First, do not leave money to your children
Before you die, it is best to spend all your property and eat it up, because what you leave behind is probably not wealth. It's about fighting, greed, resentment, and the destruction of family ties. The more wealth you leave behind, the more it will reduce the fighting spirit of your children and grandchildren, and the more it will destroy their martial arts. This is the reason why it is said that wealth cannot last more than three generations.
Second, don’t live with your married children.
Otherwise, won’t you find trouble? The two generations have different social backgrounds, and have developed completely different values and lifestyles. Wouldn’t it make them torture each other if they lived together? So don't hesitate, drive them out quickly. Even if you let them rent a house, you will drive them out.
Third, stay out of your children's business.
Things that you don't like are problems in your eyes, but for your children, they live a normal life. They wake up late, play on their mobile phones, and don't cook or eat takeout. It all has nothing to do with you. Don't always complain about your son being lazy and your daughter being greedy. That's all your family's business, and others will just treat it as a joke.
Fourth, the quarrel between your son and his wife is none of your business, even if it is a big quarrel. Please shut up and pretend not to hear it. If your son complains to you, scold your son. If your daughter complains to you, scold your daughter. Don't get involved, otherwise it will add fuel to the flames and add fuel to the fire. Even if they quarreled and wanted a divorce, you still held it back. You should eat and play, so what do you care about that? If you don't care about her and you still can't leave her, if you worry too much, it will probably be a bigger problem, because at this time, there is an extra mouth related to her by blood, which will create more conflicts, and she will do bad things with good intentions.
Fifth, whether it is your grandson or your grandson, their guardian is your son or your daughter, not you. So don't use your education method to dictate and make a mess. Your method has long been outdated. The couple cares about their children as they please, so what are you going to do? Many family conflicts are caused by the fact that the daughter-in-law has to take care of the children, and the mother-in-law has to be there to protect her. As a result, you two have many conflicts. Why do you have to do things that are hard to do? Wouldn’t it be nice for him to go out and dance in the square during this time?
Sixth, here comes the important point, please keep it in mind. Always talk about how good your daughter-in-law or son-in-law is, and talk about how filial and kind your daughter-in-law or son-in-law is to me. Even if they are not that filial, you must still say that they are very filial. As long as you can do this, the harmonious life of the couple will increase at least ten times, and they will be better and better to you.
Many times, the conflict between husband and wife is because the mother-in-law speaks ill of the daughter-in-law in front of her son, and the mother-in-law speaks ill of the son-in-law in front of her daughter. It doesn't matter what you say. When the couple quarrels, she will say everything you said out loud. My mother said that your daughter-in-law is too lazy and doesn't do any work. Then my mother also said that you are of no use as a man, and you are too picky about our family. You should be done with it after reading this. The conflict between these two people instantly turned into a conflict between two families. How can this be resolved? As long as you say good things about your wife and son-in-law every day, your life in your later years will definitely be good.
