As the saying goes: There is less smoke on the roof of the widower, and more troubles in front of the widow. The first half of the sentence
is easy to understand. A widower refers to a man who has not remarried after being widowed and has no children. A person's life is usually simple, and he can eat and wear everything, especially if a man eats anything. Usually you just deal with it casually, and you're done with a stomachache. It is very rare to have a fire in a day and to cook a meal, so naturally there will be less smoke.
However, the second half of this sentence is quite controversial. A widow refers to a woman who has lost her husband and has not remarried. Widows have a lot of right and wrong, and they are usually taken as derogatory words accusing the widow of not observing women's ways. Think that the widow is intolerable and the deep boudoir is lonely.
Another explanation is: because widows have no owner, they have become the object of those bachelor men's eagerness to pursue. Bachelors who don't work hard gather in front of the widow's door, and things often happen. It is even possible to fight to win the return of the beauties. Cause unnecessary bloodshed.
So, why do bachelors race to pursue widows?
Most people think that because there were a lot of bachelor men in ancient times, and the rich and powerful all took up girls, especially the emperor, who owns tens of thousands of women alone, the distribution of "resources" is severely uneven, and the common people have no "resources", no Who does the woman marry? At this time, widows have become the target of men’s pursuit. Compared to the three-match six-employment when marrying Huanghua's daughter, it is relatively cheaper to marry a widow. The status of
in ancient women is very low. Except for a few lucky ones, it is difficult for ordinary women to decide their own destiny. The so-called "father at home and married husband" is basically at the mercy. Therefore, whether it is praise or derogation, "the widow’s right and wrong" has become a fact.
