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In our consistent understanding, the more generous you are, the better your popularity will be, but in fact, generosity also depends on the occasion and the specific situation.
In certain things or special moments, the more generous you are, the easier it is to be looked down upon. Because this kind of generosity is false generosity, artificial and hypocritical, it will only make people doubt your intentions and even your character.
In the following three things, the more generous you are, the less popular you will be. Smart people will not be stupid.
1: Pretend to be generous and insincere in front of the people you like
In order to win the attention and favor of others, some people will deliberately pretend to be generous, especially in front of the people they like, but doing so will often backfire.
Because sooner or later the other person will see through you, or see through you on the spot, and by then he will only look down on you.
In the TV series " Only Thirty ", Wang Manni once had a blind date with a man. The man obviously had an average life, but he had to pretend to have an annual salary of one million.
Wang Manni saw through him and naturally refused.
Later, the man took his girlfriend to the luxury store where Wang Manni worked, and took the opportunity to humiliate her. Unexpectedly, Wang Manni refused to follow this trick and directly recommended tens of thousands of products to his girlfriend.
He had such a good face, of course he wanted to show off in front of his girlfriend, so he said directly: "It's only 40,000 to 50,000 yuan, not expensive, buy it."
But he knew in his heart that he couldn't afford it at all. It felt uncomfortable to break his teeth and swallow it into his stomach, but he would eventually have to pay the price for his fake generosity.
2: When giving gifts, you are fake and generous, and you are too face-saving.
Gifts are based on your heart. For equal relationships, it is best to have the same amount of gifts. However, some people always want to be superior or show off, so they will follow a lot.
In the movie "Charlotte ", Charlotte is an extremely face-saving person.
In order to win a round in front of the person he likes, he deliberately pretended to be a successful person and gave her a big red envelope when she got married. But this red envelope was obtained by selling his wife's tricycle engine.
This kind of face-saving behavior broke his wife's heart and left a hypocritical impression on his classmates.
are all classmates, just follow the same etiquette. If you insist on being special for the sake of face, this will not win you too much attention, it will only make people think that you are not only incompetent, but also desperate for face.
Three: Fake generosity and deliberately show off at dinner parties
When classmates, colleagues or friends gather for dinner, there will always be some people who deliberately rush to pay the bill to show that they are doing well and not short of money, or to show that they are generous and informal.
But in fact, there is no need to show off in this kind of occasion.
When many people gather together for dinner, usually the initiator will explain in advance the issue of paying the bill. Most of them are AA systems. In this case, if you deliberately try to show off, you will only be looked down upon.
People will not think that you are doing well or that you are rich, they will just think that you are hypocritical and want to attract attention.
Whether a person does well or not does not depend on whether he is active when paying bills.
A truly powerful person will not care what others think of him. Only those who are doing average or very poorly will be extremely good at saving face, because they are too unconfident in their hearts.
There is often an essential difference between true generosity and fake generosity.
The former is sincere and informal, while the latter is full of hypocrisy and cunning.
In the above three moments, you don’t need to pretend to be generous. This will not make people look at you with admiration. Instead, it will make people think that there is something wrong with you as a person, which will destroy your image in the hearts of others. Why bother?
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