Zhang is 35 years old this year. He originally had a happy family of three. Unexpectedly, ever since his parents came to help them take care of their children a year ago, there have been constant conflicts in the family, which even reached the point of divorce. The reason turned out to be because his mother-in-law loves his grandson too much.
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Speaking of Zhang, he graduated from the famous Henan university Zhengzhou University in 2010. Due to his outstanding performance, he was admitted to the civil service of Luoyang Municipal Government as soon as he graduated, and won the iron rice bowl that everyone envied. This also made Zhang's father completely proud.
From then on, Zhang's father frequently visited various wine bars. Even if no one invited him to a banquet, he would take the initiative to invite others, for no other reason than to show off his son at the wine table, and then leave with great satisfaction amidst the admiration of everyone.
Since Zhang had a good job and good family conditions, soon a matchmaker from the community came to her door and offered to be a matchmaker for Zhang. Unexpectedly, after talking to several girls one after another, Zhang’s father directly rejected them.
The words always on Zhang’s father’s lips are: he is not good at work, his family conditions are not good, and he is not worthy of my son. And Zhang is also a person who has no independent opinions. Even if his father says he can't do it, he won't do it.
In this way, after more than two years of stumbling, Zhang finally got together with his current wife Niu.
Speaking of Niu, she is very beautiful. Regardless of her figure and appearance, she is just like Liu Yan. What satisfies Zhang's father most is that Niu also works in a government agency, and her family is a well-known wealthy businessman in the county. If his son marries her, he will have no worries at all.
In this way, 28-year-old Zhang and Niu finally entered the marriage hall under the arrangement of their parents. After marriage, the young couple lived happily together.
The incident occurred four years after Zhang and Niu gave birth to their son.
Since Zhang and Niu both work on weekdays and often work overtime on weekends, they do not have the energy to take care of their children. Together, they invited their father-in-law and mother-in-law to help them take care of the children.
Zhang's father always loved his grandson, but now he couldn't sit still. He didn't even bother to eat lunch, so he brought his luggage to Zhang's home. In the first few days, the three generations of the family could still live in harmony. However, several things happened to his son, which caused Niu to completely collapse.
One night at about 9 o'clock, Niu was about to take Xiao Zhang to bed, but the kindergarten teacher sent a voice message on WeChat saying that other parents had complained that Xiao Zhang was bullying a female classmate at school.
This made Niu very angry. Xiao Zhang has been naughty since he was a child. Ever since he entered kindergarten, he has been showing off all kinds of tricks. Niu told Xiao Zhang many times that he should have fun with his classmates at school and not fight. However, the child was disobedient and even poked a male classmate in the eye with a pencil a few days ago.
Niu was so angry when he heard the teacher's voice that he immediately started criticizing and educating Xiao Zhang. Unexpectedly, Xiao Zhang's character was too fragile and he burst out crying "Wow".
Niu continued to reprimand loudly: "Don't cry! Why are you crying when you have something to say?" Who knows, at this time, the father-in-law heard the sound and walked in, complaining to his daughter-in-law: "If you have something to say, please tell me, it will scare my grandson." After saying that, he picked up the child. The grandson walked out, coaxing as he walked: "Grandpa, take you to see the mobile phone."
Just like this, Niu, who wanted to educate his son well, stood there alone in embarrassment, at a loss. This made Niu very angry. He complained to Zhang: "Every time I educate my son, your dad comes out to protect me. How can I educate my child? If you don't talk about your dad, I will."
Zhang felt that his wife was making a fuss: "Isn't it normal for an old man to love his grandson?"
But Niu didn't understand it that way. She felt that this was a big problem. When she educates her children, others should not interfere, otherwise they will not be able to control their children in the future.
Seeing that her husband remained silent and turned around to go to sleep, Niu had to be alone and sulky, thinking about communicating with her father-in-law. Unexpectedly, before she had time to communicate, something happened again.
When Niu got up the next day, he saw his son's eyes glued to his mobile phone, where his father-in-law was feeding the child bite by bite.
"I just looked at my phone when I got up in the morning, what else can I do?" Niu was so angry that he went up and snatched the phone away. The son cried again.
Father-in-law hurriedly picked up the mobile phone and put it into his grandson's hand. He wiped away his tears distressedly and complained to Niu: "If you don't let him look at his mobile phone, he won't eat. What should I do if he gets hungry?"
Niu was also very angry: "Then you can't be spoiled like this! What has happened, your eyes are broken."
Father-in-law, however, looked disapproving: " Why is it broken? You see, what child has grown up like this? What a fuss! You are looking at your mobile phone while eating, let alone your children!"
At this time, Zhang got up and saw his wife arguing with his father, and immediately said to his wife, "Okay, you can go to work!"
Niu gave Zhang a hard look and turned to go out.
Zhang originally thought that the matter would be over, but he didn't expect to see his father and mother sitting on the sofa in the living room as soon as he got off work, sighing and sighing.
After asking, he found out that Niu had to pack his things and take the child back to his parents' home.
Zhang was so angry that he went straight to Niu and said, "What are you doing? Is it wrong for an old man to look after our children?"
Niu's face was livid! : "You are right. I was wrong. I shouldn't have let your parents come to take care of the child."
"Then what's going on when you go back to your parents' home? Isn't this a slap in the face to my parents and my mother?"
"Look at what the child is like now? He doesn't recognize anyone except his mobile phone. Do it. The same goes for rice. The child doesn’t eat vegetables, but only scrambles eggs every day. I don’t understand. Can’t you cook something nutritious for the child? I want to take him back to his parents’ house for a while, and then come back after the child has corrected his problem.”
In this way, a certain Niu took his son back to his parents’ house. Niu wanted to stay at her parents' house for a few days, correct the child's bad habits, and then go home. After all, he was already married and had younger brothers and sisters at home, so it was not convenient.
Unexpectedly, when Niu stepped forward, Zhang called his mother-in-law and complained to his daughter-in-law, saying that she was disrespectful to her father-in-law and contradicted him in person.
This made Niu very angry, and he said to himself: Okay, if you don’t ask me why I am angry, you will complain to my mother and make my mother angry. You guys with the surname Zhang can be considered a family, and I have become an outsider.
The more Niu thought about it, the angrier he became. He called Zhang directly and insisted on a divorce. Zhang's mother was so frightened that she hurriedly apologized to her daughter-in-law and averted a crisis.
[ novice review]
The whole thing seems to be a conflict between Niu and his father-in-law in educating their children, but in fact it reflects the relationship between a small family and an extended family.
Netizens also expressed different opinions on this:
Some netizens said: It’s all wrong for the father-in-law. He is self-righteous and does not consider the opinions of his daughter-in-law at all. What bothers me the most is letting my child hold the mobile phone all day long.
Some netizens said: This husband is just a mama's boy. He does whatever his parents say. He has no independent opinion. He treats his wife as an outsider. If you marry such a man, you will suffer a lifetime of hardship.
Some netizens said: A daughter-in-law should communicate well with her parents-in-law and not act like a young lady. Since she has not set a good example for her children, she cannot put all the blame on her parents-in-law, let alone bring conflicts to her parents' family. How will the parents-in-law get along with each other in the future?
Who do you think has greater responsibility? #headlinescreationchallenge##emotion#
