Some people say that once the leaves fall in a lifetime, it will be autumn in a blink of an eye; if fate gathers and disperses, we will become strangers in a blink of an eye.
Many things, either "the ship will naturally turn to when it reaches the bridge", or "the raw rice has become cooked rice", there is no need to ask why.
Smart women are also well aware of the mysteries. When encountering the following things, they all choose to remain silent, neither telling nor asking.
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Faced with a lover who is not destined to be together, he does not ask about the future.
Love, to a certain extent, is a woman's second life.
Whether it is Zhi Nu and Dong Yong, or Bai Suzhen and Xu Xian , it is the power of love that allows them to cross the boundaries between fairyland, demons and the human world.
When love encounters setbacks, people always look forward to the happy endings of princes and princesses from myths, legends and fairy tales, and the reunion of lost and recovered people.
But reality also gives them sober strength. Those who cannot stay in love will either become the emotional sustenance of a lifetime, or become the knot of their lives. They are only willing to guard silently, but they dare not go even half a step beyond the limit.
is like Luo Zijun and He Han in the TV series " My First Half of Life ". From the initial dislike of each other to the unknowing fall in love with each other, they knew that this was a devastating injury to Tang Jing. They also tried their best to control their feelings, but in the end, they could not deceive their own hearts.
Faced with He Han's confession, Luo Zijun tearfully refused. She admitted that she loved He Han deeply, but refused to accept the proposal that the two be together.
But this love has not faded. He Han broke up with Tang Jing and went to another city. Luo Zijun also went. Maybe, she and He Han will stay together in the end. Maybe, each of them is well and caring about each other from afar, which is also a kind of happiness.
He Han said that he will keep waiting, no matter how long he waits.
In fact, Luo Zijun is also like this. There is a beloved person in his heart. Every day he waits, he is no longer lonely. It is full of expectations, filled with beauty and hope.
As the saying goes, there is a future that is now. Living every day with that deep love is another kind of happiness.
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Faced with the subtle and complex workplace, promotion is not a concern.
Women always work harder than men when working hard in the workplace.
In the ancient poem "Hua Mulan", Hua Mulan, who joined the army on behalf of her father, repeatedly performed extraordinary feats on the battlefield, successfully returned to the imperial court, and was "rewarded with hundreds of talents." However, in her heart, "Shang Shulang" is far less than returning to her hometown and being a "little child" in the palm of her parents' hands.
As for the hardships and sufferings on the battlefield, they are not worth mentioning in the face of the powerful "war exploits".
But in the real workplace, every day is magnified and spent minute by second. Faced with complex interpersonal relationships and all kinds of overt and covert struggles, there is not a day that passes without being careful and keeping your tail between your legs.
Whenever I feel wronged or excluded, I will shed tears in the dark night, and I can't help but want to be "willful".
But when the sun rises again, I have to wipe away my tears and go out with a smile.
Just like what Tang Jing said in "My First Half of Life" when facing Chen Junsheng's plea for Ling Ling: "Ling Ling is not easy, but is it easy for you? Didn't you also start from nothing and work hard with your family? I am in my thirties, all my energy is given to work, and I don't even dare to get married. Is it easy for me?"
Yes, there is no such thing as "easy" in the adult world.
In the workplace, how many people have used up all their good luck just to get a foothold. As for promotion and salary increase, it is not only about strength, but also about luck.
If your luck is always a little bit worse, and it is only "one step away" every time, which is extremely frustrating, why not just forget it.
Only those who know how to let go can relax their tight nerves and "walk light". They will no longer feel worried. This relaxed feeling will make people feel like a spring breeze.
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Facing the growth of children, do not try to control it.
Women are weak by nature, but mothers are strong.
When a woman becomes a mother, she often has the power to fight against the whole world. However, the overflow of maternal love often makes women mistakenly think that they have become "supermen" and that everything is under their control.
In fact, many women only achieve true "maturity" after becoming mothers.
When the child is in infancy, the role of the "super-powerful" mother is maximized. However, as the child grows older and the mother becomes more capable, the child often becomes cowardly.
Indeed, when a child has everything taken over by his mother, it is natural for him to resist from the very beginning and want to "do it by himself" to finally being "unwilling" to think or do it himself.
Some people realized this early. From the time when children are very young, they focus on cultivating children's initiative, allowing them to try and make mistakes, grow, and become people with independent personalities.
However, it is difficult for most people to let go of the obsession of "hoping for their children to become successful and their daughters to become phoenixes". They always hope that their children can follow their own expectations and designs, just like pouring a model. The more
interferes in the child's life, the more like sand between the fingers, the child's attachment to him will become less and less, or even zero.
Learn to gradually let go of your children's lives, and always be an encourager, guide and tolerant, only then will you have the love of your children throughout your life.
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Conclusion:
When a woman reaches middle age, there are too many difficulties and too many problems that need to be faced head-on.
If you learn to see through things without telling them, and learn to "don't listen and don't ask," your life will be more free and unrestrained.
Author: As light as the wind and as light as the clouds.
Your happiness is my blessing.
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