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Modern people's feelings are cheaper than grass, and they can no longer compare to the family, love and friendship of the older generation.
Adults often live with masks, and they are behind the scenes. They say things that are not as good as they do, and do things that are not the same as they think. Although they are doing well on the surface, the distance between the heart can be felt.
When you get along with adults, sometimes you should be more cruel and stay away from these people around you, so that your life will be more peaceful and free.
1. People who face one set behind another
There are some people who are wolves in sheep's clothing.
You have never really experienced it, so you don’t know what “disgusting” means. Xiao Li and his deskmate come to and finish classes every day, and their college days are also a good companion, but unexpectedly, after one midterm exam, the two of them were never inseparable.
Later someone asked Xiao Li why she no longer played with her deskmate. She replied lightly: "People who are not on the same channel will naturally stay away." It turns out that no matter how good the relationship is, there will be that day when the best friends will break up. Afterwards, I heard from the people in their class that it was because Xiao Li's deskmate said bad things about Xiao Li in front of other classmates from time to time.
Once, a classmate kindly reminded Xiao Li, asking her not to say anything to her deskmate. Xiao Li didn't agree with it, thinking that such a good relationship was not important, and he said nothing. It was not until one day when she was going upstairs that she heard her deskmate telling other classmates about her family’s private affairs that Xiao Li understood why a classmate reminded her before.
Every time I get along with my deskmate, Xiao Li feels that she trusts her like her relatives. Even if her parents divorce and family discord, she will tell her deskmate about some things. However, she turns around and arranges Xiao Li’s family background, saying that she is not a good girl, etc.
As expected, sisters' plastic relationship. Xiao Li suddenly realized that she was just wishful thinking of her as a sister. She was just a person with one set of things in front of her. She pretended so well in front of her and said so well, but she just treated Xiao Li's affairs as topics. People like
obviously do not regard the other party as a real friend. If you are friends with her, you will only be constantly hurt. Therefore, adults should have their own basic judgment. If a person is really good to you, you can communicate with each other. When a person is just acting in front of you, there is no need to spend time with her to perform.
Adults should know that such people who are "one set in front of each other" are the most insidious, and staying away as soon as possible is the right choice.
2. People who look down on you and deliberately raise themselves
Compared with those who "face one thing behind the scenes", such people are openly disgusting.
You should know that when a person says nice things in front of you, he can't help but arrange your people behind his back, at least he is a little afraid of you. And people who look down on you and keep raising yourself often do not give you face on the surface and do not respect you at all.
There was a colleague before that. When he saw another colleague wearing leggings, he laughed at her legs for being bad in front of all the colleagues, saying that she was wearing this way like an aunt. The girl wearing leggings was flushed when she was said, but fortunately, other colleagues asked her back.
If you have such a name that is "rhythm" around you and do things that hurt you, then don't take into account the face between adults. They just step on your shortcomings and praise yourself.
Don’t worry about how good she was to you before, those who can speak rudely and insult you must stay away from her. There must be many right and wrong around such a person.
3. The person who blocked you is very good
I met a playmate who blocked my WeChat when I was a child. I felt quite uncomfortable at that time. After all, I played together in elementary and junior high school, and my family is close to me. But now I am working and not in the same city. What surprised me was that she actually blocked me.
Last week, thinking about going back to her hometown, so she sent a message to her childhood playmate, asking her if she would go back to her hometown during this period and that she could get together, but she didn't expect that the message could no longer be sent.
was very disappointed at the time, and was thinking about whether to add the other party back, asking why I blocked me and whether I had offended her. Later, I thought about it, there may not be long-term friendship in the adult world. People who have not been in contact for too long will eventually fade and new people will replace them.
If there are some people in your life circle who haven’t contacted each other for a long time, and they don’t even have WeChat, don’t force it anymore. After all, the relationship between adults is just a meeting in the end.
In life, we always meet some people who take them in their hearts, and they only regard themselves as passers-by. For such people, don’t have expectations.
The greatest cultivation of adults is to not have mother-in-law and mother when it is time to be "ruthless". When facing these kinds of people, don't interact with each other again.
