"I am a post-90s, 30 years old, and I am not married. I think the premise of marriage must have a material foundation. If you find someone to get married, you don't have a house and have a stable source of income, how should two people live after marriage? Besides, what do you rely on to have children and raise children?
If a child has not had enough food and clothing since childhood, has no conditions to receive a good education, and has poor learning ability, he may have to rely on his parents in the future, or act as the bottom of society in the future. Isn't this blame?"
- a self-report from a post-90s.
In a blink of an eye, the post-90s generation who was once held in their hands is now in their thirties. The post-90s who are at the peak of their youth have become the main force of the new era, shouldering the important tasks of national construction and fertility plans.
However, many of the younger generation who are highly anticipated are now facing the dual pressure of work and life, and are always wandering between whether to get married or not or have children.
I have a cousin who grew up in Guangzhou. I had some conflict with my family and came to me to "lose the wind and rain". My cousin is a few years younger than me and is now in her early 30s. When I was as old as her, my children could make soy sauce. I think this old girl had a quarrel with her mother, but there was only one reason: urged marriage .
As a junior and elder sister in the family, I was naturally invited to act as a "lobbyist". When I faced my cousin several times, she immediately made a "stop" gesture after realizing the intention and said, "Sister, I'll come here to you for a few days of quietness. If you talk about getting married like my parents, I have to go home!"
, The ideas and concepts of contemporary post-90s generation, as an "old man" born in the 1980s generation, I don't understand it! There are more and more people born in the 1990s who are unwilling to get married and have children. What happened to them?
The post-80s and post-70s who are still struggling on the front line are the "regeneration force" of the country, and have both second and third children. As the main force, the post-90s generation does not have a second child, does not get married, or even find a partner!
Many people think that the main reason for this is that the post-90s generation has too much pressure in their lives, which is beyond doubt. But when it comes to life pressure, does the post-80s and post-70s generations who were once born with hardship do not exist?
Today's post-90s are particularly "rational" in viewing marriage and family. In other words, it can also be understood that 90 is particularly fragile in the face of pressure . Getting married and having children has become a "minefield" that more and more people born in the 1990s do not want to touch.
In fact, the post-90s generation are resistant to getting married and having children. In addition to the reasons for stress, is also related to their concepts and cognitions with the characteristics of the times . Including but not limited to these 4 reasons:
Age cognitive level is delayed (psychological immature)
Most of the post-90s generations have received higher education. Due to the overall improvement of education level and the extension of the school system, students are now getting late in the society, , usually between the ages of 22 and 23.
In the eyes of the older generation, this belongs to the older young people. So many people started to be urged to get married at home as soon as they graduated. In this case, they naturally have psychological resistance: I am still a child! After studying for more than ten years, but not yet starting to display his talents and realize his life ambitions, how can he be bound by marriage and children?
Some students graduated. In order to pursue higher-level education and improve their competitiveness, chose to continue their studies (study for graduate school, study for a doctorate or take the national exam, etc.). During the competition, I often sighed for myself: Youth is about to pass, life has passed one quarter, and my identity is still a student, what does marriage and children have to do with me?
So to a certain extent, Quality education and family education are the catalysts for the post-90s generation to have an inadequate understanding of age .
does not want to aggrieved himself (personal attitude)
90s generation is mostly only children and is like a star in the family. Although there are no brothers and sisters to accompany me, because there is only one child, they all grow up with wealth and wealth at home.
From childhood to adulthood, they will basically be satisfied with the greatest material aspects, and they will not suffer any grievances in their spiritual aspects. Because of this, has created the post-90s generation who are free and easy and unwilling to make their own attitude towards life .
After living independently, they knew that it was not easy to maintain this wantonness and freedom. Providing love requires material protection, and the end of love does not necessarily mean marriage, and it may also part ways.
Even if you can get married, you still need to spend a lot of energy and financial resources to maintain it. Even, you must put down your attitude and compromise to be fully protected. Knowing it is a "grave" and still jumping in, why bother making things difficult for yourself?
refuses to lower the living standard (material pursuit)
Many post-90s are followers of the petty bourgeois mood : exquisite and tasteful style, travel, fitness, afternoon tea, etc., these are standard. And time-consuming and labor-intensive love will lead to a significant reduction in consumption level .
There is a big data report showing that the proportion of young people's "moonlight clan" is as high as more than half. The investigation also found that most of them do not have the behavior and habit of saving. Not only that, a considerable number of them are "debt-in" such as various credit cards, Huabei, , , online loans, etc.
90s post-work experience, experience, experience, etc. are still in the stage of accumulating, and the monthly salary is generally not very high. , but you earn less and spend a lot of money, so you can stop spending outside of your life. - for example, love and marriage require houses, cars and other materials to guarantee.
So more people will choose to escape or postpone entering the queue of marriage and childbearing . Without this layer of ties, they will transfer more energy and financial resources to what they like, and call it: Live for themselves .
Social progress and inclusion (environmental factors)
A diversified society respects everyone's choices, including whether to choose to get married and have children. Nowadays, young people have independent thinking, especially women. They can realize their life value in various ways, and is not limited to giving birth to offspring and tying themselves into their family and career.
Nowadays, many high-value, high-education and high-income women have joined the ranks of singles . It’s no wonder that everyone is used to it, which also shows that society has become increasingly tolerant of new-style ideology such as singleness and Dink .
The so-called "If the granaries are full, you will know etiquette; if you have enough food and clothing, you will know honor and disgrace." From another level, Young people give up marriage and childbirth and choose higher-level spiritual pursuits is also the result of social progress and spiritual civilization development.
Don’t you see that the more developed the country, the lower the fertility ratio, which is the best proof.
Conclusion
Some people say that the post-90s generation lives the most transparent life, and they are unwilling to be slaves to the times; some people say that the post-90s generation is the most selfish and only considers their own feelings without regard to their parents (filial piety is the first, and no descendant is the greatest).
Anyway, as adults, we have the right to choose the lifestyle we like. It is understandable to live for yourself all your life; if you are willing to start a family, then you will experience a supreme state. The process may be difficult, but it will surely be the most complete and happiest life!
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