's "Wonderful Flower Talk" program, there used to be such a topic: "If someone is in love, should you tell your partner?"
On this question, Gao Xiaosong said: "What is a good relationship? That is, we all become better selves. ......We have become better selves, which is the meaning of life." Many people think that when a husband and wife are together, they can say nothing. The two people will gradually merge into one. The secret, even to stick together every day. In fact, "It is a disaster to walk too close to each other." Only by keeping a close distance can you feel good. Just like watching a movie, the seat closest to the curtain looks good, but in fact, you always have to look up when watching a movie. It's very tired and you may not be able to see it clearly.
Good couples have something in common, but also allow "different". Respect each other's "differences", everyone can get a certain amount of freedom, and live more easily. When couples get along, not all things should be "frank". Some things are their own privacy, so it is better not to say them.
The more people who love you, the more they like to be jealous, you really don’t have to knock down the "jealous jar". There are some "secrets" between husband and wife who would rather rot in their stomachs than to say, especially the following. I can’t say a word about the details of the relationship between
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and his predecessor.
Many people, their lovers, are not their first love. Before getting married, I had a relationship with several people. Of course, with whom you have been in a relationship before, and how long you have talked about, these things, if you don’t talk about them, others know, it’s no secret. Before you got married, you also talked about this topic with your lover, and your lover can also tolerate you.
However, the emotional entanglement between you and your ex, there are many detailed pictures, these things, in retrospect, are not beautiful, and even sad. Don’t tell your lover about these details. For example, you and your ex are holding hands to see the stars. The scene at that time is very romantic; you and your ex are traveling together. There are many stories that happened between the two people on the way.
You have to understand that the less contact you have with your ex and the less time you talk about your ex, your marriage will be stronger. Instead of discussing topics related to your ex, it is better to care more about the health and career of your lover, and more concerned about the growth of your children.
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have had an extramarital love, or have germinated the idea of changing your mind, don't mention it again after it has passed.
love tutor Tu Lei said: “The first time to forgive is kind, the second time is tolerance, and the third time is base.” Don’t really think that those who love you will forgive you unlimitedly, and there is also forgiveness.” Limit". Some things cannot be forgiven once.
Extramarital love is like "a thorn in the eye, a thorn in the flesh". Whoever encounters it will be uncomfortable; whose lover encounters it will be miserable. If you have had an extramarital love, and then return to your family and obtain forgiveness from your lover, then from now on, you should never mention this relationship anymore, and let time slowly obliterate the memory.
If you have no extramarital love, but you have germinated the idea of changing your mind, you must wake up in time and let your heart return to its original place. You are already a person with a family, you can't just love anyone, and you can't just accept the love of others.
Most of the extramarital love comes together because of profit and money. Especially middle-aged men, some people say "I love you", most of them love your money and love your career. If you are too poor, no one loves you.
When you see the true face of extramarital love, you can slowly let go. Love your family well. Regarding the topic of extramarital love, you should treat it as a secret, rather than talk about it in your stomach.
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Outside of marriage, if someone pursues you, just learn to refuse, don’t tell your lover.
Some people do not become "greasy uncles, yellow-faced women" after marriage, but still look young and beautiful; some people, after getting married, live younger and younger, and are often mistaken for single. If you have always been young and a good person to deal with, most of you will fall in love with you accidentally.
Others do not know that you are married, but they boldly pursue you and take the initiative to chat with you on WeChat. At that time, you will feel "happy is coming", but you should wake up in time and learn to reject such love.
People who have a family should be responsible for theirIf you meet someone who pursues you, you will reject it decisively and keep it in your heart. Don’t tell your lover. Imagine that you said something like this to love, your lover It must be very sad. On the one hand, he feels that he has become very old and unlikable; on the other hand, he feels that there is a crisis in his relationship, and may even be suspicious.
"Family and everything are happy", a harmony In my family, there is often a person with a strong heart, tolerating the ugliness and past of the other person, and also tolerating his own dirty things. Only by hiding things that are not beautiful in my heart and showing the beautiful side will the family be more harmonious.
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The love of a good friend has "changed", you know it, don't tell your lover. As the saying goes: "Three women make a play." "Many women will say anything when they are with their best friends. Of course, good buddies will also say some "secret" things.
When your good friends, the couple have divorced and changed their hearts, he will probably know I want to talk to you. After you know this, you don’t know how to deal with it. You can only sincerely comfort your good friend, hope that he will cheer up, and hope that he will take the overall situation of the family as the priority and not hurt the family at will.
When you Knowing that the love of a good friend has "changed", you will probably talk to your lover and hope to hear your lover’s advice. In fact, you can’t say that. Because your lover will also become a "megaphone". What you said to him should be repeated to more people. As the saying goes: "One pass ten, ten pass a hundred, pass it back and forth to change rumors. "Your good friend trusts you very much, so I told you a heart-wrenching thing, but you spread it out, and you will definitely hurt your good friend.
couples need to know the basics, but still know how to keep their privacy. , Don’t let the secrets in your heart become the “sharp sword” that hurts the feelings. Z1z
couples get along, let the past and the future, cherish the happiness in front of you, don’t let the things of "Chen Guzi, Rotten Sesame", ruin your happiness .
author: commoner coarse food .
attention to my words, into your heart .
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