When people reach middle age, their passion fades away. They may have experienced countless quarrels, heartbreaks, and disappointments. They may even lose interest in moments like wedding anniversaries, Valentine's Day, and Chinese Valentine's Day.
However, you will still fall in love with each other again in a casual moment, such as his hug, his concern, his glance... and you will fall in love with him again.
netizen @Momself interviewed more than a dozen middle-aged couples, hoping that more people would see how romantic middle-aged men and women are compared to the love of young men and women.
"My husband and I will rub each other's backs with essential oil at night." This is a little fun between Xiao Jing, a middle-aged woman who has been married for 18 years, and her husband.
"I was changing my pajamas, and he came in and asked me to help you put them on." This is Zhang Keke, a middle-aged woman who has been married for 22 years, and can think of the romantic moment between her and her husband.
"My husband said, if you live to be 99, I will live to be 100, and I can leave after taking care of you. I am so touched!" This is the happiest promise between Wu Xiaoping, a middle-aged woman who has been married for 7 years, and her husband.
As a saying goes, the romance of middle-aged people is when they still firmly choose each other after experiencing all kinds of cruelty in reality.
Today, I would like to share the interview story of netizen @Momself, and I also want to show you how different the romance of middle-aged people is.
01. "He is not very expressive, but when something happens to me, he will protect me as soon as possible."
@小游, second marriage for 4 years:
I am in my second marriage. I was hurt in my first marriage, which left me with a bit of a psychological shadow. I didn't want to get married again, but my current husband made me willing to try to get married again.
The reason why I am willing is not because he is a romantic person and understands my thoughts. On the contrary, he is actually a bit cold and doesn't like to express himself very much. But, if something really happens, he will always rush out to protect me as soon as possible.
I remember one time there was water leakage upstairs in the toilet at home. I went upstairs to negotiate with my neighbor, but the other party was very tough. I didn't know how to deal with it for a while, and I was a little angry.
He came home at night and asked me what was wrong, so I started talking about it a little aggrievedly. Unexpectedly, as soon as I finished talking, he rushed upstairs to argue with the neighbor, and finally came back and said, "It's been settled."
At that time, I was still a little worried that he was too impulsive, so I kept asking him. Did he say anything angry? He said at the time that they deserved it, who let them bully you?
Really, he is fifty years old. He has always been very stable outside and does not show much emotion. But every time I encounter injustice, he becomes very excited as if he is a different person. This feeling of being protected was the reason why I decided to get married for the second time.
02. "Marrying my wife is the biggest prize in my life"
@huntingxiahua, married for 12 years:
The most romantic passage I have ever heard from my husband is this: My husband used to be a regular lottery buyer, not many, five or ten bets.
Once I drove past a lottery station, my husband casually chatted with his mother-in-law, "Mom, do you know why I don't buy lottery tickets now?"
"Because once I suddenly realized that marrying my wife is the biggest prize in this life, and I will never do it again." There is a bigger prize than this. "
My husband is a second-hand man who is fifteen years older than me. We are ordinary people. There is no such thing as a silly mistress or sugar daddy. We have experienced a lot of resistance to get together and reach this point, but compared to the happiness that I can truly feel now, everything is worth it.
03. "While I was scolding him, he pulled up the zipper on the back of my skirt."
@墅充, married for 23 years:
I have been married for 23 years. In fact, my marriage is ordinary and there is nothing romantic about it.
If I have to say, I think it may be because I like to wear skirts, but the zipper on the back is often difficult to close by myself, so every time I wear a skirt, my men will help me.
I remember one time when he came back from drinking outside, he collapsed on the sofa as soon as he came back. In fact, I was annoyed by him drinking the most, because he became unconscious when he drank, and he would collapse there no matter what I said to him.
I was in a hurry to go out that day, so I yelled at him while changing my skirt, "Look at you like that. If you don't know how to drink, stop drinking!"
Unexpectedly, when I was cursing him, without saying a word, he came forward drunkenly and helped me zip up the zipper on the back of the skirt. To be honest, I didn't know whether to cry or laugh at that moment.
My man can’t tell you what’s good about it, but he has been doing this action of zipping up my skirt for 23 years, and he didn’t forget it even when he was drunk.
04. "On this quiet and lazy winter afternoon, he just quietly pulled out my white hair."
@李文, married for 20 years:
On this quiet and lazy winter afternoon, the sunlight passed through the large floor-to-ceiling windows and shone on me lying on the small single bed in the living room for my lunch break.
My husband of 20 years of marriage was sitting on the floor beside the bed. I brushed aside my freshly washed hair, which had the fragrance of fresh shampoo, and carefully searched for every white hair on my head, and carefully pulled them out, for fear that they would hurt me if I used more force.
Neither of us spoke, I just lay there quietly, and he just pulled it out quietly.
I count the silver hairs that are pulled out and sparkle in the sunshine, 1, 2, 3, 4, 5... Each silver hair is filled with the romance of growing old with you...
My dear, thank you, thank you for loving me so tenderly!
is written at the end
. When you see this, I wonder if you were moved by one of the moments.
For middle-aged people, love does not need to be declared verbally, but love is everywhere.
Compared with young people who love passionately and nakedly, the romance of middle-aged people is more implicit in small moments in daily life. As long as you pay enough attention, you can often discover surprises inadvertently.
I remember Professor Liu Qing once said:
"Love is a very wonderful thing. If you have someone in the world, you will get the ultimate, infinite and highest recognition. You are the best. No matter how good your academics are in other lives, there will always be someone better than you." Hello, no matter how much money you make, there are still people who make more money than you...
But only love is something that every mortal can encounter. This is extraordinary. This is a grace given by God. "
No matter you are single or married, young or middle-aged, reading this article. I wish you can have a clean and beautiful love no matter what age you are or what your situation is.
Not only can you have someone you love, but you can also be pampered by the person you love.
