is a kind of beauty, like a small city facing the night, reflecting the splendor of the sunset.
As long as you are an adult, you know that menopause is a terrible term. When you encounter all kinds of unpleasant troubles, you want to vent it all in your head, and you have to say it regardless of whether others are willing or willing to listen. This is The biggest shortcoming of a woman to middle age.
has a lot of things that should and shouldn’t be said, so it's endless, so the word "mother-in-law" came up. The implication is that there is too much nonsense, very long-winded, and annoying. Because of this, when a woman reaches middle age, she shouldn’t talk too much. The closer people are, the more likely they are to become "enemies" that dislike each other and are difficult to tolerate. This is the principle of falling in love and killing each other.
A woman who is too smart is not necessarily a good thing, but being too confused is also irresponsible to herself. She knows how to keep a certain distance, grasp these standards, and have a more harmonious relationship with other people.
PART 1. Treat your mother-in-law as your own mother and talk to her too much. It is easy to have sex with her.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law after marriage has always been a headache. Some middle-aged women who want to get closer to their mother-in-law will treat her mother-in-law as her own mother, and say everything to her, hoping to put her heart in exchange for the trust of the other person, but in the end it is counterproductive and more likely to have sex. The reason is that the mother-in-law can never be equal to the mother-in-law. The two have different perspectives on the daughter-in-law and daughter, and the understanding of thinking will be different, which will produce a very different impression.
My mother has seen her daughter grow up since she was a child, and she knows her daughter’s advantages and disadvantages. Generally, mothers will be used to tolerate their daughter’s shortcomings, will not be embarrassed, will not care too much, this is a long-term Habits formed.
But the mother-in-law is not. In her eyes, marrying a daughter-in-law should mean marrying a "finished product" rather than a "semi-finished product". The so-called "finished product" means that everything must be done in place and cannot always be unsatisfactory. "Semi-finished products" is an imperfect person who always makes mistakes here and unsatisfactory there.
Compared the two, the gap is obvious. She regards her mother-in-law as her mother, but the mother-in-law will not have the same tolerance and tolerance as her mother. The daughter-in-law says everything, but appears to be unable to do well, which will only attract more complaints. Stiff the relationship.
PART2. Treat your girlfriend as a sister, and talk to her too much, leaving the handle
's so-called "comrades with one heart to heart". There will be no grievances or conflicts of interest between brothers and sisters. They are close to each other. Being one, even if they are separated in the future and have their own family lives, they will remember this affection and will not be susceptible to each other.
The tacit understanding and trust that have been established with each other are like an instinct, which has always existed in the hearts of brothers and sisters, but if a middle-aged woman wants to transplant this tacit understanding and trust between her girlfriends, the key depends on who the other person is. , Is it suitable.
As the old saying goes, "the human heart is separated by the belly". People have different thinking and different concepts, and the way of understanding things is also different. You want to be free from distractions and put your heart to your heart, but it also depends on the character and personality of others.
Some people are open-minded and friendly, which is of course no problem, but some people deliberately and conceal evil intentions, and may use your secrets and private talks as a handle, which in turn will cause you a negative impact and disadvantage you.
When a woman is middle-aged, she must speak according to the person. Don't treat her girlfriends as sisters and say everything, so as not to leave a handle.
PART3, treat a colleague as a confidant, talk to him, leave hidden dangers for promotion
different relationships and different ways of getting along, this is a vigilance that a middle-aged woman should have. There is an underlying law in the workplace: Don’t talk to leaders and subordinates, and don’t treat colleagues as friends, otherwise the results will be terrible.
A woman is a passionate animal, but she can’t have a lot of friendship and self-confidence. She treats everyone as the object of confession and the people around her as her confidant. You must know that there is always competition among colleagues, the survival of the fittest, who Whoever has the ability to improve, whoever is clumsy, will be eliminated. Z1z
speaks to the heart of your peers and treats people as confidants. People may conversely use this kind of rare information as a tool to restrict you, and ultimately affect your own future and development space.
Middle-aged people are very difficult, women are even more difficult, do not regard colleagues as confidantes, beware of being used and restricted.
Concluding remarks:
When getting along with people, we must understand the principle of "distinct smell and close smell", keep a proper distance and consciously keep the boundaries.Make the relationship more harmonious; on the contrary, I always want to give everything I have to the other party, no matter how good or bad, the relationship will be bored by this, resulting in a lot of extra rejection.
"Eat seven points full, drink six points full, talk three points" is the basic rule of getting along with others.
When a woman reaches middle age, she should pay attention to the boundary between herself and the people around her, and keep a little bit of conversation to avoid trouble.
