Author: Yiduo
Picture: from the Internet
"Why are you dressed like a beggar? This is too tasteless..."
Just imagine a scene. You and your husband are attending a friend's party. As soon as your friends see what your husband is wearing, they immediately show disdain and ridicule. They gather in groups and loudly comment on your husband's clothes, saying that he dresses like a beggar. It doesn't matter once or twice. They repeat this sentence endlessly throughout the day.
As a wife, not only did you not notice the embarrassment and unhappiness on your husband’s face, but you also did not stop yourself from your friend’s “mean” remarks and continued talking and laughing with your friend.
This is a real incident that happened to Su Shiding and Lu Ge in "Goodbye Lover 2".
Since he was attending a friend's party, a man must have chosen the most outstanding outfit early. He wanted to make his wife look good in front of a crowd. As a result, Lu Ge not only did not receive recognition and praise, but was also ridiculed and called a beggar. This matter would not be easy for anyone.
If it were any other woman, she might have gotten angry and come to her husband's rescue long ago in this situation. Such a person who enjoys making fun of his friend's lover is simply not worth getting along with.
However, Su Shiding did not do this. Between friends and partners, she chose the former without hesitation and joined the team that laughed at her partner Lu Ge. From this incident, it is not difficult to see that the root cause of the breakdown of their marriage was that they never considered each other and did not realize that the two of them were a community.
And this incident became the biggest thorn in Lu Ge’s heart. In Lu Ge's view, Su Shiding's friends looked down on him from the bottom of their hearts, and Su Shiding on the side acquiesced to her friends laughing at Lu Ge, which was equivalent to her approval of her friend's remarks. In other words, Su Shiding also looked down on Lu Ge.
Men are creatures with strong self-esteem. They really hope that they are superheroes in the eyes of their other half. Lu Ge did not feel this in his wife Su Shiding. His disappointment turned into anger, and the conflict between the two people escalated rapidly.
During the family and friends group session, the program team invited Su Shiding’s mother. In fact, I think that the person who should come to this link most is not Su Shiding's mother, but Su Shiding's "mean" friends.
There is no conflict between Lu Ge and Su Shiding’s mother. Because they were in different places, the woman's parents did not play a big role in their marriage. The root cause of the breakdown of Lu Ge and Su Shiding's marriage had little to do with their original families. Their biggest problem was that they couldn't communicate, let alone consider each other.
To put it bluntly, it is a bit selfish. Take Su Shiding as an example. When she saw her friend mocking her husband Lu Ge, she did not stand up to reprimand her friend, nor did she cut off contact with her friend. This shows that in her mind, friends are more important than lovers.
Perhaps, before this, Su Shiding had told her friends about Lu Ge’s bad side secretly, so her friends dared to ridicule Lu Ge to his face like a beggar.
If Su Shiding calls in the friend who had previously mocked Lu Ge, the two parties can sit down and discuss it calmly. Lu Ge may be able to let go, and the relationship between the two of them may be restored. Even if he doesn't remarry, the hatred in Lu Ge's heart will be less.
Actually, I can quite understand Su Shiding’s behavior. A "pleasant personality" like her will hide many of her inner thoughts and agree with everyone in order to be more gregarious. With one more friend, she will feel a little more secure. When it comes to her loved ones, her pleasing side disappears.
It is precisely because she knows that her lover has her in his heart and will not leave her easily that she feels that she can sacrifice her lover. Su Shiding looks very much like Aya who is caught between a big and small S. The way she tries to cater to her is heartbreaking.
Birds of a feather flock together, and people are divided into groups. Good friends should have correct views and be consistent with each other. From an outsider's perspective, Su Shiding's group of friends really have character problems. Hanging out with them all day long will not bring any benefit to Su Shiding, but will ruin her life.
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