Case: I have a deposit of 500,000 yuan, and my monthly pension is 5,000 yuan. Because I didn’t control my mouth, I was miserable in my old age
My name is Yang Juan, I am 68 years old this year. So far, I have retired for 13 years. I can get 5,000 yuan in my monthly pension and 500,000 yuan in deposits. It is said that my old age should have been very happy, but because I can't control my mouth, my old age life is particularly miserable.
My wife is 5 years older than me and is also a retired employee. However, she has not been retired for a month and has passed away due to illness. This made me feel a little more regretful. I didn’t receive any pension at all. Sometimes I think about it, my wife is really pitiful. He has worked very hard all his life, but he didn’t expect that he would leave this world after one month of retirement.
We two got married, one son and one daughter, and my daughter married to the village next door, so my daughter often comes back to see me. However, since my daughter got married to her son-in-law, buying a house has become a big problem for the two of them. It is not 5 minutes away from our bike to our son-in-law's house.
On Saturdays and Sundays, if my daughter and son-in-law don’t have to go to work, they will come to my house to have dinner often. Overall, my daughter and son-in-law are also taking good care of me in daily life, especially my own daughter, who basically bought the clothes.
Although my son has never bought me a piece of clothing, he will give me some money in daily life and buy me various nutritional supplements to take good care of my body. There is one thing that has always been in my heart, that is, when my son got married, my wife had not passed away at that time. We used the spare money in our hands to buy a house for our children and a car for our children.
When my daughter got married, she didn't buy anything for her children. Although she didn't buy anything for her daughter at that time, she was still better for me since she got married. Sometimes I even feel a little sorry for my daughter. Both my son and daughter-in-law work in real estate, so their salary is relatively high.
basically doesn't have to worry about me, but after the two resigned from real estate, they went to work in the insurance company. However, because the insurance company is busy with work, they are usually unwilling to go home. I took into account the responsibilities of this family. Although life was harder, seeing that my son and daughter-in-law were so loving and working hard to make money, I felt very happy in my heart.
However, the two planned to have a second child, so the daughter-in-law resigned, and the only son was working outside. The son said the pressure was greater. My daughter-in-law still has some savings in her hands, and the two of them live a good life. After giving birth to a second child, my daughter-in-law felt that life was under great pressure, so I gave them 200,000 yuan to raise children.
But since I gave them the 200,000 yuan, what I didn’t expect was that I thought that I had given them the 200,000 yuan, and my daughter-in-law and son would work very hard to make money in the future, raise these two children and raise them to adulthood.
The eldest is a boy, and the second child is also a boy. If there are two boys in the family, then the couple will have particularly high pressure in their future life. These two boys can't get the bride money even if they get married in the future. In daily life, there are all kinds of expenses. In fact, my daughter-in-law was unwilling to work at that time.
The son only gets a salary of 4,000 yuan per month, which is indeed a bit more stressful. However, later I found that since my son and daughter-in-law had a second child, they were still very generous when spending money. These two people never knew that money was hard-earned.
I gave them the 200,000 yuan, and they had spent less than three years. My son and daughter-in-law knew that I had a pension of 5,000 yuan every month, so these two people seemed to be staring at my pension. If they were fine, they would often complain to me.
told me that it costs money to buy milk powder for my child, and the boss also needs money to go to school. Anything at home requires money to buy at home. Through my son's words, I can also see that I want to ask me for money and use my money to subsidize their small family.
One day, when my son came to our house, he happened to be chatting with a friend at home. At that time, we happened to talk about pensions and our own savings. Unexpectedly, my son heard what I said at that time. At that time, I told my friend that I still had 500,000 yuan in deposits.
I didn’t expect that less than a week after this incident, my son came to my house to question me: “Mom, do you still have 500,000 yuan in your hand? Why did you say there was no money when I asked you for money at that time?” After hearing this sentence, I was also very angry.
said to your son: "I'm not not giving it to you. If I give you this 500,000 yuan, it will take less than 5 years to spend it. Now there are two boys to raise, and you and your daughter-in-law are not making money well. If you add this 500,000 yuan, will you both lose the desire to work?"
At that time, my son didn't say much. When he went home and told his daughter-in-law about this matter, his daughter-in-law still asked his son to come to me for money. There was no way to give all 500,000 to his son under his scrupulous and hard work. After the son got the 500,000 yuan, he exchanged a larger house with his daughter-in-law.
After giving 500,000 yuan to his son, he needed 200,000 yuan to be hospitalized when he was sick. What his son did was really amazing. The son said he had no money to treat his mother.
Because when they got married, they bought them a house with 2 bedrooms and 1 living room. Now they have two children, and it is really a bit aggrieved to squeeze into this house with 2 bedrooms and 1 living room. So they changed to a bigger house and now they live a very happy life.
But what I didn’t expect was that after they took the 500,000 yuan, I got sick less than a year because of stomach disease and . I needed surgery to be hospitalized, and surgery would cost 200,000 yuan. At that time, I explained the situation to my son, but I didn't expect that my son would say he couldn't afford the money.
My son told me at the time that he had just bought a house and had to pay the mortgage, so he couldn't afford that much money at all. At that time, I asked my son to help him borrow some money, but my son refused directly, saying that he could not borrow it at all. I didn't expect my son to be such an ungrateful wolf. I just watched me feel so painful in the hospital bed and I was unwilling to lend me money to see me. I really regret it.
But if you had a tighter mouth, you wouldn't suffer this again. It was precisely because of my poor tone at that time that my life in my later years was so miserable that even my daughter didn't care about me, because at that time my daughter knew that I had given 500,000 yuan to my younger brother.
My daughter was very angry after knowing this and she would never be like before. Now I regret it very much, but what's the use of regretting it again? Things have happened. This may be because I deserve it. Now I am also thinking about it and let it go.
