Learn to ask yourself questions. The most classic one is who am I? Where did you come from? Where are you going? Are there any answers to these questions in
, or how to explore it? Today, an elder talked about some more specific and better questions
Let’s take a look at: What is more important?
All our questions and practices can be accompanied by this question. We can shape values little by little through continuous exploration.
Continue to advance along more important things, and we will come here: What is the most important?
So what is most important in work, what is most important in life, and what is most important in dealing with people. After thinking about this, are there any new or better ideas?
Elders talk about many important issues in learning and life, and they all use this thinking weapon to break
If you still don’t understand it, we can think of another question that many people have used. If these thirty minutes are the last half hour of life, what you want to do the most and what you need to do the most? Is it easier to understand? Every time there is a major problem, you will come up with the most important way of thinking
Because of a goal, my elders wanted to take TOEFL 3. What is the more important thing to use? When we reached the point of wording, vocabulary is very important. What do you think? Well, is there any more important TOEFL exam than vocabulary? Please think about
. There must be, because some of our vocabulary are almost impossible to use. There are also some vocabulary that we don’t know every time we test questions (I felt deeply touched, and I thought I was beyond the outline or I didn’t work hard enough). Then continue to ask, how to solve this problem - the test test is not the word count, but the ability to use basic vocabulary to figure out the context logic! ! !
Is it a little clear all of a sudden? Based on a certain vocabulary, what is the most important thing is to use basic vocabulary to guess the meaning of the article. After using this method, my seniors did not persistently memorize words after reading ten TOEFL articles. They were thinking about the context logic. Later, they also got a very high score.
Another point here is that they almost accurately grasp some of the intentions of the questioner. This is a better way to think about doing things.
Yesterday, some people caused some negative emotions. This is indeed the case with sensitive people. A little bit of movement can easily change into a storm
Later, I reflected on it and found that there were some rules or low judgments in choosing friends. Many people accepted some common hobbies, or they mistakenly judged that they were "good eloquent" because of their sweet words. This part was ignored before. So let's try to use what is better to ask a few times, and see how to choose friends
. I mentioned earlier that I have common interests and hobbies. Is this good? It's good. You can do things together and talk about topics. In the long run, you can become a long-term good friend, but there are many people with common hobbies. What would be better? If you have similar temperaments and similar temperaments, it will be easier to understand, that is, there will be more consensus parts. If you have met a few people like this, you will feel a sense of being in harmony. Is there anything better? Let’s first put the experience of the seniors and have not quarreled with your wife for more than 20 years! This seems to me to be a miracle. I have encountered conflicts, disputes, and troubles with my friends, ex-girlfriends, and family...
So how did this be done? From the most basic perspective, is there anything more important than this? The seniors kept asking questions: find a "most important factor":
Is the other party a reasonable person? ! !
Let’s not look at whether this is suitable for me (because this looks too straight, I also hope that others will not be influenced by emotions and emotions). The seniors really met, and they were together, and they are still very happy (been married for almost thirty years). I wish them
Here, the seniors have also done some specific things [often bring their wives to study why other couples quarrel
Summary: ① Differences in the underlying concepts
② No distinction between primary and secondary ③ Different values
④ Different positions ⑤ No arbitration]
This is universal. Think about whether the many problems of our colleagues, family, and friends are like this. Then communicate in a targeted manner, or directly terminate the communication, give priority to emotional problems, and then restore friendship again
000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 Here, the senior set a communication rule for himself
[I need to be prepared to communicate at least 4 times;
There are many ways to communicate, and it cannot be limited to a specific method;
I need to have a way to confirm that the communication is indeed successful;
If things are big enough, I will cut pieces and communicate in steps...]
Now some people understand that the aforementioned must be a reasonable person
Then the senior and his wife gradually established an agreement, the first one is:
[Since we are ready to be together, it will take a long time.Since we have hope for a long time, then we will say that there is a word that we must never say: "break up". Once this word is said, we can only really break up, so don’t say it, don’t say it. We will definitely quarrel, but no matter what happens, no matter how fierce the argument is, you and I must know that this word must not be said...]
