If you want to separate the relationship between two people in an extramarital affair, you first need to determine where the current relationship between the two people has developed. Based on their psychological state, break down their psychological defenses step by step and let them return to the family.
Extramarital affairs are nothing more than a couple's lack of communication. When you send a message to the other party, the other party is always busy with something and cannot reply to you in time. The person involved may be really busy.
When the other party replies to you, he is always impatient and a little irritable. Then, he may really be hiding something from you.
Don't quarrel with him at this time, care about him as much as possible, make her feel guilty, and then confess to you.
This stage belongs to the discovery this morning. If the two people involved in the extramarital affair have established a relationship, then if you want to save the family, you need to start with the third party, determine whether the third party is deliberately hanging him, and separate according to the needs of the third party.
Lao Wang and his wife have been married for 7 years. Their children are about to go to elementary school, but they find that his wife is having an extramarital affair. The middle-aged man works hard every day and the accumulated anger makes Lao Wang furious.
Neighbors and relatives on both sides knew about this incident. His wife was too aggrieved to go out, and Lao Wang kept the door closed to everyone.
Because the wife couldn't feel her husband's feelings for her in a stagnant home, so when she met a new male colleague who pursued her, she fell into it immediately.
That night, after her lover learned about the incident, he comforted Lao Wang's wife every day and told her not to blame herself. The wife felt her lover's thoughtful comfort and slowly began to get better.
However, her resentment against Lao Wang became more and more serious, so she took the initiative to admit her mistake to Lao Wang, and made an appointment with her lover to meet him offline to explain the matter clearly and make a clean break from then on.
Lao Wang couldn't bear to have the family he had managed for so many years destroyed in one fell swoop, so he made an appointment with this third party with the attitude of treating a dead horse as a living horse.
No one would have thought that this meeting with the third party turned out to be the wife's conspiracy.
The three of them met in a park. When the third party saw Lao Wang, he knelt down directly. While admitting his mistake, he handed Lao Wang 20,000 yuan, saying that it was his compensation for the family and that he would never appear in front of Lao Wang in the future.
The honest old Wang had never seen such a scene before. While he was at a loss, he felt that such an ending was acceptable.
A week later, Lao Wang found that his wife still came home late from time to time, did not reply to messages, and even stayed out all night one day.
Lao Wang vaguely felt that things were developing in a very bad direction, so he followed his wife after get off work and watched her get on the subway. Lao Wang looked forward to his wife going home directly.
Contrary to expectations, his wife came to a community. Lao Wang watched his wife press the elevator button, waited for his wife to get on the elevator, and saw that the elevator stopped at the 27th floor. Lao Wang took another elevator and went upstairs.
Because he didn't know which house it was, he had to wait in the corridor. When he got anxious, he sent a message to his wife. No one responded to him, so he put his ear against the door of each house, hoping to hear the people inside talking.
At ten o'clock in the evening, the wife came out and met Lao Wang's eyes. The third party was stunned for a moment, then let Lao Wang enter the house, and took up the weapon of law and told Lao Wang that Lao Wang had charged him 20,000 yuan, and he could sue Lao Wang for extortion at any time.
Lao Wang consulted a lawyer friend, and the answer he got was indeed as the third party said. He had become a fraudster and would be sued at any time. After that, his wife did not come home again.
When a person who cheats becomes attached to a third party, the original relationship has ceased to exist in name only. At this time, don’t expect that the cheating party will sincerely return to the family.
Extramarital affairs generally put couples into a dilemma. On one side is their original family, and on the other side is their new relationship that they feel attached to. However, every relationship needs to develop to the point where it takes a lot of time and energy to run the family, children, relatives and career.
Couples who start a family should learn to guide themselves as much as possible and learn to handle their own marital feelings so as to avoid detours.
