I soaked my daughter’s feet with her in the evening. After soaking, I saw my daughter starting to move the stool with difficulty, so I took off her foot-washing towel and gave it to her.
She looked at me in surprise.
Me: Don’t you want to get a towel?
daughter: Yes.
Me: Why don’t you let me help?
Daughter: Because last time you said it was the last time...
Because my daughter always forgets to take the towel for washing her feet, so I said last time: Remember to take the towel yourself from now on, and I won’t take it for her next time.
has a good memory here, but why can’t he still remember to get a towel?
So, the two of us chatted and I told a story.
I asked my daughter, there is an elephant tied by a very thin rope, why doesn't it break free?
My daughter said: Because it can’t break free?
Me: No, it can break free easily.
The reason why the elephant doesn't break free from the rope is because it thinks it can't break free. Why does it feel like it can't break free?
Because it tried to break free before, but failed, it thought it could not break free.
This was an attempt it made when it was a child. Although it has grown up and the rope can no longer restrain it, the deep-rooted thoughts have penetrated into the bone marrow, so it does not think or believe that it can break free from the rope or that it can be done, so it still maintains the status quo and gave up trying.
Is it setting limits on itself?
thought that he couldn't do it based on his past experience, so he gave up.
However, the situation is always changing. Just because you couldn't do it before doesn't mean you can't do it now. If someone didn't agree to something before, it doesn't mean it can't be done now. Maybe you will succeed if you try it?
For example, this time, you didn’t ask me to help you get a towel because you were rejected before and because you thought your mother wouldn’t help you get it, so you didn’t ask. But in fact, if you ask, I will definitely help you get it, right?
So, what are you afraid of? Ask, even if you are rejected, nothing will happen, but if you agree, it will save you trouble, right?
My daughter also mentioned that she once didn’t even mention that she wanted to eat grilled sausage because she thought her mother wouldn’t buy it for her. However, she mustered up the courage to mention it and her mother immediately bought it. At that time, she felt that she had missed out on so much delicious food! Although it didn't taste that good after eating it.
Indeed, self-limitation, self-doubt, and fear of rejection have caused us to miss so many delicious foods and opportunities?
In short, people should be thicker-skinned, care less about other people's opinions, and have a stronger heart to try bravely.
If it didn’t work before, it doesn’t mean it won’t work now. If it couldn’t be done before, it doesn’t mean it can’t be done now. If it doesn’t work now, it doesn’t mean it won’t work in the future. As long as you dare to try, everything is possible.
For the life you want, for a better future, go for it!
#headlines creation challenge##winter life check-in season##2022 parenting season#
