Introduction
Everyone says that couples are thieves and are guarding against each other. In fact, this statement is understandable. Remarried couples have their own families, so it is normal for couples to be in a new relationship after marriage.
After all, the position of the stand is different, and their children are stuck in the middle, which will face many troubles. Therefore, those who can live a good life after remarriage must have put in a lot of energy and effort.
A happy marriage requires two people to run together. No matter how much one person pays, if the other half does not respond, even if the two are the first marriage, they will not be happy.
In fact, happiness has nothing to do with remarriage, it has to do with whether both parties are suitable and whether they are truly in love. Regarding this matter, 69-year-old Mr. Su has the most say.
From Uncle Su’s narrative
My surname is Su, I am 69 years old this year, and my wife passed away when I was 58 years old. Many people think that I am over fifty years old and rely on my daughter to support me in the future. There is no need to remarry and add burden to my daughter. However, two years after my wife passed away, I remarried. The partner who remarried was not someone else, but my daughter's mother-in-law and my mother-in-law. Speaking of
, I also have to thank my deceased wife.
My wife and I had a bad relationship. When my wife and I were very young, my parents ordered doll kiss for us. My wife is not good-looking and has a bad temper. When I knew I was going to marry her, I firmly opposed it. But my parents thought she was very suitable for me, and they said that we were getting married, and their spouse’s parents were just hiding.
I couldn't resist my mother's tears, so I could only reluctantly agree to the marriage. My wife is really diligent and keeps the house organized, which is also good for my parents. But she has a bad personality and her temper comes as soon as she says it.
I talked to her, and as long as I didn't make any comments, she was so angry that she threw her chopsticks and bowls, and ignored me for several days. If her parents did something wrong and made her unhappy, she would also shook her face on the spot.
She also has a lot of strength. As long as she is in a bad mood, no matter if there are people or no one, she will hit me if she wants to. There were a few times when she called me to have a meal. I chatted with my neighbor for a few more words. She rushed to me and stomped on my feet, saying that if I didn’t go back to eat, I wouldn’t eat anymore.
She doesn't like my friends to go to the house to play. She thinks I should revolve around her and listen to her everything. During the Chinese New Year, other friends traveled around the streets, so I could only watch TV with her at home and visit relatives.
She felt that I couldn't speak, and she would chat with others wherever she went, and I listened. She is very filial to her parents, but her filial piety is all about squeezing my labor force. She has work to do at home, and all that work is mine. As long as I complain a few times, she would say that I was heartless and not a good son-in-law.
Later, the villagers went out to work. I was tired of the days I was with her, so I went out too. It is difficult to find a job outside, and even if I save money, I don’t have much money left.
Every year during the Chinese New Year, when other men come home, their wives will comfort their husbands and relax. Some of the remaining amounts are better than having no money every year, but my wife will only complain that I am incompetent and say that I am too useless and that she and her children have not allowed to live a good life. What I find most unacceptable to
is that my wife always says what I am wrong in front of the children, says I am cowardly, lack masculinity, and says I am incompetent and can't give them a better life. Because of my wife's instigation, my relationship with my child was not good. During my time working outside, I rarely miss homesick. I think if I hadn't followed the marriage arranged by my parents, maybe my life wouldn't be so down and down.
After my parents passed away, my relationship with my wife also reached a freezing point. We rarely talk, except for the children's affairs.
Later, my wife passed away due to an accident. I just felt that she had been very tired all her life and felt sorry for her. I didn’t feel that she was gone and I couldn’t survive.
After my wife passed away, I lived a good life alone. I have been used to being alone all year round. I can do laundry and cook, and I no longer have to listen to my wife’s nagging and complaining. I think this is the life I want.
Later, when I went out to the market, I twisted my feet and my daughter took me to her house to take care of her, and I met her mother-in-law. I have met my mother-in-law a few times, but I haven't said much. This is the first time we have really gotten along.
I like to play erhu , and I will play for a while when I’m idle. If it were my wife, she would say that I was full, but my mother-in-law asked me if I had really learned it? He also said that it sounds very good for me to play the erhu. In the future, I can play the erhu when she does housework, so that I can work more vigorously.
I like to tinker with delicious food and placing dishes. My wife thinks that it’s enough to eat enough. It’s only women who do fiddle with delicious food in the kitchen, but my mother-in-law thinks I’m very good and says I have the talent to cook. My father-in-law died of illness when his son-in-law was in his freshman year, and since then, my mother-in-law has not looked for him again.
I think it must be his blessing for anyone who can marry his mother-in-law. Because my mother-in-law has a gentle temper and rarely gets angry, she knows how to see others' goodness and has a good mentality.
My mother-in-law and I have been together for a long time and I feel more and more together. So I tried to pursue her, but my mother-in-law didn't feel embarrassed and didn't respond. She told me that we shouldn't be impulsive about love. Maybe we are just old and want to talk to someone, but we don't really like it.
After I put my feet on, I went back to my hometown. But since I returned to my hometown, I always feel that I have something to lose. I know that I am missing someone who affirms me and is by my side.
I rented a house near my daughter's house, and pursued my mother-in-law while working. After my daughter knew about our affairs, she was not optimistic about this matter. She felt that I was just lonely and wanted to find someone to talk to. But I know that I really like my mother-in-law.
My mother-in-law was moved by my sincerity and we were together. Due to my daughter's objection, my mother-in-law moved out and we decided to do some small business at the entrance of the community. I like to cook and she is diligent, so we opened a food shop. Unexpectedly, the business was pretty good, and we earned more than the two of us working.
We made money and paid off the mortgage for our daughter. When my daughter saw that we were together sincerely, she agreed to get the certificate. Now that we have been remarried for three years, we are living a happy life. I think we should find someone who likes you and is sure of you to be together. The deceased wife is very good, but we are not suitable for us.
was written at the end
and it is said that the forced melon is not sweet, but in fact the feelings are the same. If both parties do not like each other, even if they enter marriage, their relationship will not be sublimated. Marriage is based on mutual love. Only by liking each other, tolerating each other, and working together in marriage can we find a suitable way to get along.
When two people in marriage are disgusted with each other, even if they get married and have children, they cannot change the fact that they hate each other. Since you can’t like the other person, how can you talk about tolerance and appreciation?
Marriage is a major event in life, and you cannot settle for it. Otherwise, it is not only one who is wronged, but also wronged the other person and delayed each other's youth. I hope we can all meet the right person, marry in love, and support each other for the rest of our lives.
