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"I am like this, straightforward, I say whatever comes to my mind!"
"I speak quickly, don't mind!"
I don't know if you have such friends around you. They attribute their low emotional intelligence, open mouth, and self-satisfaction to "being outspoken" and "daring to love and hate." People like
tend to vomit without caring about other people's feelings. They have no idea how much unpleasantness she will bring to others after "vomiting"!
Every time you exchange a few words with them, you will feel like a fish bone is stuck in your throat and you can't spit it out or swallow it. It's very annoying!
Such sisters in the stall are ridiculous.
I have a sister who is just like this. The reason why we know each other is because we are both married from far away. Our two families are close to each other and we are somewhat related. When we first met
, she came to visit our house every day. She talked quickly and chatted about nothing, but she didn’t think there was anything wrong with her.
As time went by, she would express her own opinions on all matters in my family, which made me dumbfounded.
It’s not that I don’t appreciate her eagerness to help others, but what she says is always hard to swallow.
Things that were fine and normal at first changed when they came to her and came out of her mouth.
When my daughter was born that year, my family was blessed with a grandchild. The child’s grandfather was so happy that he insisted on applying for household registration in person.
But at that time, he went out to do small jobs every day and had little time to go to the police station. According to regulations, the deadline for reporting a newborn's household registration is three months.
My husband and I thought that we would not delay anything anyway, and we didn’t want to ruin the joy of the elderly, so we put aside the matter of registering for the household registration for the time being.
After this sister found out about this, she spoke directly to me who was in confinement, and said something in a loud voice. One of the words impressed me deeply: "Isn't your husband a human being?"
I looked at her with wide eyes at that time, and I didn't know how to answer her words. I knew that she didn't mean any harm, just to quickly express what she was thinking at this moment, that's all.
However, it makes me feel something inexplicable, just like when you are tasting a delicious vanilla ice cream in the summer, and suddenly you are poured a layer of tomato sauce , it has no taste inside and outside.
A truly smart person never tries to be outspoken and free himself. Instead, he knows his own problems and considers them carefully before taking action.
At that time, our children chose to go to school in the village kindergarten, while her children went to the town kindergarten.
Most of us think that township kindergartens teach children better because they have been established for a relatively long time.
Town Kindergarten is in the center of the street, three times farther away. The road section is relatively complicated, the traffic is normally congested, and the child’s grandmother does not know how to ride a scooter. Especially in rainy and snowy days, it is really inconvenient for the elderly.
My husband and I usually have no time to pick up and drop off our children at work. After careful discussion, we decided to attend the village kindergarten nearest to our home.
I treat her as a sister. When I wanted to tell her my thoughts, I just started to speak, and she suddenly scolded her: "Don't you have any status in the family?"
The words coming out of her mouth sounded so awkward! If the advice is unpleasant to the ears, it will help the actions, and I will be very grateful, but this has nothing to do with the advice.
I realized that there is no need to say what I want to say next, even if it is said, it will make no sense. Playing the piano to a cow is a waste of time!
I stopped talking. The only thing that was certain was that we had no common language and could not communicate. I felt so cold in my heart that I really agreed with that sentence: Even a half-sentence is too much if it is not congenial.
When a person is in trouble and confusion, what he needs is a listener, not a critic. It’s okay not to make friends like
. After much thought, I finally chose to stay away from her and try not to interact with her so as to keep myself quiet.
Things that were good at first were no longer right after what she did. Her self-righteous words made me muddy.
I am an honest person, value harmony, and have my own opinions and ways of dealing with people and things, but I don’t like to be interfered with and restricted, let alone being judged for no reason.
If my ice cream was topped with ketchup before, now it is topped with a layer of soy sauce, and the taste is as weird as it gets.
After many years, I still think of these words said by this sister from time to time. In fact, I am not a sensitive and suspicious person, but some of her words really made me feel uncomfortable after hearing them.
A kind word will warm the winter, but a bad word will hurt people. June is cold.
Entering the age of indifference, I have looked down on many people and things. I will not accommodate myself to cater to others, and I do not need so-called friendship to embellish the rest of my life.
Some people yell all day long: "I'm going to say whatever I say, just say it straight, don't mind!" Just relying on this gold medal to avoid death, they wantonly crush others all day long.
If you know that you are blunt and have a bad temper, then why not think carefully before speaking?
has a straight temper and says whatever he wants. This is not his true temperament. This is selfishness. I really mind it!
If you denigrate people in the name of speaking straight and having a straight personality, this is not straight. It is low emotional intelligence and no sense of proportion.
I used to have a colleague who was fast-talking and fast-talking. In the workshop, he always thought he was doing things quickly and was complacent.
laughs at people who do things worse than her whenever she gets the chance. At first, everyone didn't take it seriously, but as time went by, they couldn't stand its interference.
Everyone deliberately and silently distanced themselves from her. As the saying goes, out of sight, out of mind. The originally harmonious relationship between colleagues has become tense and fragile.
As the saying goes: "A kind word warms three winters, but a bad word hurts someone in June."
The scars left by bad words on people's hearts are like nails driven into a bench. Even if they are pulled out later, they will still leave shocking holes that cannot be erased.
The best policy is to be cautious in words and deeds
Others are not obliged to bear our sarcastic words, and we should not let our emotions affect other people's lives and moods.
Think about it from another perspective. If someone else said something unpleasant to you, how would you feel?
If someone doesn’t offend me, I won’t offend anyone. If someone offends me, I will not retaliate in kind, but I will stay away to prevent further harm.
Don’t hurt others, don’t hurt yourself! I just want to live quietly in this world, enjoy the sun and rain, and not be disturbed!
A clown, a worker born in the 1970s, earns a living by working from 7 to 7, focusing on his personal growth story and working experience, hoping that one day he can spend the rest of his life the way he likes.
