After our vigorous love, on your wedding day, we can use the most sincere attitude , The most sincere smile to reply to the best love of the past. We don't have to go to Ta's wedding, but we should learn to smile at those memories instead of denying them.
A breakup should also be an opportunity for growth. Learn to say goodbye decently, learn to value yourself more, and in the end we will accept the past of a relationship. This is what we should learn in love, and it will also teach us how to be better. To love others.
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