Introduction:
When people reach old age, many elderly people will face a single state for various reasons. At this point, single elderly people will naturally not live so happy in their later years. At this time, some elderly people decide to live with their children. Under normal circumstances, with the company and care of their children, the elderly people's later years will inevitably be much better.
But the key problem is that nowadays, many children are under a lot of pressure in their lives, and in addition, they still have their own families to take care of, etc. Therefore, many children do not have the conditions to live with the elderly at all. Therefore, even if they live with their children, the elderly’s later life will most likely not be much easier.
And some of our elderly people have long expected this, so they have the idea of finding a new partner for themselves. Perhaps in their opinion, if a new partner and I cling to each other to keep warm, then the quality of life in our future years will inevitably reach a new level. Is this really the case?
64-year-old Aunt Niu found a new and old man for herself many years after her original wife passed away. Originally, the two of them had a relatively happy marriage, but four years later, something happened and the new and old man decided to give her 100,000 yuan and a house. But at the same time, the other party also made a request, but this made her feel very embarrassed! What's going on? Let’s take a look at the story of Aunt Niu together.
64-year-old aunt Niu’s self-report:
My surname is Niu, I am 64 years old this year. Usually, others call me Aunt Niu. In my early years, I was a teacher in a middle school, and my wife worked in in public institution. My wife and I have always had a very good relationship. Even if we quarrel occasionally, we basically quarrel at the head of the bed and the end of the bed. There are few overnight revenge.
html When I was 655 years old, I officially retired from school. Before that, my wife had already retired at home. After retirement, my wife decided to take me out for a trip. My wife's proposal made me very happy. After all, I have had such a dream for a long time, so I happily agreed.
To be honest, I can’t tell how beautiful it is when I travel outside. After all, this can not only appreciate the customs and cultures of various places, but also enjoy the beautiful scenery of various places. At the same time, I can also eat special foods from all over the country. I am naturally very happy and satisfied.
But two years later, my wife unfortunately suffered from a serious illness. Although my son and I were treating him at all costs, my wife eventually died that year because of her serious illness.
Although I have long been mentally prepared for things like separation from life and death, when things really happened to me, I still couldn't accept it. In addition, for a long time, my wife and I have had a deep relationship, so my wife's death almost completely collapsed.
After that, I cried more every day, and not long after, I lost about a dozen pounds. When some people came to visit me, they almost couldn't recognize me. Fortunately, there were friends around me constantly comforting me, and with the visits from my son and daughter-in-law every few days, I gradually walked out of the shadow of losing my wife.
Just, in order to restore my body and mind to the same state as before as soon as possible, later, when I was free every day, I chose to go to the park to dance. In my opinion, dancing can not only strengthen my body, but also cultivate sentiment. This is beneficial to me but not harmful.
So in fact, after only three or four months of dancing in the park, my body and spirit were suddenly many times stronger than before, and I became more excited to dance every day. By chance, I met a man, who was Brother Yang, who was five years older than me.
Before retirement, Lao Yang also worked in a public institution. During his dating with Lao Yang, I found that in addition to his appearance different from my original wife, Lao Yang's temper, personality, character, and character, and even his way and habits of speaking were very acquainted with my wife, so I immediately became more fond of Lao Yang.
At the same time, I also clearly felt that Lao Yang was interested in me, but neither of us broke through this window paper. We usually got along with ordinary friends until one day after half a year, Lao Yang took the initiative to ask me for marriage. Although I had no opinions about Lao Yang, I was in a cautious period and decided to ask my son for advice first.
Originally, at the beginning, my son did not agree with my marriage with Lao Yang because he did not have a good impression of Lao Yang, but after a brief contact, my son immediately increased his favorability for Lao Yang, so later, I officially got married with Lao Yang.
Since I got married to Lao Yang, my life has really been as happy as I am. Of course, this is not an exaggeration but a big truth. Lao Yang always does things like buying vegetables, cooking, and doing housework. At that time, I told Lao Yang that I would do this little work alone, so don’t interfere, but Lao Yang insists on being with me.
Not only that, when I go to a friend's party or go to my son's house to see my grandson, Lao Yang will follow me in an endless manner. Lao Yang said, if I am not by his side, he always feels empty, as if something is missing, and our relationship is like the original couple.
And that is, after marriage, Lao Yang not only bears all the living expenses, but also, if I buy clothes or cosmetics, Lao Yang will take the initiative to pay for me. At the same time, Lao Yang will also give me 2,000 yuan in pocket money every month. I have told him more than once that I have a pension myself and he doesn’t have to spend money for me, but he said that I am his wife and he is willing to do these things for me.
The most important thing is that Lao Yang is indeed very good to me after marriage. I usually have a headache and fever. Lao Yang is even more anxious than me. He either hurriedly took me to see a doctor or took medicine and water to take care of me next to me. To be honest, Lao Yang treated me like this, so I was moved by my heart and just wanted to cry.
