has long been a commonplace to look at the latest information every day, but whenever we take a look on the information platform, as long as it involves some popular variety shows, TV series and movies, we will find a long time. Thread messages like "I can", "I can again", "I really want a sweet love".
Yes, these messages are comments from many star fans, so there was a saying in the fan circle: "What is there to talk about in love, is it not popular to follow stars?"
long before such words became popular, and Such as "what kind of love you are talking about, whoever's mobile phone is not fun or the drama is not good". Of course, we can compare these popular words among young people to the way young people make fun of themselves, and even in some occasions, they can be used as clever jokes for everyone to enjoy.
However, behind these claims, there are actually more behavioral motives of young people nowadays.
can tell you a little story specifically, it is my friend's sister.
Her name is Nan Nan, a typical 5G surfing girl, from games to animations, from novels to cps. When it comes to these topics, she can always talk to you a lot. Especially in the matter of hitting cp on the road to chasing stars, I am particularly focused.
In the words of my friend, her sister is typically unavailable in reality, and puts these hopes on these cps.
Of course, Nan Nan is not untouched. After graduating from university, she is considered a "social man". The sisters in the former dormitory and the newcomers in the office all dropped out of orders, not to mention the usual work circles. Those seniors who are already married.
She is not sour when others are alone. What is sour is that the sisters who shared gossip, chasing stars, and stunned CP with her in the past have their own circles of life, but she is alone.
"A young and lovely girl like me, there is no one to flirt? Is there any reason?"
This is Nan Nan's original words, and it can be seen between the lines that they are two old and Chinese. The fierce Nan Nan started her love-seeking journey. The first stop was the major social software. Needless to say, a pot of cold water was poured over it and it was so cold. Then there are some interest groups, and they just went home. Although
repeatedly hits the wall, Nan Nan will still squeeze out the words "Intermittently want to fall in love and continue to enjoy being single" from the gap between his teeth when talking, to avoid embarrassment for himself. A friend of
said that Nan Nan really wanted to fall in love after hitting the wall a few times. He used to find it easy, but later he thought it was easy to follow stars. Nan Nan now is like a trapped beast, as long as there is a little chance, she will definitely seize it.
Six months later, Nan Nan was still the same Nan Nan, and still did not succeed in leaving the order.
I asked her curiously, did she encounter any obstacles on the way out of the order?
Nannan’s answer was straightforward: "There is nothing suitable!"
I asked her: "What do you think is suitable?"
She said: "At least as handsome as Li Xian, but also as gentle as Bawei, the best I can say two more na na mi." After
said, I can't seem to say anything except a wry smile.
Nan Nan is a relatively typical example. If Nan Nan's situation is narrowed down, we can easily find that there are such girls everywhere in life.
They are in good condition and have very good personalities. They even have a saying that there are many people who chase them, but they can always see complaints about no one chasing themselves in their social dynamics. What is the reason for
? I can't say that they are unworthy. Take a closer look at
, we will actually find that they have one thing in common, that is, they have built a model in their minds, and this model is what they expect from their other half.
In fact, for many girls, it is not because the model is far from their own conditions, but because their obsession with this model far exceeds their imagination.
met a lot of people, but if you want to fit your model perfectly, it’s really one in a million, not to mention that in many cases, the way we expect the other half is basically higher than our own equal condition or level. of.
If you follow this idea, you will definitely hit a wallYes, but it does not rule out that there are indeed such people among the people who are seeking, but he has no opportunity to show to the other party at all, so he drags him away from the heart. The end result of
is to add a bunch of friends, and in the end all robots are silent.
Actually, let's think about it from another angle. When we are choosing each other, the other party is also choosing us. We are going on this road, and what we are about to encounter is actually to find the bond of each other in getting along.
Expectation is always anticipation, imagination is always imagination. All the real people in life are obtained through their own contact and running-in.
God will not favor a person who is not prepared, not to mention many people just want to take bread empty-handed.
I always heard people say that we should fish in the right pond. Similarly, if you want to meet something better, you must first allow your social radius to enter such a group, and you are in another group, you can't always think of drinking Coke in white water.
If you want to get a sweet love, you need to do two things well. Firstly, find your own position, and secondly, to feel, to contact and to understand.
Everyone is a treasure. If you can see everything about the other person at a glance, then this person really won't be your ideal type, unless you only want so superficial.
I am Li Yang, I wish you happiness.
author | Li Yang
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graphic editor | Ayou
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