saw someone consulting about marriage issues yesterday. The main content was that after the wife had a child, her attitude towards her in-laws was very bad. The son felt that the wife was too much and wanted to divorce. But the child is still young, and the mother-in-law also persuaded not to divorce, so I was very entangled.
briefly summarized the cause and course of the incident, and would like to hear everyone's views.
1. The husband is a college student from the countryside, the parents are honest farmers, the wife is a woman chasing a man, and she does not dislike her husband’s poverty.
2, the wife gives birth to children, and the in-laws take care of it from the middle of the twelfth lunar month to the Lantern Festival. Later, because the parents-in-law needed to take care of the grandmother, and the grandmother was seriously ill, from the Lantern Festival to August and September of that year, the in-laws stayed in their hometown.
3. After the death of grandma, the two parents-in-law sold the things from their hometown and planned to live in the city to take care of their children. The conflict broke out.
4. The wife gave her in-laws a face, quarreled with her in-laws, and scolded her. Later, he was so angry that his father-in-law returned to his hometown. Six months later, the father-in-law died of illness, leaving her mother-in-law alone. The wife scolded her mother-in-law, and the husband beat his wife.
5. One year later, the wife forced her mother-in-law to leave, and the mother-in-law lived alone in her hometown, and the husband thought about divorce. Z1z
commented on this issue. More than half of the people are accusing their husbands. Even if the wife scolds the in-laws, drives them away, and does such a disrespectful thing, they still get the support of more than half of the people. It can be seen that justice is free. Human heart.
The husband emphasized throughout the article how honest his parents are, so he is not good at talking and has a weak personality. The wife complained and abused the two elders because her parents returned to her hometown to take care of her grandmother.
And a girl who was able to marry a poor boy without hesitation before marriage, why after giving birth to a child, she is so ruthless and unrighteous, so she has to push her in-laws on the road to absolutes?
First of all, look at how the in-laws take care of the pregnant and daughter-in-law after giving birth. Unfortunately, the husband did not mention how to take care of him, only that he was taken care of.
Three meals a day plus two extra meals are also taken care of. Only one meal a day is fried, and the remaining two hot meals are also taken care of. It is more likely that the daughter-in-law is greedy to buy snacks. The elderly feel that wasting money is not good for the health. A kind of care.
Let's take a look at the time to help with the child. The child is out of confinement, and it is basically the time for the second elder to return to his hometown. More than half a year has passed. When the second elder comes back, the child will be close to one year old. And when it is the hardest to bring the most troublesome, it is the natal parents who help.
But parents-in-law, once they sell things from their hometown, they will come to the city again to bring their children. Maybe this wife did not complain that her parents-in-law didn't bring the children when they were young, but she couldn't accept the wishful thinking that the children had to come and brought them when they were old.
Also, because he scolded the mother-in-law, the husband beat his wife. Even if it is wrong to scold an old man, is it really so easy to hit someone?
If the wife scolds the elderly, the husband stops and cannot help but scolds his wife, I believe everyone thinks it is natural. But once you do it, it reminds you of the machismo style of "women have to deal with disobedience".
This is how a highly educated man deals with his wife who has made a mistake. I don’t know what the wife’s natal family should do to this husband after they know it. Did the elder brother and the younger brother-in-law rush into the house and punch and kick the man who beat his wife? It may also be that the husband has spotted that his wife is the only daughter and only the elderly parents-in-law, so he can't be helped.
At the end of the matter, the elderly and widowed mother lived alone in the country. The filial son felt that such a woman was really bad and should be divorced. On one side is an aggressive wife, and on the other side is a mother who has worked hard for a lifetime. He is a passionate man who should be filial to his mother. But where did the once gentle and considerate girl go, and who lost it?
Looking back at the whole thing, the husband sees only the hard work of his parents. Have you ever sympathized with your wife?
The living habits of the rural elderly and their daughter-in-law in the city are different.
helps bring the children and live for a long time, is there any communication and discussion in advance?
When the old man and his wife have conflicts, do they secretly comfort the wife while comforting the old man?
When the husband raised his fist, did he forget that this is his lover and just use her as a disobedient nanny?
A girl, when she married a boy, she first thought of how to build a love nest with her prince. In this small family, there are her and him, and their baby. Before marriage, a man will only make sweet promises to her. No one has ever said how you will treat my parents in the future. If you can't do it, I will not marry you.
But after marriage, everything has changed. Girls are no longer the princesses who are cared for, but men have more and more demands on girls. As a result, the girl resented, resented, resisted, and finally became grumpy and full of complaints. When
asks someone, ask her what she got and what you gave. If you haven't paid and she hasn't received it, please don't ask for it.
