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. There are many people in life who have few or even no friends. You may think that he lives a maverick life and likes to be alone in everything. But it is also possible that he is simply not very popular and no one likes or is willing to get close to him.
If you don't want to have no friends, or lose the friends you have, there are some things you should do less of.
Because this will do a lot of harm to your relationship, especially the following three things. The more you do, the more the price will drop.
One: Don’t lend money to each other
Some people say that if you don’t want to lose a friend, it’s best not to lend money to him or borrow money from him.
Don’t think this statement is too absolute. In fact, human nature is so unable to withstand the test.
You lend him money because you trust him enough, but you can't guarantee whether he will change his mind later. Even if he wants to pay you back, he doesn't have the ability. Then when you need money urgently, you will inevitably complain to him.
Not to mention that if he has money and deliberately refuses to pay you back, no matter what, it will be a harm to your relationship.
The same is true for borrowing money from him. You promised him that you would return it within a certain period of time, but the plan cannot keep up with the change. What if you didn't make it? He said he understood, but in his heart he already had an opinion about you.
True friends should be honest with each other.
There is nothing wrong with helping each other, but many times, if you can't explain money issues clearly, you will only have a steady stream of troubles.
2: Don’t work in a friend’s company or start a business together
Every interpersonal relationship needs to be based on equality. If you are friends with someone, it is best not to have direct financial exchanges between you, and it is best not to work or start a business together.
Working together includes becoming colleagues, or working in a friend's company. Either way, it is not conducive to the long-term survival of this relationship.
Because you are friends, you will inevitably feel that you are different from others, so you will expect in your heart that he will treat you differently, but many things cannot be solved by favor. If he treats everyone equally, you will inevitably feel a sense of disparity. Over time, you may even feel that he is not a friend enough.
But it’s possible that he just doesn’t care about the situation and the person, and doesn’t want to open a back door for you. This is his principle as a person.
The same is true for starting a business together. The relationship between friends is originally pure, but when it comes to interests, it can no longer be clarified. This will only make you drift apart, and even prevent you from communicating with each other until you die.
Three: Don’t moral kidnapping friends
In this world, no one can help you for granted. Only by understanding this can you get along with others better, otherwise your popularity will only get worse and worse.
When getting along with friends, you should pay more attention to propriety and boundaries.
If a friend helps you out of kindness, you should be grateful and lend a helping hand in time the next time he needs help. Otherwise, the bond between you will become weaker and weaker.
But in life, many people do not have this awareness. They always feel that their friends are doing better than themselves and they should help them, so they ask for it without any bottom line, and even resort to moral kidnapping.
Doing this will only push your friends further and further away.
People with truly high emotional intelligence and good character will not kidnap anyone morally. They are principled and have a bottom line. People with low emotional intelligence and poor character are just the opposite.
If you don’t want to have no friends or lose friends, you should do less of the above three things, or preferably not at all.
There are actually reasons why a person is popular or not popular.
Every relationship is inseparable from careful management. Only by being careful and always sincere can you win the trust of others, so that your interpersonal relationships will become better and better, and the road to life will become smoother and smoother.
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