The reader wrote to me and said:
My hometown, my parents are relatively honest farmers. When I grew up, I often saw other people in the village bullying my parents. At that time, I warned myself: I must study hard and be successful. After graduating from college, I had a relatively decent job in the school city. With the blessing of work, I found a local man with a house and started a family, my ex-husband. In the years when I first got married with my ex-husband, I was actually still happy, but with the advancement of my marriage life, my material desires became stronger and stronger. Under this circumstance, I began to dislike my ex-husband for being incompetent. This has led to the deterioration of my relationship with my ex-husband. At this time, I began to contact different opposite sexes through online chat. It was under this situation that my lover appeared in real life with me.
Lover also has his own family, but he is willing to spend money on me during the sneaky relationship with me. Faced with my lover's generosity, I disliked my ex-husband even more. In the end, because I didn’t know how to hide my relationship with my lover in front of my ex-husband, I divorced my ex-husband after several negotiations without success. Afterwards, my lover helped me rent a house, and we also had a wonderful time for nearly a year. Later, my lover took the initiative to break up with me. The reason given by the lover: His wife discovered my relationship with him, and he didn't want to divorce his wife because of my existence. In this case, I had to accept the reality of breaking up with my lover. After I really broke up with my lover, I learned that the real reason for his breakup with me was that he had a new lover. However, I have no name and no distinction between my lover, how can I be qualified to condemn him?
In the following years, I also met some men, but I didn’t wait for someone who satisfies me and is willing to have a heart-to-heart relationship with me. In a blink of an eye, I am already 40 years old and still live a life of renting a house. This kind of life is more than just a mess. Under the current situation, I regret the divorce from my ex-husband. I would like to sigh in my heart: If time could go back, I would never betray my marriage. I want to use my personal experience to remind the sisters in the besieged city: Don’t let down the long-lasting flow of your lover give you for the sake of extramarital favors.
Muzili Emotional analysis:
Everyone’s perception of life is through their own experience and has their own understanding of life. Those who have suffered severe injuries in the emotional realm will spend at least a long time giving love a touchless attitude after being separated from a relationship. Those who fail in the emotional field will miss the sweetness they once had when they are lost. What I want to say is that it is a very rare fate for two people to form a family. If there are no obvious shortcomings in your lover during the marriage, please do not harm your lover. Because after people withdraw from a relationship and start a new emotional life, they will inevitably compare themselves with their current and ex. If they gain loss from their current, they will feel regretful about their disregard for their ex.
Another possibility: when you get separated from your ex, you meet a current employee who is more considerate to you, and then your previous experience will show your mentality of following the wind. For this reason, many times our regrets are just sighs of unsatisfactory life at the moment. After all, many people will miss it for the rest of their lives after missing it, and their current embarrassment can only be blamed. People will face too many choices in their lives. After each choice, there will be a result. No matter whether this result can make you happy, you need to face it calmly, because you are the one who made the choice at the beginning, and you should bear the price you deserve for your choice. If your current life is not satisfactory, sighing and regretting have no substantial meaning, but work harder and prevent you from making similar mistakes in your future life.
People always have curiosity in their lives, which leads to many people having the urge to try in areas they have not experienced before. Or when facing some things, you have a lucky mentality. But when everyone touches things that violate the principles, they often suffer the punishment they deserve.Take extramarital affair as an example: when many people cheat, they also know that they are playing fire games. At this time, people's luck mainly includes two aspects. They may feel that even if their lover discovers their cheating behavior, they will forgive themselves. The key is that when your lover proposes divorce, you can only be stunned; or they may feel that even if you divorce your lover, you may get the chance to become a regular with your lover. In fact, this opportunity is very slim.
Whether you are kicked out of the city by your lover without the idea of divorce during the post-infidelity period, or you are not in exchange for the result of becoming a regular with your lover after divorce, you will make you feel particularly regretful about cheating. The key is that you have no regrets to take. In this case, my own experience is obviously a typical case of stealing chickens and losing rice. There is a saying in life that is specifically used to squeeze out those who have done something wrong and regretted it: If I had known this, why should I have been there? This means that many times, people's regretful actions are caused by knowingly committing them. If this is the case, they must pay for their reckless behavior. In fact, each of us will have regrets and regrets in the long river of life. If we think carefully, do we deserve it?
I believe many people have played the role of persuading people in their lives. At this time, we seem to be sober in the world. The key is that we who know too many principles are particularly prone to be confused when managing our lives. Such behavior is likely to mean that human beings are inferior to others, or that they have high requirements for others but low requirements for themselves. No matter what attitude we use in our lives, we need to admit a certain reality in the end: evil does not suppress righteousness. Sometimes, when rules restrict our freedom, we feel that the existence of rules is quite troublesome. When we become beneficiaries of rules, we can feel the importance of rules. To this end, we must believe that the existence of rules will not only serve us in a restraining way, but will also provide us with better protection.
Adult confession is actually the most unnutritional manifestation, which comes from the fact that people around you will only decide what attitude to treat you based on your current state. If your life is particularly difficult now, more people will often treat you with a pity, but actually sarcastic attitude; only when your life is brighter will you be envious and jealous and hateful when you win more respect for yourself. To this end, the best state of life for a person is to keep himself valuable at all times, rather than letting others show compassion in front of you. In this world, there are not many people who are really good to us. Parents are two, lovers are one, and children are only half. If you can feel the sincerity of your lover in a marriage relationship, please do not let it go easily.
Postscript:
regrets are divided into two types. One is because of your debts, which makes you deeply blame yourself after losing them; the other is because you meet someone wrong, which makes you feel a little upset. Those regrets caused by debts often make themselves restless, while those who have had bad experiences will make themselves irrelevant in the washing of time. As a human being, try not to let yourself owe favors. That kind of difficult state of peace of mind will make you worse than death.
People are thoughtful and memorable species. Regarding the part they owe, they have also hinted that they should not think about it anymore, but because they find it difficult to calm their thoughts at some point. Especially when your life is hit, you will feel that your retribution has come. This emotion will disrupt your thoughts for a long time to come. That feeling is really bad.
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