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Not long ago, Zhang Ziyi, who had given birth to her second child, was released as soon as the photo of her comeback to participate in fashion events was released, causing almost overwhelming negative comments from the entire network.
said on the Internet: "The face collapses and collagen is lost, as if she is ten years old." For a while,
sighed that "second child urges people to grow old" and screamed all over the Internet. Also frequently exposed, 49-year-old Yu Feihong is compared with 41-year-old Zhang Ziyi, who has just given birth to her second child. The result of
is self-evident. Yu Feihong's skin is firm, his face is plump, and his complexion is superb. Zhang Ziyi's decree lines are obvious, his skin is sagging, and his apple muscles are sagging, and the signs of aging are very prominent.
So, those male netizens who like to make comments on women’s looks come to the conclusion: Although
are both born with high-quality faces, Yu Feihong, who is 49 years old and unmarried, has a "middle-aged girl feeling" and Zhang Ziyi, who has given birth to two children at 41 She became an aunt.
makes such a comparison, and the result is embarrassing. I don't know which way of life to choose as a woman is correct?
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"Never remarry, nor marry again": After the divorce, she lived as a woman most envied.
She is her cousin and colleague Gong Hong. She has been in a state of "single life" for many years. She enjoys it and does not want to change at all. The most rare thing about
is that the people around her have become accustomed to her choice. No one criticizes her lifestyle. On the contrary, she feels that she did it for granted.
Is the social atmosphere really so relaxed, and the tolerance for women's life choices is already so high?
After carefully reading the story of Gong Hong below, maybe you can find the answer to this question.
Gong Hong has a special personality. He will not wrong himself for the feelings of others, nor will he make himself feel bad for the sake of others, nor will he force himself to do things that he does not like for the eyes of the people around him.
Gong Hong has always lived a special self.
, as actress Hu Yinmeng said:
alone, especially a woman, can not be achieved overnight, and it takes too much courage to be able to fully live out under the influence of divergent opinions.
After graduating from university, Gong Hong chose a relatively stable institution for employment. He just didn't want to bear too much work pressure and live so tired.
had just started working, many enthusiastic colleagues in the unit introduced to Gong Hong, but she declined. It hasn’t been long since
started working. Gong Hong felt that he hadn’t fully figured out whether he would adapt to the environment, whether he liked the job or not, and he had no extra energy to deal with.
Gong Hong didn't realize that he must be with whom, let alone that he must get married, and live by himself. Is it uncomfortable? When
knew about Gong Hong's plan, her relatives and friends were very surprised. The parents were even shocked by her shocking thoughts. They felt that Gong Hong was simply rebellious.
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Family dinner during the Spring Festival that year, relatives in a room took turns to promote marriage to Gong Hong. Those who are subtle and euphemistic are fortunate to say that the aggressive words are very overwhelming for Gong Hong. After
, Gong Hong felt the social pressure of not falling in love and not getting married, but she still did not compromise with reality and insisted on being single.
Until her best friend came back from her newly-married honeymoon, her face was filled with unconscious happiness. She couldn't take it anymore. Gong Hong realized that maybe it's good to be in love and get married. She wants to try it.
So, Gong Hong, who is efficient in his work, soon met Zhou Bin, a man who is good at programming, under the introduction of his enthusiastic colleagues.
Gong Hong and Zhou Bin came into contact, and they felt pretty good. At least they had a decent quality. Although they didn't understand romance, they didn't have a lot of fun. They could have in-depth contacts and even get married. After
got married, Gong Hong felt that it was totally different. She was particularly uncomfortable with adding an unrelated person in her life, and she felt suffocated.
Maybe when they were in love, the two of them were very busy, there were not many opportunities to meet, and the time to get along was short, Gong Hong felt acceptable.
is now in marriage. They face each other day and night. Many of the shortcomings hidden in love are exposed, making Gong Hong feel crazy.
Zhou Bin’s life is informal, he throws dirty clothes everywhere, stinks socks everywhere, he doesn’t wash his teeth or brushes his teeth, he just lie on the bed, Gong Hong, who loves to be clean, can't bear it, and husband and wife wars often break out between the two.
Gong Hong always thought, if only Zhou Bin could be put in the refrigerator, it would be nice to take it out to thaw when needed, and freeze it in the refrigerator when not needed.
Unfortunately, Zhou Bin is a big living person and cannot keep the refrigerator at any time. Gong Hong either insisted on enduring it or separated completely. Gong Hong chose the latter and she divorced.
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During the time when she was just divorced, Gong Hong was blamed by her parents, persuaded by relatives, and ridiculed by her work colleagues. She stuck to her original intention and did not turn her head back. After
returned to singleness, Gong Hong felt that she felt as if she had come back to life again. She felt very good. She felt comfortable and suitable for her life alone.
Living alone, Gong Hong doesn't have to change himself for anyone, how to be comfortable, how to live, how to be happy, especially comfortable, especially comfortable.
Gong Hong will put on exquisite makeup, wear beautiful dresses, dress beautifully, and clock in to work in a great mood. During the lunch break, her delicious and nutritious bento made her colleagues who can only eat big pot meals in the cafeteria envy, and some even drooled.
After get off work, Gong Hong’s spare time by herself is arranged in a colorful manner. She learns to arrange flower arrangements, play guzheng, do baking, go to the Qing Bar, drink and listen to songs, free and easy!
The life of a person has been enjoyed by Gong Hong. This kind of life lasts for more than ten years. Colleagues have become accustomed to Gong Hong's "single life" state, and even feel that she was born like this, otherwise it would be wrong Up. On the day of
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, the bell rang after get off work. People on the same floor lined up in front of the check-in machine to sign out. Everyone stood next to each other. Gong Hong was surrounded by female colleagues about her age. She looked the youngest.
, especially her undyed dark black hair, is almost envious of the female colleagues around her. They are already the stars of the same age, and their youth is gone.
So the colleagues began to talk about it.
Some people think that Gong Hong's "single life" way is good, just look at Gong Hong who is still young and beautiful.
Some people say that a woman still has to get married and have children, or she will be so lonely when she gets old. When she gets sick and lies in bed, she doesn't even have a person to pour water for her. What's more terrifying is that no one knows when she is sick at home.
When you see this, you may think, what kind of lifestyle should a woman choose, which is the best and most right?
From Gong Hong’s experience, a divorced woman tells you: The best way out for the rest of your life is not to remarry or remarry, but to choose to live for yourself and live the life you want. The choices in
in this world are neither good nor bad. Both have their advantages and disadvantages, depending on what you want! A's honey, B's arsenic.
Don't be jealous of other people's lives, one mountain looking at one mountain high, but to focus on the present, live the life of your choice, not forget your original intention, and get the life you want through hard work.
Choose what you love, love what you choose, and you will live happily and happily.
Whether you are a "single", a woman, or a mother, it is a state of life. There is no difference between superior and inferior. The most important thing is that you can live your life the way you like, which is the greatest success in life!
It can be seen that the happiness of a woman in this life is actually colorful. Whether you choose to be single, or choose to get married and have children, enter marriage, this is your choice, it has nothing to do with right or wrong, only with happiness. The most important thing about
is that your choice is the happiness you want. The most fearful thing is that many women are confused and don't know what happiness they want.
Here, I sincerely hope that every woman can read the happiness advice written by Carnegie to women.
In this set of books, it will tell you what happiness is like from the perspective of women. It can help you strengthen your heart and find the direction of life. You will no longer be confused and will not follow the trend.
At any time, you can only experience the purest happiness if you are loyal to yourself and do what you want to do. I hope you can do the same.
