Introduction:
Once people get old, what we are most concerned about is life after retirement. The purpose of young people's struggle is to live a stable old age in the future. But can you go to a nursing home for retirement if you are over 70? Aunt Hu said: "If you have no one to rely on, you can go. If you have children, I suggest you rather be angry than go to a nursing home." What on earth did Aunt Hu go through? Let’s take a look at her story next!
Narrator: Aunt Hu
I am 70 years old this year and have two sons. When my wife and I gave birth to two sons when we were young, it was something that many people envied, and we thought it was our blessing. No matter what time it is, our town always prefers boys. We feel that boys are the only heirs and support in old age. Once our daughter gets married, who can run to live with their family? So my wife and I were very happy to have two sons. We gave all the good things to them. I feel that they are our future.
After that, our sons also lived up to our expectations. Both sons can study high-level literature. Because of this, my wife and I have always lived frugally and lived a relatively poor life. But when we think about our sons’ future success, we no longer care about what kind of life we can have now, and we are all looking forward to the future. Since my children stayed away from school for a long time, my wife and I chose to work outside of town. We worked on the assembly line, distributed flyers, worked in sales, and worked as waiters. This does not mean that my wife and I are not law-abiding people. The assembly line was too old to keep up with the speed of the production line, so we could not work for a few months and then left. As for those who do business outside, apart from catering to get some customer traffic, which one else does not rely on strength and reputation? So my wife and I were trying to figure out how to make money to support the family, so we did all kinds of work, but we couldn't afford to pay for the children's living expenses and tuition.
After our children graduated, we no longer worked so hard and had no motivation to work hard. We chose to retire and return to our hometown. We opened a small supermarket when we returned home and lived a good life. After my children got married and started a business, they chose to develop in the city, while my wife and I stayed in our retirement home in the countryside. My wife said: "I will definitely leave first in the future. After all, many men leave first. Once I leave, you can live with your son and the others! Even if you are a little angry with your daughter-in-law, it is better than living alone."
In the end, it was indeed my wife who left me first. I was 65 years old that year and he was 72 years old. No one knows how long they can live when they get old, so I always keep a happy mood and get along with others. The most difficult relationship to get along with is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. My relationship with my son is very good, but because of my daughter-in-law’s dissatisfaction, my son doesn’t even dare to breathe, let alone protect me.
No wonder it is said that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most difficult to get along with. My raised son, the person I love the most, is so disciplined by my daughter-in-law that I don’t even recognize him. It seems that although he has listened to me for so many years, he sometimes contradicts me. But when his son faces his wife, he just tolerates it. Even if he makes trouble unreasonably, he will not say a word to her. If something bothers me, my son will find me annoying if I nag him.
In the end, I chose to live alone. After living for two years, I found that being alone was really difficult. Finally, I overheard my old best friend saying that I could live in a nursing home, so I chose to go to a nursing home. I used to know that nursing homes were generally reserved for people who didn't have children to care for or who were in poor health or mentally retarded. Now I realize that it was all my imagination and the nursing home is not as boring as I imagined. Many aunts can communicate normally, and we often dance downstairs. Xinhao, our nursing home has more green plants and more open spaces.
Although I feel dazed sometimes, I also think of the days when I lived with my wife. But I would also be asked by my elder sister to play together, and I slowly got over the shadow of my wife's death. During holidays, my children would also send letters or come to visit. Although I have to pay 8,000 per month, and although my son is reluctant to let me go to a nursing home, my daughter-in-law is more supportive. My daughter-in-law will also take the initiative to transfer money to me so that I can eat and drink well.
Maybe it’s because I have two daughters-in-law! Otherwise, if her daughter-in-law asked her to pay 8,000, she might be reluctant to part with it. In low-end nursing homes, three or four people lived in a dormitory, unlike now, where I was the only one living in a dormitory. Although there is only one bed and one toilet, it is also a separate room with its own bathroom. If something happens at night, there will be a button by the bedside. Once you press it, someone will come over and ask what happened. Many meals are different every day. Although the taste is similar, there are many windows to choose the meals we like.
If you are not in good health, there will also be a special nutrition package. Thinking about how when I was alone, I even skipped cooking, ate instant noodles, and ate bread. I ate whatever I wanted as long as I was full. Now that I think about it, it is indeed desolate. Although I don't have such a free life now, I have met many friendly friends here. We know each other well and feel that our time in our later years was not in vain.
Looking at it carefully, in fact, nursing homes are not as scary as others say. Some people say that there are several people living in a dormitory, and one wakes up to find that someone has passed away under his bed. Such a life is really lived in fear every day.
There are very few people like this. Guys, let’s play chess. The aunts were dancing or playing cards below. The crowds make it lively, and in the busy life, I have forgotten that I have two sons, and we don’t keep in touch with each other very much. When I live in my hometown, I am my fellow villagers, and when I go to the nursing home, I am my neighbor. My life now is better than the years I lived with my son. Living every day happily is what I have to face in the future.
It is ordinary and fulfilling, and you can also reunite with your son and them during the Chinese New Year. There will be no situation where the nursing home will not let you go back. Therefore, you can still live in a nursing home. It is better than living with your daughter-in-law when family conflicts continued to arise. Now not only my daughter-in-law is happy, but I am also living a happy life myself. Why not! Find a good nursing home where you can enjoy your retirement. This kind of people basically rely on their children or their own money to live in a nursing home.
If it is like a nursing home like a welfare home, life must be very difficult. After all, many people say that free things can be any better? Not only do I face the departure of many older brothers and sisters every day, but it also makes me feel sad. It is said that mood is the foundation of a person. Being happy can make your body better, but if a person keeps thinking that he will one day pass away from this world, and has no motivation at all in life, who can persist in this kind of old age care? In fact, I quite envy my wife for leaving in my company.
wrote to the end:
exists and is reasonable . Although nursing homes are not necessarily very popular, they have become a nursing home for many elderly people! And there are also many nursing homes that are very popular. With a certain amount of funds, you can live a relaxed and happy life. Therefore, whether we are young or old, as long as we maintain a positive heart, our future will be good.
