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It is said that after a woman gets married, she cannot integrate into her husband's family and cannot return to her natal family. Forget it about your husband's family, but where you grew up in your mother's family, no matter how close you were to your parents before getting married, once you get married, many things will change invisibly.
A friend of mine got married some time ago. The friend said: "I got married so close to each other. I can go back to my parents' home whenever I want. It will be convenient to live in my parents' home after I get married."
Unexpectedly, my friend's mother said sincerely after hearing this: "Your parents' home will always be your home, and your parents' home will always be your support, but when you get married, don't just go back to your parents' home." After hearing this, the faces of us girls changed, but then our mother's words made us relieved. "When you get married, don't just go back to your parents' home." Her mother warned her daughter, which seemed heartless but was actually sincere.
After getting married, you start your own family. It is important to run your own family carefully. Frequent visits to your parents' home is not good for the relationship between husband and wife.
Before getting married, both boys and girls are children in the eyes of their parents. But once they choose to get married and start a family, it means that they will leave their original family and become adults, taking on independent responsibilities.
In today's social environment, it is generally girls who marry into the man's family. Of course, many young people no longer have the concept of marriage. Marriage is when two young people independently establish their own new family. No matter which one, the focus of life after marriage is on running their own small family.
If a daughter returns to her parents’ home every three days, the focus of her married life will be entirely on her parents’ home. Indeed, you can always be a child in front of your mother, which is the most relaxing. But under the protection of my mother, I will never grow up, and I will never be able to take responsibility. Moreover, it is impossible for a man to live with his wife in his mother-in-law's house for a long time after marriage. Most of the time, the couple is in a different place and has less time to meet and communicate, which is not conducive to maintaining the relationship between husband and wife. In addition, your living habits in your natal family are the same as before. Once you live independently, you will easily not adapt, causing major contradictions and conflicts, and affecting the relationship between the couple.
Frequently returning to her natal family after marriage can easily provoke conflicts between her natal family and her husband's family.
After marriage, a girl often returning to her natal family is not only detrimental to the relationship between husband and wife, but most importantly, it damages the relationship between her husband's family and her natal family. You must know that where there are people, all kinds of discussions and speculations are inevitable.
If a woman often goes back to live with her parents-in-law after getting married, people around her will speculate whether she can't get along with her husband's family or has conflicts with her parents-in-law. Moreover, when living in her natal family, the daughter will most likely complain about her in-laws to her eldest aunts and aunts, venting her dissatisfaction with her parents-in-law. And in this kind of matter, your relatives will definitely be on your side, and they will also add fuel to the fire, making you even more dissatisfied with your in-laws' family. Your natal parents also have opinions on your in-laws.
The same is true for the husband's family. If the daughter-in-law often goes back to her parents' home, the husband's family will think that she is not living a good life at all. They may also think that their parents do not teach their daughters well and that their daughters are causing discord in their parents' families.
Especially for girls who are not the only child, they have older brothers and younger brothers at home. Once the older brothers and younger brothers get married and have children, if the married daughter always runs to her natal family, it will only cause family conflicts, make her sister-in-law and younger siblings dissatisfied, and make things difficult for her parents.
Therefore, a married daughter should not go back to her natal family if she has nothing to do, and run her own family well. If her own family is well, her husband's family and her natal family will get along better.
【 Topic discussion: After you get married, do you often go back to your natal family to stay? 】
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