comes out to participate in various dinners, work parties, and circle activities, many times you will encounter someone giving you a cigarette. Many people who don’t smoke always say directly to each other: Thank you, I don’t smoke. A reply like
is actually very inappropriate. What you refuse is not just a cigarette, but a possible contact. The behavior of smoking
is actually a tentative behavior, especially when the two are not familiar with each other. The smoker first wants to convey goodwill, and second, he wants to test the possibility of further communication between the two.
If you have received a cigarette, it means that the two have a common interest or topic, and the other person also feels your approval, and will be more active when they want to communicate further.
For us, if we take the cigarette, and then take the initiative to find a topic to talk, it will be smoother.
If your refusal attitude is too clear, the other party will feel frustrated. For most people who are not very active in interpersonal communication, they will withdraw passively and will not continue to communicate with you in the future.
Think about it, if you stand up and pass a cigarette and the other party just says no, you will feel embarrassed. Even if you understand that the other party does not smoke, there will be a faint feeling in your heart, and you will feel that the other party is not particularly showing face.
What the other person wants to test is your attitude towards interpersonal communication. Preliminarily judge whether you are a person who is not in contact with you, or someone who can talk with you more easily.
At this time, even if we don't want to develop contacts, we should not leave an impression that is not close to the human relationship. We should make a good impression as much as possible, make good bonds, and maybe there will be opportunities for cooperation in the future. Z1z
If we don't want to smoke now, or if we don't smoke, how can we deal with it better?
The first way to deal with it: We can stand up and take the cigarette, and after expressing our gratitude to the other party, put the cigarette on the table. If the other party wants to ignite the fire for us, we will explain: No need, I will smoke after dinner.
At this time, find some topics to talk with each other, and you can communicate further. This is usually suitable for people we want to make contact with. If it is difficult to refuse the delay of the other party, we should respond first and then find opportunities to communicate.
The second way to deal with it: stand up and show respect, and sincerely apologize to the other party: I’m sorry, I don’t smoke, but thank you.
If the other person is a more important person, or a person we particularly need to make, we can toast someone a cup of tea or wine after the other person has smoked.
can say this: you give me a cigarette, because you are worthy of me. I don’t smoke. I’m really sorry. I will offer you a glass of gratitude and apologies. Z1z
probably means this, express it in your own customary language. When the other person feels your sincerity, they will leave a deep and good impression on you, and then you will have a lot of in-depth contacts.
When it comes to smoking, I have seen a smarter way of not smoking, but carrying a pack of cigarettes with you, and knowing some common sense related to smoking.
When you reach the necessary social occasions, you can take the initiative to give others a cigarette, and you can also chat with the smoker to open up the topic. Otherwise, if you come across an occasion where everyone smokes, you will be embarrassed sitting there and it will be difficult to blend in.
Of course, if you have a certain strength and status, you don't have to cater to others like this. After all, when you are not that strong, you still have to cooperate with some social rules, and this is the case with smoking.