It’s like this. Lao Yang and I lived together for four years. Because we lived with Lao Yang, we lived quite happily. Therefore, I hope I can stay with Lao Yang until I grow old, but reality played a big joke with me.
One day, Lao Yang was going to attend a wedding banquet for his colleague's son. I was feeling uncomfortable that day, so I didn't go with him. Lao Yang had been back very late, but on the way back, Lao Yang was accidentally tripped by something on the way, and a few kind-hearted people quickly called Lao Yang's first aid number.
After I learned that Lao Yang was injured and hospitalized, I rushed to the hospital. Originally, I was still because Lao Yang should have nothing to do, but in fact, Lao Yang's condition was far more serious than I thought. Lao Yang stayed in the hospital for a whole week before he woke up completely. Although Lao Yang woke up, Lao Yang could only spend the rest of his life in a wheelchair.
I served Lao Yang in the hospital for almost three months before Lao Yang was discharged from the hospital. Before leaving, the doctor told us that if the situation like Lao Yang, Lao Yang's condition may deteriorate in the near future. At that time, Lao Yang will be completely paralyzed in bed, so all problems such as eating, drinking, defecation, and sleeping in the rest of his life can only be done in bed.
The doctor's words at that time made me feel very sad. After all, my good life with Lao Yang only took only four years, and Lao Yang suffered this sudden disaster. Do you think I can have a good heart?
After returning home, I saw Lao Yang like this now, and I had to do my best to serve Lao Yang every day, which really made me feel physically and mentally exhausted. Then I also had other thoughts in my mind. So after thinking about it, one night three months later, after washing Lao Yang's feet.
I said to Lao Yang, "Old Yang, if it really doesn't work, let's divorce. Don't think I'm ruthless. And I admit that you have been very kind to me in more than four years of marriage, but in your current situation, I have to serve you every day, and my current body is really a little unbearable. What's more, in the near future, you may be completely paralyzed in bed. What should you do when you say I'm going to think about it for me."
As soon as I finished speaking, Lao Yang said to me very angrily: "Since you say I'm good to you in normal times, then I'm in trouble now, how can you bear to abandon me? Is your heart made of iron? Even if your heart is made of iron, but this After years of treatment, I have treated you sincerely and have long since collapsed your heart."
saw Lao Yang very angry, so I quickly relaxed my tone and explained to Lao Yang: "Lao Yang, I know you are good to me, and I don't want to divorce you, but now your body is like this. If you insist on letting me stay by your side to serve you in the future, don't you think your actions are too selfish? You'd better consider my divorce request!" After
, Lao Yang didn't say a word, staring at the ground with his eyes tightly. Seeing Lao Yang like this, I turned around to do other things. During Lao Yang's consideration, I still accompanied Lao Yang as I did before, and then served him with all my heart.
A week later, Lao Yang said to me: "Xiao Niu, I know that in this situation, it is natural for you to divorce me, but to be honest, I really can't bear to leave you, I am sincere to you, I have discussed with my daughter. If you don't divorce me and are willing to take good care of me in the future, then I will give you 100,000 yuan now, and in my A hundred years later, my house belongs to you alone. What do you think? "
. Lao Yang's request made me very embarrassed, because if I agree to Lao Yang's request, then for the rest of my life, I need to do my best to serve Lao Yang until I die. This is undoubtedly a huge test and adjustment for me, and at this point, my second half of my life is likely to not belong to me. But if I decisively reject Lao Yang's request, the treatment given by Lao Yang would be too tempting.
So, I solicited my son's opinion, but his attitude was very firm. He insisted on letting me divorce Lao Yang. He said that in the future, he would be fully responsible for my pension issues and would not let me worry about the slightest. My son's filial piety moved me very much.
But at the same time, I also knew very well that my son had not been easy for years. My daughter-in-law was sick and she relied on him to earn money to support her family. The family's mortgage would take about twenty years to pay it off. My son was only forty years old and had white hair. The main reason was that he was too worried. Whenever he saw his son's current situation, I felt so aggrieved that I just wanted to cry. I chose to remarry Lao Yang at that time, and I wanted to share the pressure of life for my son.
So, after some careful consideration, I finally agreed to Lao Yang's request without telling my son that I would not divorce Lao Yang. However, in order to meet safely, I decided to let Lao Yang sign a written notarization contract with me, and Lao Yang immediately did it.
Some people may think that Lao Yang and I are a husband-wife relationship after all, and during these four years of living together, Lao Yang really treated me sincerely. Therefore, Lao Yang is in trouble now. I should not divorce Lao Yang no matter what, and I should not have asked Lao Yang for the 200,000 yuan and his house. But I don’t think so. Because in this way, not only did my marriage with Lao Yang be preserved, but Lao Yang has also received better care. At the same time, I indirectly helped my son. This is a good thing that can kill multiple goals. What’s wrong with me? So do you think so too?