Summary: [Create an agreement together, abide by the agreement together, and upgrade the agreement together...]
This is some good way to manage a good family and relationship
Just as mentioned earlier, dealing with relationships with friends is often caused by differences in primary and secondary values, then you can try to communicate some rules and tell questions frankly, so that everyone can take a step forward
The same goes for work: What is the most important thing for us at the moment? Why?
If we are sure that this is the most important thing at the moment, it is very simple, focus on everything!
What is the most important thing to lead a team? Choose a fast-growing thing to do the most important
As mentioned before, managers want to bring the team to an extremely favorable advantage, just like fighting, bringing the enemy into the valley, and bringing the team to the mountains, then fighting hardly requires too much courage. You can win by hitting the stones. This is the best management
Finally, back to the individual, what is the most important thing about education and learning? The environment is more important than the teacher, and the individual himself is more important than the environment. Otherwise, how could there always be someone in the same environment and someone in the same teacher always stand out?
If you are important, then continue to advance, we do things, be strong, patient, smart... What is the most important
Do one line, love one line. We can only do what we love, and it is impossible to do what we hate well
. If we are more detailed, how to see our execution ability and see if we continue to do it when we encounter problems
. Seniors are already very awesome, and I am actually in love with every skill of my life. ]
As long as you decide to do anything, you don’t need to persist,
like perseverance. So, use what is the most important thing and cut all the problems you face to solve
Finally, think about it, do you want to learn this skill and that skill?
So before learning, do you ask yourself, what is the most important? For example, I am learning PPT now. Is it important to design a beautiful PPT? When expressing and presenting, are there any more important things, content, data, and analysis, and are there any more important things, people, your own talents, temperament, you are an important person, this is the most important
Since we have hope for a long time, then we will say that there is a word that we must never say: "break up". Once this word is said, we can only really break up, so don’t say it, don’t say it. We will definitely quarrel, but no matter what happens, no matter how fierce the argument is, you and I must know that this word must not be said...]Summary: [Create an agreement together, abide by the agreement together, and upgrade the agreement together...]
This is some good way to manage a good family and relationship
Just as mentioned earlier, dealing with relationships with friends is often caused by differences in primary and secondary values, then you can try to communicate some rules and tell questions frankly, so that everyone can take a step forward
The same goes for work: What is the most important thing for us at the moment? Why?
If we are sure that this is the most important thing at the moment, it is very simple, focus on everything!
What is the most important thing to lead a team? Choose a fast-growing thing to do the most important
As mentioned before, managers want to bring the team to an extremely favorable advantage, just like fighting, bringing the enemy into the valley, and bringing the team to the mountains, then fighting hardly requires too much courage. You can win by hitting the stones. This is the best management
Finally, back to the individual, what is the most important thing about education and learning? The environment is more important than the teacher, and the individual himself is more important than the environment. Otherwise, how could there always be someone in the same environment and someone in the same teacher always stand out?
If you are important, then continue to advance, we do things, be strong, patient, smart... What is the most important
Do one line, love one line. We can only do what we love, and it is impossible to do what we hate well
. If we are more detailed, how to see our execution ability and see if we continue to do it when we encounter problems
. Seniors are already very awesome, and I am actually in love with every skill of my life. ]
As long as you decide to do anything, you don’t need to persist,
like perseverance. So, use what is the most important thing and cut all the problems you face to solve
Finally, think about it, do you want to learn this skill and that skill?
So before learning, do you ask yourself, what is the most important? For example, I am learning PPT now. Is it important to design a beautiful PPT? When expressing and presenting, are there any more important things, content, data, and analysis, and are there any more important things, people, your own talents, temperament, you are an important person, this is the most important
